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Pregnant women know that pregnant women are very hard during pregnancy, especially in the third trimester of pregnancy, not only inconvenient to move, but also accompanied by lower limb puffiness, frequent urination, insomnia and other conditions, such uncomfortable symptoms are very affecting the normal rest of pregnant women.
Therefore, many pregnant women in the third trimester of pregnancy, the family will massage them to relieve the symptoms of discomfort. Generally speaking, the massage given to pregnant women is done by the husband, or the mother-in-law, or even the mother-in-law.
However, a pregnant mother recently shared a video of her grandfather massaging her legs on the Internet, but it was criticized by netizens.
The 89-year-old grandfather caused controversy over the leg massage of his pregnant granddaughter: Isn't it embarrassing?
When Tuanzi's mother was brushing her mobile phone, she happened to see such a video, in which an old man was very carefully massaging the swollen legs of her pregnant granddaughter. The granddaughter said that she was pregnant in the third trimester of pregnancy, and her legs were puffy.
The 89-year-old grandfather, because of his heartache, sat down to massage himself to make himself more comfortable. It was originally a very warm picture, but after the release, it was criticized by netizens, who thought that this was very inappropriate, and even said that "the family style is not correct".
Grandpa rubbing the legs of his pregnant granddaughter was accused of bad family style, and the granddaughter responded
Originally it was a video of sharing her own pampered happiness, but it was angry with the comments of netizens in the comment area, and the pregnant woman felt very incomprehensible: Grandpa being massaged by his granddaughter is a very normal thing, how can it be said by some people so badly?
The pregnant woman said that she grew up with her grandparents, so she was very close to the two old people, no matter how old she was, she was still a child in the eyes of her grandfather.
And on the same day, at the beginning, the mother helped herself massage, grandpa just commanded from the side, but because the mother's massage method is not very professional, so the grandfather will personally do the demonstration, the grandfather knows the massage therapy when he is young, and the technique will be more professional.
Therefore, I don't think there is anything wrong with Grandpa massaging his legs, but I think that those who say some indecent things in the comment area are very dark in their hearts.
How to maintain the distance between the elders and the juniors is properly calculated, different people have different views
As the saying goes, "The child avoids the mother, and the daughter avoids the father." This means that when the son is older, he must keep a certain distance from the mother, and the daughter must keep a certain distance from the father when he is older, and he can no longer have too intimate actions or performances.
However, in real life, how to grasp the "intimacy" between the elders and the juniors is a difficult thing to say clearly. After all, there is no fixed standard for "what is moderation and what is intimate behavior".
Different people's understanding of this standard is also different, in the case of not easy to grasp, some in their own view, is the appropriate "intimacy", perhaps in the eyes of others, may not be appropriate.
In the eyes of those who have a general relationship with the elderly, massaging the legs is definitely too intimate, but for this pregnant woman, she grew up with her grandfather, the feelings are very good, in the grandfather's view, even if the granddaughter is about to become a mother, she is still the same as the little girl when she was a child, and she needs her own love;
And the granddaughter has been pampered by the grandfather since childhood, helping to rub the legs is just a way for the grandfather to love himself, there is nothing wrong, that is, the friendship between the grandfather and grandson, others really do not need to wear colored glasses to look at.
So from this point of view, whether the relationship between parents and children of the opposite sex is too close mainly depends on the depth of each other's feelings. If the feelings are not good, naturally you can't do such intimate actions.
The granddaughter uses grandpa to help rub her legs, which will also make grandpa feel "needed"
Of course, some netizens said that letting the 89-year-old rub his legs, as a junior, he really did not respect the elderly. In this regard, the pregnant woman also said: although grandpa is already 89 years old, his body is still very good.
The reason why I let my grandfather help rub my legs was also to make my grandfather feel that I still needed him. Tuanzi's mother was deeply touched by such a response. Many elderly people in life reach their twilight years, and they have little entertainment.
In the first half of life, children are naturally full of dependence on them, and when the child's dependence on themselves is gradually reduced, most of the elderly will feel empty, and they have lost the meaning of existence relative to children.
So like this pregnant woman, she asked her grandfather to help her do some things, and the old man was also happy in his heart, realizing that he was still a useful person, and they were also happy in it.
When looking at a thing, I hope that we can all be sunny, with a positive attitude to objectively evaluate, rather than malicious misinterpretation, "good words are warm in three winters, bad words hurt people in June", no matter when we must be careful in words and deeds.
Today's topic: What do you think about grandpa massaging the legs of his pregnant granddaughter?