The 13-year-old boy lived alone for 66 days to feed himself and cats and dogs, and his mother was relieved, but netizens raised the bar in the comment area

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The 13-year-old boy lived alone for 66 days, not only taking online classes as required, but also feeding himself and his family's cats and dogs fat. Mom felt distressed and relieved, but netizens raised the bar in the comment area.

Ms. Zhu and her husband in Suzhou, Jiangsu Province, were sealed in Shanghai, and her 13-year-old son lived alone in Suzhou, and he did not think about it, and he lived for 66 days at once.

Boys used to be unable to even boil water, and their ability to take care of themselves was worrying. In the beginning, his parents would order him takeout and teach him to cook some simple meals through videos. Later, boys can solve problems on their own, sometimes eating takeaway, sometimes cooking their own meals, and mastering more and more skills.

After all, it is a junior high school student, the learning task is very heavy, and the online class and homework are very busy. Without helpers, he ate and drank well and fattened a cat and a dog. At the same time, not only feeding the pets, but also bathing them and changing their urine pockets, all of which are well taken care of.

Although the home is a bit chaotic, Ms. Zhu does not want to be angry at all when she sees such a scene, and she is both sad and relieved. Also a mother of an adolescent child, I feel that it is very good for boys to do this, and it is worthy of praise.

Many netizens also think: If you don't force your child, you don't know how good he is. It is not that children cannot be separated from their parents, but parents cannot be separated from their children. It's not that the child won't, it's that we didn't give him a chance. It is the parents who delay the development of their children!

But there are also netizens who have made different voices.

It is time to live independently at the age of 13, children in the seventies and eighties, but also to bring younger brothers and sisters, less than 10 years old to go up the mountain to cut firewood is not unusual.

13-year-old can not be called "little boy" it, I was 13 years old in the second year of junior high school, but also a market stall to hire people to earn money, a person living alone for 66 days is not a big deal.

When I was 13 years old, I had to help my parents work in the fields, cook a big meal, and feed the pigs and chickens.

13-year-old life is self-care, but also worthy of a big book.

There are countless voices like this, as a post-70s generation, I also know that the past 13-year-old children, self-care ability, labor ability is indeed very strong. But now that parents have changed the way they educate their children, it is not easy for boys to adapt quickly with almost zero foundation. This event cannot be compared with the general environment of the past.

Boys can learn from scratch and master some cooking skills, indicating that the learning ability and hands-on ability are very strong. The boy was able to complete various learning tasks and did not lie flat because he did not have parental supervision, indicating that his self-discipline was very good. The boy not only takes care of himself, but also takes good care of the cats and dogs, and the green plants in the home are still alive, indicating that he is very responsible. Being alone for 66 days is a huge challenge for adults, and there are many people who feel miserable. And the boy can withstand loneliness, life is full of taste, indicating that the mentality is very good.

When we see this phenomenon, we are not in a hurry to raise the bar and deny it, but to reflect on the past and plan for the future. It's time to teach your child some of the necessary skills to adapt to unexpected situations.

The ability to cook

We all know that from September onwards, primary and secondary schools will start to learn to cook, and I don't think we have to wait until school to teach, but we have to teach our children now.

The most fundamental problem that cooking can solve is the problem of survival, and children cannot rely entirely on takeaways. Is takeaway to taste? Does takeaway ensure adequate nutrition? Can the takeaway be delivered in time? These may have uncertainties, and only their own doing is the most reliable.

While solving the problem of food and clothing, cooking can also exercise hands-on ability, cultivate a sense of responsibility, improve cognition, enhance the love of life, and have a good role in promoting personality, academic performance, and interpersonal communication.

Cooking is not difficult for children, and the biggest obstacle is that parents dare not let go. We must be willing to use children, dare to let children try, teach children to learn to operate various utensils, and make simple dishes. As long as the child has hands, the ability to cook is stronger than we think.

The ability to organize

The only problem the boy didn't solve well was that things in the house were a bit messy and didn't generalize. This is actually a common problem of many children, children do not like to tidy up things, after using things to throw away, make a mess of the room. They themselves feel safe in the chaos, and the chaos doesn't stop them from finding things.

In fact, chaos can upset yourself to a certain extent, affect your emotions, spend more time looking for things, and may lead to unnecessary waste.

"Hold on! Don't Meddle" mentions that the things in the drawer are the same as the things in the head. There are many similarities between putting together the complex information of life and putting it in the drawer, and putting things in a drawer.

Sorting out things is also exercising the brain, improving their logical thinking ability, sorting out things, and also sorting out various information, which has a positive role in promoting life and learning.

Let the child have a sense of tidying up from an early age, such as returning things to the position after using things. You must learn the methods of sorting, such as classifying things and placing them neatly, so that the home environment is orderly. We intervene less, children have consciousness and methods, and they will develop good tidying habits.

The solitude mentality

The boy was able to stay alone for 66 days, which is very positive. There are many children who have been at home for too long and have no communication environment, and become depressed and depressed. Many adults also said that they were crazy at home and wanted to go out to breathe.

Solitude is actually a special ability to cultivate, children who are good at solitude will use every minute and second to the fullest, even if they are alone all day, and their hearts are very full of happiness without being bored and bored.

Zhou Guoping said that all soul life in the strict sense is carried out when alone.

Psychologically, those who have experienced solitude are clearer and more agile. Because in this process, they carry out the internal integration of thought and spirit, and external impressions and experiences are digested by the self, and the self is independent and complete.

In fact, children also like to be alone, as long as they have favorite toys, favorite books, like things to do, they can stay quietly alone. We must give the child the opportunity to be alone, but also help the child find what he loves, so that he can slowly hone himself in solitude. If one day, the child has to be alone, he will also face it calmly.

epilogue

13-year-old boys can live well alone for 66 days, and the most important thing we should do is to learn from them, rather than rushing to raise the bar and deny, we do a good job of reflection, the children can benefit from it.

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