Why do we always tear the heart of the person who does not care about himself, but arbitrarily squanders the true heart of the person who regards you as a treasure.
Many times, love or not love, it is really so obvious.
The matter of feelings is as the writer Qiyannian said:
"Feelings are like a glass of wine, the first person touched and spilled, there was still half left, I lifted the cup up, mixed, left for the second person, he touched and spilled again, I still lifted up, full, left for the third person." 」 In this way, the feelings are getting weaker and weaker. ”
The person we really love may not be that we don't love you, but that we don't know how to love anymore.
However, whether he does not love or will not love, the feedback we get is the same hurt and helplessness.
Love that does not ask for anything in return, there is, but rare.
No one can do those things that have no return for a long time, and no one can live a good life in self-comfort and daily jealousy.
The two feelings in the relationship are the best mode of getting along, even if there are contradictions and differences, there are two people working together to resolve. And unilateral persistence, once encountered ups and downs, is the most powerless.
In love, there will always be someone who will "reply to the message" for you, and there will always be someone who will "turn a blind eye" to you.
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The female writer Maggie once said: Everything in this world can be endured, such as hunger, such as pain, only two things cannot be tolerated, one is coughing, the other is love.
It's not that this person is idle, it's just that he can't help but give back after seeing your message. He is afraid that you will wait for a long time and be anxious, he is afraid that your problems will not be solved and troubled, and he is afraid that you will not get his answer and worry.
In this fast-paced era, time is not enough luxury for everyone. People who are willing to spend your time are people who have you in their hearts.
He values the feelings between you, he will set you to the top of WeChat, he cares about your every message, and even cares about the attitude of your friends around you to you.
Waiting is a very painful thing, and the person who loves you will not let you wait too long. Behind the second-to-back message is his care and deep love for you that you can't hide.
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Yi Shu wrote in "Thank You for Leaving Me":
"One day, you'll smile at the pain of the past. You will thank the man who left you, who is not worthy of your love, your goodness, your obsession. After all, he was not the one who was destined. Fortunately he wasn't. ”
Everything in our lives will not be satisfactory, and those who do not care about you and turn a blind eye to your news are those who do not have you in their hearts.
Without replying to the message, there is a high probability that there is a problem: he has no feelings for you anymore. He doesn't care about your waiting, doesn't care about the tears you shed in your heart, and he can't see the hurt in your eyes.
In his heart, there are always other things that are more important than replying to your message, and a person who sees you in his heart is not able to keep not contacting you.
People who care about you are afraid that they will miss any news about you, and people who don't care about you will deliberately block you and feel that your presence is a kind of disturbance.
In the face of this unavoidable situation, the most effective thing we can do is to start from ourselves.
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"The Vanishing Lover" says: "Marriage is about compromising with each other, managing hard, then working harder, communicating and compromising, and then another round of management." ”
There are always people in this world who don't love you, and there are always people who will love you. Try to open your heart, you touch, you accept. Perhaps, you will go into a different world.
Don't settle down first, love or not. Understand before you make a decision. Accepting new feelings is not for the person who pursues you, but to give yourself a chance to sink into the feelings.
When you understand a person squarely, and then say yes or no, good or bad, suitable or not, is the most objective, the most regretless.
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Zhang Xiaoxian said in "Later I Learned to Love Myself":
No matter how many people you have loved, no matter how painful or happy you have loved, in the end, you have learned not how to fall in love, but how to love yourself. ”
The world is not to pay will be rewarded, the reality is that the more humble people, the more they can not get the other party's cherishing.
Life is only once and only once, and being the best version of yourself is a successful life.
You can never touch someone who doesn't love you, just as you can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep. Love is not the whole of life, and there is not only love in life.
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