During the 2023 National Two Sessions, the topics that parents and teachers are concerned about are also hot education topics that the deputies and members are concerned about. Through nearly 20 years of offline guidance experience, I have summarized more than 3,000 successful cases of operation guidance, and also participated in it, hoping to help parents who are still in blind panic.
Recently, many parents in the school asked:
The new school has started, others are signing up for a new interest class, Teacher Ming, I want to sign up for another piano lesson for my child, I don't know if the piano is suitable for children to learn?
/ Teacher Ming, my child's dance class is almost finished, the child himself does not want to continue, I want to stop for the child? / Teacher, my child's classmates are learning to broadcast hosting, I don't know if I want to sign up my child?
During this time, I answered parents' questions I also made a summary, listed as the following, I like to give negative evidence, because many parents are familiar with me, what I hope is to be able to quickly and effectively remind them, try not to delay the normal growth of children.
At present, most parents are at a loss about their children's education, and often many behaviors have very vague factors that they are unwilling to say.
One, fear.
(1) Manifested as experiential education, parents may have some good reading and learning experience, father is responsible for cultural class learning, mother is responsible for art class development. Once there is something that has not been learned well, they begin to blame each other, and even blame each other when they are irritable.
(2) There is also to look ahead, educate children to use various tests, try this method in less than a week, and quickly change the next method. Try to find out that the children are from kindergarten to sixth grade.
(3) Then do not insist, whether the child or the parent, choose an interest or a learning method adults and children give up together. In the end, it is said that the child learns everything at once, or blame the child for not having talent in any way! As everyone knows, talent for us to choose, do not go to the end, do not use time to break through, we never know where the child's talent is, which aspect is suitable for the child.
All of the above is actually an extension of the fear of most of us parents in the first parenthood, not confident, worried that the cost of trial and error is too high. The essence of various tables is actually to take the child's good childhood trial and error.
Second, take shortcuts.
It is manifested as (1) copying others, looking at how the children of the neighbors are educated, how to share in the family committee, how to guide the excellent children in their own eyes, and recruiting them all to their own children, and not looking at the opportunities of various factors and conditions, and directly using them.
(2) Let go of the teacher, parents themselves are busy, the child is left at school and does not care, the child will call the teacher whenever there is a problem, the child's grades are not good, the child has a bad temper, a bad mood, and even poor health to ask the teacher what is going on at school. As everyone knows, we attribute all children's problems to two aspects: family education and school education, and the healthy growth of children is indispensable and needs to complement each other.
(3) Listen to freedom, obvious herd mentality, see how others are, there is a whole child who needs to grow up freely, and then begin to leave the child alone. Children always need guidance, they need methods, and it is not said that the way children grow up now is in the form of a free individual, which is dangerous.
This shortcut performance has the fear of the first part, and it also requires parents to be lazy in it. In the new era, we must be good knowledge parents, observation parents, and educational parents, of course, it is difficult, we also have to overcome many difficulties, and the social environment must be different. But many parents are now the least intellectually invested moves, which is also a sign of irresponsibility.
Third, good face, good teacher.
This aspect should be very hammering to human nature. But there are a lot of examples of this in the parents I talk to. The children are full around the clock, no matter what interests or projects, as long as there are projects that someone learns, she will be there. Then chat with any other parent friend is that the child and her pentathlon eighteen class martial arts are proficient, so that the vanity of two strokes can make such a parent sell all the child's childhood time.
The reason why the current education has been repeatedly pushed to a new height by the policy is because the social changes of the times are too fast, we need to adjust the system, strategy, methods and methods of education, and the status of family education will be pushed to a more important position. Then parents and friends, we must dare to remove the obstacles on our bodies, dare to face the new trend and the test of the new era, and guide our children to accompany their children to be healthy and happy with a firm and confident attitude!