There is a famous marriage secret: "No matter how loving a couple is, there are 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 impulses to strangle each other in their lives." ”
That is to say, the word "divorce" is really not a new word in the relationship between husband and wife, but all real couples must have said this sentence.
But if your significant other can get divorced 100 times in a day, do you think such a marriage can continue?
It is estimated that the only person who can deal with such a difficult problem is the German man Uwe.
Who is Uwe? Indeed, almost no one knows his name alone. However, when you mention the woman who told him 100 divorces a day, everyone understands.
This woman is an earlier actress in the domestic entertainment industry, and she has a smooth star path and is charming before she got married. She has acted in "Lilies", "Night Shanghai", "An Unfinished Game of Chess"...
That's right, this person is actor Shen Danping.
One was born in 1960, successfully entered the Beijing Film Academy all the way, entered marriage at the age of 23, and became the first Chinese female star to marry a foreigner.
In fact, in recent years, Shen Danping has not played many roles, but in the 80s and 90s of the 20th century, she was a very popular actress, even more popular than Zhang Tielin.
Why compare Shen Danping with Zhang Tielin? Because she was a student of the Beijing Film Academy with Zhang Tielin when she was 22 years old, the two quickly became lovers because of their talented appearance.
It's just that the actor's life is not controlled by himself, and the two young people who were originally inseparable from each other had to live apart for many years in order to shoot films.
Shen Danping looks quiet and quiet, but in fact, her personality is flamboy, and she has been a tomboy since she was a child. Faced with the reality that she could not get together with Zhang Tielin, she was very unhappy.
In the end, both of them seemed to be tired of this kind of days of gathering less and separating more, and a good relationship ended without a problem. For this reason, Shen Danping was very sad for a while.
In the summer of 1983, Shen Danping accidentally met the German Uwei. He is a photographer who loves Chinese culture and moved to China in 1974.
There are many bridges about Shen Danping and Wuwei's acquaintance, some say they met at a banquet, some say they met on the street, and some say they met by chance in the cinema. But anyway, they met in the water.
Uwei is 14 years older than Shen Fanping, initially attracted by her beautiful and generous appearance, and later fascinated by her straightforward personality. Coming and going, Wuwei and Shen Danping became a very strange combination in the eyes of others at that time: Chinese and foreign lovers.
After 3 months of acquaintance, Uwe asked for marriage. But Shen Danping felt that the time was too fast, so she asked him: "Do you love me?" ”
In the eighties of the 20th century, it absolutely surprised Uwe that a Chinese girl could be so bold and open.
However, he did not directly reply to Shen Danping's question, but said bluntly:
"I don't have time to fall in love now, if I still want to be together, I have to get married, because my visa will expire soon, and if you don't want to get married, I can only go back to China."
Shen Danping was only 23 years old at the time, and her career had just begun, just when she was famous, of course, she didn't want to get married so early. Uwe listened to her opinion and turned away directly, without saying goodbye.
Shen Danping was so angry that she decided to break up with Uwei when she returned to the dormitory. But when he opened the door the next morning, he found Uwei, who had not slept all night, standing at his door.
"Whether you marry me or not, I can't live without you."
U Wei surrendered on the spot and held Shen Danping firmly in his arms. Shen Danping was also moved, and even decided to marry Uwei.
Because of this marriage, Shen Danping still paid a lot.
In those days, marrying a foreigner was definitely a challenge. After Shen Danping's parents knew their daughter's decision, they only had one saying: "Either follow him or break up." But follow him and never come back, we should only be without your daughter. ”
Of course, Shen Danping eventually followed Uwei, and she went to Germany with Uwei, where she gave birth to her daughter. It's just that the gap between the two countries made Shen Danping doubt his original decision more than once.
It is precisely because of this that Shen Danping is almost obsessed with divorce. But Wuwei is an absolute model husband, washing clothes, cooking, taking children, no matter what, Shen Danping does not need to do anything.
Interestingly, Shen Dan really couldn't find the reason for the quarrel with Uwei, so he was vexatious: originally the two planned to move, but after cleaning up all day during the day, she didn't move things downstairs until the evening, and she suddenly said: "Don't move, I'm too tired." Then she went straight back to her room to sleep.
What would you do if you changed to another man? Anyway, Uwe didn't say a word, you sleep your sleep, I'll move things back again. When Shen Danping woke up the next day, the home was the same as before.
Even so, Shen Danping still divorced Uveti, and in an interview, she said that she once filed a record of 100 divorces in one day after marriage.
Such a marriage is almost inseparable in the eyes of everyone. After all, you always put divorce on your lips, so what mind is there to live?
But the fact is that Shen Danping and Wuwei have lived together for 39 years, and they have always been in love, and their two daughters have long grown up, and they still have not divorced.
For this reason, Shen Danping's parents must also find it strange, right? Anyway, later, after the daughter's family moved back to China from Germany, they slowly accepted their daughter's choice.
Shen Danping believes that he has met a man who can never divorce, and Wuwei has almost 100% tolerated him. It's not just perfect love, but of course Uwe's own personality.
Once, Shen Danping and Uwei took their daughter back home from Germany, opened the door and saw that the house was full of dust, the luggage was not opened, the child was hungry and crying, and Shen Danping was physically and mentally exhausted.
But at this time, looking at Uwei, he was rummaging through a duffel bag. Shen Danping was angry and asked her husband: "What do you want to do?" ”
U Wei must not mind his wife's violent temper, and looked at Shen Danping gently: "Honey, shouldn't we drink a glass of champagne?" ”
Shen Danping almost died of anger after hearing this sentence, but before she could get her temper out, U Wei actually poured a glass of champagne and brought it to her, and even found a rag, wiped the table and sofa in front of her, and pressed it directly on the sofa and sat down.
Such a man is probably the nemesis who cures Shen Danping's quick temper, right? Anyway, she was really not angry, and after sitting down, the whole person felt quiet, and directly drank champagne slowly with Uwei.
The so-called one thing down one thing, whether it is marriage or everything, is actually this truth.
After Shen Danping married Uwei, although the shooting opportunities were greatly reduced, she had a marriage that made her feel very worthwhile every time she thought of it.
Now married for 39 years, Uwei still has no temper in front of her, and even because he feels that he did not give his wife a decent wedding that year, he also specially made up a wedding for her.
Such a marriage, probably Shen Danping will not really divorce if she says a thousand divorces.