Life is getting better and better today, but it's also getting busier.
Being positive is a good thing, but it is easy to ignore your inner feelings when you are busy.
People often say "busy and idle", which is to figure out a "slow" word.
Life is only called "living a life" if it slows down, and the slower the life, the more blessed it is.
1. Slow life, there is a taste
A time management expert said:
"We are in an era of selling health to time and stress. Busyness, especially the harm caused by psychological busyness, may be beyond our imagination, and that kind of sleepless work is a suicidal life. ”
Deeply.
Too many people become busy for their careers and become numb in their busyness.
Being busy can make more money, but it is easy to ignore your inner feelings.
Just as too many people are busy looking down at work now, they forget to look up at the stars.
People are not only robots who know how to work, slow down appropriately, give their emotions a holiday, and live up to the hard years.
Artist Feng Zikai is a person who lives a slow life, he used to travel back and forth between Hangzhou and Shimen, only two or three hours of journey, but he chose to take a boat and spend two or three days.
The boat will pass through Fuyan Temple, Chongfu, Marijuana, Bolu, Wuhang and other places, he enjoys the scenery on the boat during the day, hangs out on the shore at night, and can play for a day.
"When we are struggling for life, life has left us."
The real life is not about being exhausted, but about knowing how to rest.
Slow down, it is rest.
"Once upon a time the sun was slow, cars, horses, and mail were slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime."
Life is a long road from here to there, in the past we walked slowly, the soul and the body walked together, and now the pace is faster, but the soul is left behind.
Slow life may earn less, but you can synchronize your heart with your body, feel the great rivers and mountains, the years are long, and you can feel the slow and leisurely days.
Life, only slow down can taste; people, slow down can be considered alive.
2. Have money to spend slowly
After graduating from junior high school, Zou Wen went to Guangzhou to work, and in his twenties he opened an electronics factory and became the richest man in the village.
However, when he was in his thirties, he fell in love with gambling, often mixed with some casinos, and could not extricate himself.
In just two years, he lost all his money and lost the electronics factory to others.
From a millionaire to a debt-ridden, Zou Wencai suddenly realized that in a lifetime, without money, it is difficult to walk and suffer.
In the past few years, because Zou Wen was in debt, his wife had left him, and his children did not recognize him.
During the New Year, his parents also called him a "loser".
He did not dare to go to the homes of relatives and friends to pay respects to the New Year, and he did not have a face to see.
In the end, when will it be possible to make a comeback, Zou Wen has no bottom in his heart, and he has no confidence at all.
Smart people, make money very hard, spend money is busy.
The frugal life does not seem to be happy enough, but is actually very happy. Coarse tea and light rice are also delicious, and coarse cloth clothes are also warm. When you make money at a slower rate than you spend money, you will have more deposits. In these years, having a deposit is the confidence of being a person.
3. Talk slowly
As the saying goes: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June." ”
A person, who does not use his brain and is always straight-talking, is so easy to offend people. Some words are originally meant to help others, but not necessarily others will appreciate it, but will blame you for talking nonsense. Because talking offends people, it is also a troublesome thing, and it will also make yourself unhappy.
Some time ago, a friend of mine regretted that he had offended people because of his words.
That day my friend went to work, and on the way, he encountered someone pouring water down from the third floor, and his sleeves were all wet.
He was furious, and after going to work, he couldn't calm down to deal with the work.
A colleague next to him ran over to share yesterday's funny story with him, but the friend listened more and more annoyed, blurting out a sentence: "Noisy, why do you have so much nonsense!" ”
My friend told me that in fact, after saying that sentence, he regretted it, but what is the use of regret, the gap already exists.
Learn to take responsibility for your words so that you don't let emotions dominate your brain. When everyone encounters bad emotions, rational people know how to suppress their emotions and try not to let their bad emotions affect their work and life.
Not letting our emotions turn into a knife in our mouths hurts people is our greatest respect for others.
4. Do things slowly
When we do things, in a panic, we are always prone to mistakes.
Although it is said that "the wisdom of the rush", but such a situation, there is always less, most people, are more and more anxious, and even lead to career losses.
Truly mature people are steady people, not in a hurry, and do things very methodically.
My friend Li Heng, he always does things "slow and half-beat", many people laugh at him for "grinding foreign workers", and he has not been out of the future.
However, Li Heng has never changed his slow personality.
After graduating from college, he started a farm. His farm business has been good because of the affordable price, but as people's demands on the quality of tourism have become higher and higher, the business has declined.
Li Heng went to many places to investigate, and seriously thought about how to attract customers.
Now, Li Heng has changed the farm into a homestay, and he has designed a lot of "slow life" elements himself, paying great attention to the details of decoration.
Sometimes, the placement of some flowers and grasses must be considered for half a day. In the summer, when people are impetuous, they suddenly walk into a place of slow life, which feels like a kind of enjoyment.
Li Heng's "take it slowly" has brought him more income.
Slowness is a kind of enjoyment, but also a kind of success. The really powerful people are not in a hurry to work, rush to work, and stay up late every day to work overtime, but calmly go to work, leave work on time and on time, and rarely go to overtime. Those who work overtime don't necessarily make more money and don't have any happiness at all.
5. Have feelings slowly pass
I saw a video not long ago
Uncle Xu, 74, carries a box full of silk scarves and ornaments to take pictures of his 70-year-old wife.
In the video, the big mother stands for a while posing pose, and then trotts up again, constantly changing her posture. The uncle followed closely, bending down to hold up the camera and taking pictures of his wife.
In the open suitcase on the side, you can see a box full of various silk scarves and ornaments.
And these are all props that Big Mama uses to take pictures.
Uncle said: "When I was young, I was busy at work, and now I have time to retire. She likes to walk around outside, so I have to accompany her.
When he said this, the uncle smiled spoiledly, and the aunt was also happy.
Uncle Xu and his wife in the video seem to be a realistic version of "she is making trouble, he is laughing".
Even though you and I are both white-haired, you are still the most beautiful in my eyes.
Years are merciless, love is eternal.
It is not that there is affection when you are old, but that there are lovers who slowly grow old.
We often say "look back and smile a hundred beautiful lives", in fact, husband and wife get along, the moment of looking back, represents "a thousand words".
Blessed people, with their loved ones, slowly enjoy the blessings, and will not make a mess of life. When both people get older, life is slower. Watching the sunset together, going home side by side, buying vegetables and cooking together, the movement is very slow, but very sweet and heartwarming.
6. The slower the days, the more blessed they are
What is the best second half of life? Probably just a blessing.
But there is a premise for enjoying happiness, that is, to idle and slow down.
If you are always busy, busy, and at work, you cannot enjoy blessings.
Only those who dare to slow down have a chance to enjoy happiness.
In The Art of Living, Lin Yutang writes:
"Let me be friends with the grass and trees, and be close to the soil, I have felt satisfied." My soul was squirming comfortably in the dirt and I felt happy. ”
Isn't this kind of life of friendship with grass and soil exactly the slow life we aspire to?
The same grass and soil, when the pace of life becomes faster, grass and trees are decorations, and the soil will stain shoes; but when the pace of life becomes slower, grass and trees are nature, and soil is vitality.
A person's happiness does not depend on wealth and status, but on the way he treats life.
When the days are slowing down, the grass and trees have colors, the soil has breath, the birds and animals have emotions, even if they are beggars, they can feel beautiful in nature.
The ancients said: "If you want to be fast, you can't reach it."
Life is not a blind pursuit of speed, but know how to slow down, in a drink and a peck, taste the taste of life.
If he spends his whole life running for his life, just to reach the end, but ignores the feelings of the soul and the scenery around him, then what is the meaning of his life?
People, after all, still have to slow down.
Fast-food love, eating, and even fast-food life has become a task, that is, survival.
Only by slowing down can the soul keep up, and can we experience the change between drinking and pecking.
Only when it slows down is it called "living a life".
For the rest of your life, push away unnecessary socializing, give yourself a vacation, withdraw from the fast-paced life, and experience the slow-paced life.