"Don't Tell Her"

You must have heard the word white lie, and you must have been deceived by white lies, which should be a wonderful thing.

Today I watched a movie called "Don't Tell Her," about a girl who was born in China but followed her parents to live in the United States at a very young age.

Her name is Billy, when she was a child in China, Billie had more contact with her grandparents and had a deep affection, and those days were the most beautiful memories of Billy's childhood. Now, Grandma has been diagnosed with advanced lung cancer for only three months.

Grandma's side is only an elderly wife who was found later, and it is only a spiritual partner who relies on each other. There is also grandma's sister, from grandma's medical treatment to the diagnosis results, it is this sister who accompanies her, and it is also this sister who tells this news to two sons living abroad.

After Billy's parents learned of this news, they consulted with Billy's uncle's family living in Japan, hid her illness from her grandmother, and on the grounds that her uncle's son planned to return to China to hold a wedding, the relatives all went back to get together and finally see Grandma.

For Billie, I am afraid that she will not be able to control her emotions and keep secrets, but just inform her to let her study and work well in the United States and not worry about her grandmother. As Billie, on the one hand, her relationship with her grandmother is very good, and when her grandfather died, she also regretted that billy could not see the last side of her grandfather because of her parents' concealment. On the other hand, a child who grew up in the United States, educated in Western culture from an early age, believes that everyone is wrong to hide her illness, and that it is her right for Grandma to know that her illness is hers. She did not listen to her parents' arrangement and returned to China.

At this time, the grandmother was discussing with the whole family and preparing for her grandson's wedding. Grandma's words and demeanor are all about her children and grandchildren.

Under the help of grandma, a fake wedding was held very successfully. At the same time, Grandma's condition further deteriorated, but the family chose to hide it.

In just a few short days, Billie also saw that in the context of Chinese culture, her family's understanding of life and another interpretation of lies slowly changed her view of the matter.

Billy's uncle said it well, in traditional Chinese culture, life does not belong to one individual, it belongs to a collective. One's pain and suffering can be shared by one's relatives; not all lies are wrong, and there is a white lie that can reduce negative energy for others and convey positive energy. Maybe this kind of idea is only found in China, and it is engraved in our blood.

Grandma also concealed her physical condition with white lies during the medical treatment, so as not to affect the lives of her children.

In the subtitle at the end of the film, it is written that Grandma lived another 6 years after diagnosis, and life is so wonderful.

What should we do next, mentality is so important, what should our brains think every day?