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The most important thing in life: happiness.
Internally, this is an account of one's own life, and everyone has only this short life; externally, a truly happy person has always been the most attractive person to others, without exception.
So either way, you should strive to be a truly happy person.
Life has pressures and responsibilities, but it is not a reason to hinder your happiness, only to see if you understand or not know how to debug a peaceful world for yourself. Of course, if you are freed from stress and responsibility and pursue happiness, then the happiness you get must be short-lived, and then bring more pain.
It can be seen that the secret of happiness lies in debugging, adjusting, and adjusting, no less than whose responsibility is lighter and whose pressure is less.
Happiness is a state of the heart, in any bad environment, can still shine, in turn, a person who is worried in the heart, always waiting for the conditions to be happy, even if it is still not enough.
How can I make myself happier? Four tips, best to keep in mind!
1, can not change, do not struggle.
No matter what happens, always accept and accept what has happened, and since things have happened, the more you struggle and suffer in the case of no change. It's like accidentally falling into a swamp, and the more you struggle, the deeper you get.
This includes the existing state of life, the outcome of the development of a thing, whether or not it goes according to your expectations.
Complain less, complain less, just seek change, do what you can do, and don't care too much about the results. The simple meaning is that there must be an expectation of a good outcome, but also a psychological preparation to accept unsatisfactory and go with the flow.
If you are unhappy with a divorce, divorce is a fact that has already happened, don't struggle with the fact that has already happened, and accept the fact of divorce first.
What to do next, how to go, and reflect on and review the reasons for divorce, rather than being directly surrounded by negative emotions such as anger, chagrin, frustration, confusion, loss, etc., self-internal friction, and finally make yourself mentally broken, exhausted, and lose half a life.
2, live in the present, not afraid of tomorrow.
Life needs to be prepared for a rainy day, but it must not be unfounded, too whimsical, always because of the tomorrow that has not yet happened, and today is plunged into endless panic, worry and anxiety.
All the content is self-conceived, whether it can happen, no one is sure, even if it will happen on time, it should be full of courage to cut through thorns.
You should live in the present moment, although living in the present, grasping what you can grasp in the present moment, and never let things that no one can say affect you. Accept what happens, good and bad are to be greeted, because unwarranted things bring distractions to themselves, which is not worth it.
The reason why you are anxious is because you think too much, and you feel that life is hopeless and boring.
The reason is like sitting on a speeding train, where to go after getting off the train, what to do, what you may face, in fact, after getting off the train, there is naturally a road.
As a result, you miss the scenery on the road, and you always feel regret later, in fact, you have been constantly creating regrets in life.
3, take care of yourself, do not ask others.
You are not a savior, don't always think about saving others, when you want to save a person, have you ever thought that that person does not need your salvation, and the so-called salvation is just what you think you think.
Each of us will only infer the content of this world based on our own experience and cognition, he does not understand, experience will naturally teach him, before he has not experienced, you say no matter how reasonable, and then sentence from the bottom of the heart, he will only think that you are a liar.
People's personality, thoughts, three views, and so on, cannot be changed by you, and when you try to change a person and move this thought, you will eventually eat yourself through the pain of a thousand arrows through the heart.
It is God who can change oneself, and it is neuropathy that wants to change others.
This is also a good life advice, always manage yourself, manage yourself, manage yourself. Don't care how others are, that's beyond your ability, if you don't want to be influenced by the other party, don't care, just stay away.
All the people or things that can affect you will be affected because you are willing to be affected, and if you are not willing, there is no possibility of affecting you.
4. Reduce desire and pursue the original heart.
Desire is the root of all suffering, when satisfied, it is happy, and if it is not satisfied, it is painful, so you can make yourself happy, as long as you are willing to make yourself happy, you can manage your desires.
Materially, if your ability is a dollar more than desire, even if it is only an extra dollar, it will bring you endless pain, always live in a state of dissatisfaction, the heart is not at peace, and gradually you will lose yourself, you are no longer you, but you feel that you are still you.
Really, no matter what, learn to lower desires and lower expectations.
For example, if I want a villa, I will pursue it very hard, but I will not take this goal as a wish that must be fulfilled.
You have to achieve it, but if you don't, you're going to have a very painful time and you're going to be very skeptical about your abilities. In addition, it is the same for people and things, don't have too high expectations, no one can meet all your presuppositions, there will be disappointments when there are expectations, and the greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment.
We must learn to pursue the fragrance of the heart, find a balance between limited harvest and unlimited needs, and capture the small blessings in life.
For the above four suggestions, really keep in mind, of course, there is a very key point, that is, never care too much about other people's opinions, you are not God, can not make everyone satisfied, can not make everyone like. In fact, you are not so important, not the center of the world, everyone will stare at you.
I have read a passage that Teacher Chen Guo said:
"Let the noise be noisy, I have my own doing, I have all kinds of styles, and there is no dispute with the world." When others score you, it is his opinion of you, when he does not know you, why should you care about his score? The point is, you give yourself a few points. ”
Of course, this passage also has a prerequisite, that is, without interfering with others, without causing trouble to others.
So, don't care too much about other people's opinions, because other people's words affect your mood all day, and people who are too sensitive in their hearts are often difficult to get the happiness of their hearts.
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