She was diagnosed with depression and can she return to her former state?

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I heard that the director of the psychological counseling center is a psychological counselor and a national family education instructor - Zheng Qijuan

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Xiao Ji is a well-behaved girl, and before the teacher called to tell her about self-harm, her parents never dreamed that her daughter would suffer from depression.

Once, in the eyes of many people, Xiao Ji was "someone else's child", gentle and polite, lively and outgoing, with a wide range of interests and excellent grades.

From childhood to adulthood, he is both excellent in character and learning, and has been unanimously praised by teachers. In the year of entering the third year of high school, parents found that there were some problems in Xiao ji's body, gratuitous vomiting, tiredness, insomnia and emaciation, and could not find out the problem when they went to the hospital. Unexpectedly, just after stepping into the university campus, I received this call from the teacher.

In the hearts of parents, Xiao Ji has always been very worry-free. Because her parents are very busy at work, Xiao Ji grew up with her grandmother. Grandma was a senior teacher, strict with children, and educated Xiao ji very sensibly.

The most obvious thing is that parents have almost never seen Xiao Ji lose his temper, and when he sees his parents angry, Xiao Ji will also take the initiative to comfort him. Therefore, Xiao Ji has many friends, and she is also very accustomed to caring for and paying for her friends.

When Xiao Ji was diagnosed with depression, her grandmother and parents were shocked, and then put down various standards and requirements for Xiao Ji, and Xiao Ji was finally able to stare in a daze and no longer had to hide and convulse and cry. Don't even smile when you are full of pain.

Xiao Ji told me that from the time she was in high school, she found that she had emotional problems. There was a black hole deep inside, and she felt scared, lonely, helpless.

He was taught by his grandmother since he was a child, he could not cry, and he could not lose his temper, Xiao Ji did not know how to deal with these emotions, nor did he dare to tell others, and only knew how to hide this emotion in the depths of his heart, on the surface he was still the lively and optimistic girl.

However, the black hole did not disappear, she was getting more and more tired, and all kinds of discomfort appeared in her body. Man seems to be divided into two opposite parts, one is facing the self of others, and the other is the solitary self.

Finally, one day, Xiao Ji cut himself with a blade, and the physical pain gave the soul a moment of peace.

After being diagnosed with depression, Xiao Ji instead felt relieved. The passive self that was alone was finally liberated and accepted by his family and school.

When her family accompanied her to treat depression, she was not willing in her heart, feeling like an old friend of depression, bringing pain but not wanting to leave it.

Once upon a time, Xiao Ji was a man who was deprived of the right to suffer. Pain is undoubtedly a very torturous feeling, but "not allowing pain" is a worse thing.

Grandma's education allows Xiao Ji to form a distorted perception of emotions: pain is not painful, it is your rational intelligence that determines and reverses it. Because suffering is wrong, you have to correct it, change it.

Xiao Ji has buried her sadness in her heart since she was a child, and she is afraid that she will be rejected by the people around her when she appears, so she will neither express nor ask for help. Over time, negative emotions accumulate in the heart and become more and more intense.

We know that everyone aspires to be themselves. At the same time, some collective ideas in society interfere with us to be ourselves.

For example, it is right to be positive, and it is wrong not to be positive and not positive. People who lack inner strength will take the judgment of the outside world as the standard, and at the same time cannot accept the conclusion of "I am wrong", so if "I am sick" is replaced by "I am wrong", the heart can settle down.

Therefore, the identity of "depression" gives Xiao Ji a legitimate reason for pain, her sadness is allowed, and her feelings and thoughts can be expressed. Xiao Ji was also able to remove his mask and let himself live authentically.

Depression gives Xiao Ji the courage to be herself and gives her a special sense of security.

If you suffer from depression and don't want to get better at the same time. Can you be aware of your heart: are you at ease staying in depression? If the answer is yes, then depression gives you not only pain, but also a sense of security that is missing in life.

Zheng Qijuan

Lead Consultant

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