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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > introduction</h1>
When a person is deceived by his dearest one, the most extreme pain in life arises. - "Dear Sanmao"
Lies, the world is always full of lies.
Many people may hate lies or disgusting lies, but do they wonder if lies also have their own unique benefits?
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > "Don't Tell Her."</h1>
The story takes place in the United States and China, and between these two countries, a journey of white lies for family members is about to begin.
An old grandmother, she is over the age of old, she has many children and grandchildren under her knees, but she is now suffering from an incurable disease, only the family who took her to the examination knows, and she has no feelings.
In order not to stimulate her, let her have a glimmer of hope of survival.
And her granddaughter, who is also the heroine, grew up in the United States since she was a child, and she is deeply influenced by American thinking, and she wants to tell her grandmother that she is actually still in the dark, in fact, she is running out of time.
But he was stopped by his family, who thought he had to use lies to accompany his grandmother through her last years.
Subsequently, the family pretended to hold a big wedding in Japan for Grandma's eldest grandson, wanting to make Grandma happy, but by chance, there were many mistakes, and a mixture of red and white joys that were ridiculous began to unfold.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >, behind the white lies in the movie</h1>
1. Behind the white lie is a piece of kindness
In fact, the direct reason here is out of good intentions.
For example, if your good friend does a poor job on the test, will you immediately tell him about your results as a good friend?
And if your own family member is seriously ill, do you want to tell him or her this bad news to make him or her heart break more, or tell him that there is no big problem at all, and his health is very good, so that the other party can be better?
In fact, telling others bad news, as long as it is a relatively familiar person, who will not tolerate it, so in order to maintain this harmonious relationship, we must often use white lies.
2. Behind the white lie is the love for Grandma
If we say that we are ordinary people, we will not make up a huge white lie to deceive each other, make the other party feel better, at best, do not tell them bad news, or simply use lies to perfunctory.
However, there is only one type of person who deserves our great efforts, and it is worth the family in the movie to invest a lot of financial and material resources to do a fake wedding, and that is the person we love.
If the family does not love grandma, why would they be willing to spend so much money?
In fact, being loved and deceived by other people in this way is, in a sense, also a kind of happiness for Grandma, because she is surrounded by love.
3. Behind the white lie is the reluctance of grandma
Behind the white lies, in addition to love, there is also reluctance.
Reluctance is not the same as love, but is a more direct embodiment of love.
You say you love someone, and when the other person is embarrassed or wants to leave you, you are indifferent, and it is difficult to make people feel that you really love the other person.
Conversely, if you are reluctant to the other person, then you are likely to truly love the other person.
Reluctance is a very strong feeling, and we can see a strong love from the reluctance.
The family members are reluctant to watch Grandma leave in the truth of the disease, and they are reluctant to see Grandma in a state of serious illness and no passion for life, so they must weave a love lie.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, the power of affection between love and reluctance</h1>
1. Love is synonymous with family affection
Love and affection are always closely linked and completely seamless with each other.
Affection without love is not called kinship, it is called blood relations; love without affection without love is called the legal responsibility of society.
This is the relationship between love and affection.
We often use love as a synonym and the best spokesperson for family affection, and indeed in family affection, what we need most and want most is to see love.
This love, whether big or small, can be the love of parents and mothers, the love of grandparents, or the love of brothers and sisters.
In short, the water of affection will not dry up without love.
2. Reluctance is the standard of family affection
How deep my love is, how long my concern and reluctance are. - "How Much Do You Know About Flowers in Your Dreams"
If you say that your affection is higher than the mountains and deeper than the sea, what do you take to prove it?
When your father is about to leave his family to work, but he does not see you coming to say goodbye, will he still want others to think that he is very affectionate?
What you lack is not to give up.
If you are not willing to give up your relatives, do not want them to suffer hardships, do not want them to go away from your side, your affection can be considered weighty.
Indeed, the people we are reluctant to are often the people we love, the people we like, the people we are willing to give our emotions for, and this is especially true in family affection.
3. Love and reluctance are family affection in the broad and narrow senses respectively
Love is affection, and reluctance is also affection.
Love is a broad sense of affection, because there are many kinds of love in affection, and love is often expressed in various forms in affection.
Your parents righteously tell you that you should not risk doing this profession, you should not go bungee jumping, which is a kind of affectionate love, and when you are sick, your parents tell you that you are actually not in serious trouble, which is also a kind of love.
Love is easy to integrate, it is a very abstract element of affection.
And not giving up is a narrow sense of family affection.
The reason why reluctance is narrow is because it is a form of love, you say that you do not give up a person, how to prove it?
Of course, it is to see your unwilling moves, and your actions are often single, either from the look in your eyes, or directly let everyone witness your unwilling moves.
So, how do you coordinate and maximize the effectiveness of the way of love?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > three, love way to parse</h1>
1. The way of loving affection
1) You can't play your temper in front of your relatives
Many people, especially young people, study and work outside, as soon as they return home, they will throw all the anger they have received outside on their families, and they think that it is natural for their families to be reprimanded by themselves, and it will not be done anyway.
It is true that you are playing a temper in front of your family, and your family is likely to be blameless in the past, but don't you think that such a performance is very incompetent?
You have a temper, you have the ability to provoke your people to lie, you have the ability to convince those who make you unhappy, why do you have to deal with your family like this?
2) Your loved ones may be the only people in the world who are "loyal" to you
Don't think that your family is dispensable, if you lose your temper outside, it is likely that everyone will collectively target you, and your friends may betray you.
Only your family will not, because your family really loves you too much, so they will always be loyal to you.
Cherish your family and cherish this fate of complete loyalty.
2. The way of loving friendship
1) Your friend is not your trash can
In the same way, if you are angry outside, can you throw gas at your friends?
Can you be difficult for your friends everywhere?
Your friend, even if the relationship is good, is not your punching bag, your friend's duty is to share joy and happiness with you, not to be your trash can all the time, not a catharsis station for your negative energy.
In the long run, even the best friends will feel tired, tired and deeply disappointed in you.
2) Your friends are not a springboard for your interests
You love your friend, not to use each other's resources, nor to use each other's feelings to let you vent well.
If you love your friend because of this, then I believe that soon after, your friend will also find out about this and will slowly move away from you.
3. The way of loving love
1) Your lover is not a pawn of your desires
Your lover's position is the companion who accompanies you for a lifetime, not a tool and pawn for you to vent your desires.
Your lover is the one you spend your life with, not the one who satisfies your vanity, not the one who meets some of your emotional or physical needs.
What you need more is to love each other spiritually.
2) Your lover also needs white lies
Should lovers talk about everything?
In fact, it is not necessary, sometimes we should not tell the truth, not all the truth.
Your lover's sadness does not need your truth to fight, but sometimes you also need your white lies to rekindle his faith.
In summary, behind the white lie is more love and reluctance, love and reluctance are important forces of family affection.
In the world of love, we should pay attention not only to family affection, but also to love and friendship.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
The ways of love are ever-changing, and white lies are an element that cannot be ignored, and the world is not completely missing because of lies, but sometimes white lies are also tools to help us understand love.
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