Living in the sun, many people are on the verge of mental breakdown under the yoke of depression, and they are devastated in places we cannot see.
Life is so painful and difficult, so what is living for? How to find the meaning of being alive?
Guangzhou heard about psychological counseling with you into the inner world of depressed patients.
As long as you live, everything is possible
I remember the first time I had a depression onset, I went out of the house sadly, crying hysterically in front of my parents, and my thinking was very confused as I walked on the road, feeling that the billboard on my head would fall and smash me to death, and feeling that everyone on the road was watching me.
How sad and desperate I was at that time, looking forward to the coming of death, I was tired of everything, I hated everything.
Several suicides.
When I committed suicide by turning on the gas, my parents knelt in front of me, his eyes were full of tears, he begged me, he said that I only had one daughter, but I was still unmoved.
Dad begged me to live well, but why?
Why should I live well? What is good? I don't live well now, can't I choose to die?
No one answered my question.
When I committed suicide by jumping off the building, I stood in front of the nineteen-story window, said goodbye to the dead party, she sent me a message fiercely, I cried at the time, I really didn't understand, she said she didn't think I had depression as a victim, she let me live well, but I didn't understand.
When the police finally told my mother to come and take me home, she grabbed my wrist all the way and kept asking me why, why did I die?
So why live again? I've been thinking about this question, I'm not happy, do I have to live in pain?
At the time, I didn't know that I had a serious problem with my thinking, and this is the harm caused by depression...
It was really hopeless, so I searched the Internet for answers on why I should live, met a lot of friends during the process, and saw people who were once in a deep quagmire and are now doing well.
I don't know if they were glad they didn't die in order to enjoy the happiness they have now.
But I'm really lucky, I'm glad I found a professional counselor who gave me warmth and companionship.
I am even more grateful to my family and friends for their dedication to me.
Many people make themselves bruised in order to seek an answer, others can not experience your pain, can only let you live well, but the reason behind living well can not be explained clearly in two or three sentences.
Live well, for your parents? For friends? Or for good food? We can't tell.
Because everyone's pursuit is different, but everyone's pursuit is based on the same condition, that is, to live.
As long as you live, everything is possible. Isn't that interesting? What will happen in the next second, only living can know, the connection between the worlds is changing all the time, and whatever you do will change the direction of a thing about you.
Just for the pleasure of the moment, but also to live well
A wife was depressed during pregnancy, and her husband comforted her like this:
Life is not two parts: living and dying.
You can only live for decades, and you have to die for hundreds of millions of years. You think of the time after death as the daily state of life, and the short decades of living as a trip to Disneyland.
Since you can only come to play once, you can experience everything to your heart's content, don't worry, anyway, when it closes time, you will naturally leave Disney and return to your daily life.
Yes, you think that countless long days and nights are actually just a speck of dust in the universe.
Li Bihua wrote a passage,
"Life is only seventy, except for ten years of ignorance, ten years of old and weak, only fifty remains. Of those fifty, there were days and nights, and only twenty-five remained. When it's windy or rainy, sick, running around, how many good days are left?......
- It's better to laugh in front of your eyes. ”
You see, this sentence touches life so thoroughly, life is a hundred years, fleeting.
In this short life, you will experience youth, twilight years, love, marriage, betrayal, life and death.
There is too little time left for people to really live for themselves.
Even if it's just for immediate pleasure, live well.
Live not for any reason, just for yourself
Japanese writer Osamu Dazai once wrote:
I was expecting to die this winter, but recently I got a rat-gray four-striped linen kimono, which is best suited for summer, so I'd better live until summer first.
Although you live in such a muddle, what if something good happens tomorrow? So I'd better stay alive for now.
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and it is precisely because of suffering that those trivial happiness will shine like the stars in the dark night, shining like diamonds, illuminating the bleak future.
Life is too short, and the next life is not sought.
Actually, there are some things that you can decide for yourself, don't you?
Do not become a slave to emotions, do not get lost in chaos.
I can't tell you where to find joy, but life is full of all kinds of suffering, and the days when you don't have to bear the responsibility are actually a kind of happiness in itself.
Live not for any reason, just for yourself.
Wait until you wallow in the earth for decades, and time will tell the answer, you came for yourself, because life faded.
Despair, melancholy, pain, none of this can kill you.
Killing you makes you stronger, because as long as you live, you can always live better than at that time, and after terrible things happen, all your life is bouncing upward.
I live because I want to see the beauty of the world
The philosopher Plato said, "If life is worth living, it is to gaze at beauty." "Beauty can be all the beauty in life, looking at the stars, overlooking the flowers and plants, planting a tree with your own hands, writing a word and vassal elegance...
I heard that Iceland's aurora is blooming like a ghost, don't you want to see it?
Sitting in a hot air balloon in Turkey can make all your worries go away, don't want to try it?
The Eiffel Tower is spectacular!
……
The world is so big and big, I can't finish watching it in several lifetimes, how can I be willing to die?
Among the clients who come to seek professional psychological counseling, many depressed people cannot experience beauty, but they still try to look at the beauty and observe the beauty.
This is the value that comes from practice, and there is a belated, piled up joy at the moment when they can rediscover the good.
So, you can be an observer, a gaze. The day when you are no longer depressed is the day you are embraced by the rush of good values - when you can experience the beauty of multiplied and multiplied, which is the addition of once gazeing at beauty.
You can keep asking, "What's the point of being alive?"
So, the meaning of life is that you can keep asking, "What is the point of being alive?"
And at different stages of life, maybe the next second, you will have a completely different answer. The above colorful answers are the best answers to live well.
For many depressed people, or, it is difficult, like swimming in chaotic waters, everything around is suffocating, and it is easy to give up, just dive into the water and take a deep breath, and it will slowly fall.
Hold on, hold on a little longer, I know the pain of being on the verge of drowning, I know the contradiction that you are trapped in and hope that someone will redeem but you are willing to sink, but you know, the most important thing is that every second you hold on to yourself, a little farther, it will be a pure sea.
I hope you can fight it with every second of perseverance, I know every second is difficult, but for you, it is already a great effort.
"In the cold winter, I finally know that I have an invincible summer in me"
May there be a pure sea and a summer in your hearts.
Hear about the conclusion of psychological counseling:
Depression may be related to certain experiences, such as having strong uneasiness or painful emotions, which can leave a psychological shadow and make you unable to be happy; There may be injuries, including injuries that you don't remember being aware of, because some injuries may be very early and strong.
Find the source through professional psychological counseling, go back to the past, go back to the moment, re-deal with it and solve it, so that it will be really good.
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