Have you ever had such an experience? The man knows that you are very uncomfortable, but he is still doing it, still hurting you.
For example: "He knows that you are crying very sadly here, he can still sleep on his back, insist on his own ideas and not coax you, and even make more and more cruel." 」 "Why do men put up with hurting you?"
If you have also encountered such a situation, today I will analyze it for you from the perspective of men, what is the idea of men? Because what many women want to know most is what is the man really thinking?
The first: He wants you to be able to give to him consistently
Both men and women have such a law in their relationships: "At the beginning of a relationship, both parties will pay special attention to each other, you may take care of his feelings, give him gifts, praise him, be nice to him, and so on... He will also give gifts, take care of your feelings, coax you every day, etc. ”
But if you look at the relationship for a long time, will there be a gap, because you may all return to your own life. You will also ask your girlfriend to go shopping, he will also play games by himself, then at this time, no matter which side, there will be a sense of imbalance.
This man will feel that when you were together, the standard should be the standard for you to get along.
That is to say, he hopes that you will be as good to him as he was at that time, and then he will not be comfortable with the gap, so he will tell you by hurting you: "I still want the standard of the past, you have to be good to me, and if you are not good to me, I will make you feel bad." ”
In this way, hopefully you can continue to pay for him, but is it possible? It's definitely not possible, so after you understand his mentality, you can communicate with him, which is fine.
Second: Feeling like you're not going to leave him at all
A lot of men are confident because he feels like you're not going to leave me no matter what I do. He thinks he's eating you to death, so you're uncomfortable, what can you do? Not far away again, beckoning you back.
The scary thing is not that he thinks you won't leave him, but that you really can't leave him.
This is a lot of girls, when they are hurt, they are very painful, but they can't get out. Because you are really afraid of leaving him, you are really afraid that after leaving him, you will not have a good life, so you are now being bullied by him. Do you think about your feelings like this?
Third: deliberate suppression controls you
This is relatively rare but there are also some men who deliberately suppress and control you, and there are many men who will deliberately stimulate you to control you through this pain. It's as if humans were training animals, for example, "A monkey tamer, holding a stick, when the monkey does something that makes humans uncomfortable, he will beat it and make it miserable."
Later, this monkey will feel this pain and will be afraid. It would not dare to do anything that made humans uncomfortable, and would flatter humans for fear that the stick in his hand would beat it. ”
So what is he using to control you now? It is with this kind of hurt that you make you feel pain, step by step control into you have to listen to him, you will be miserable if you don't listen to him, but what is terrible? There are really a lot of girls, who are stupid after investing in feelings, and are really controlled.
So, if you often encounter such a situation, you think about which category your boyfriend belongs to, and if it belongs to the last category, then you must learn to get rid of it in time.