As we get older, life gives us more and more tests. During the day, he is always giggling, and at night he is often inexplicably sad; he understands all the truths, but he still feels wronged; life is not alarming, but he always feels that he is not energetic...
One after another, such things come and go, making people feel powerless and can't help but ask: Why has life become like this? Is there any kind person to help me?
You must also hope that someone can give you guidance. Coincidentally, so did I.
I stumbled upon "Once I Thought About a Hundred", and the book instantly grabbed my heart. The author, Alessandra Olano, is an illustrator and writer and a very good storyteller.
In this comic book containing the philosophy of life, a woman who has a thousand troubles with us is vividly created, full of confusion, anxiety and confusion about life, eager to understand the ultimate meaning of life.
The healing illustrations and wise words in the book deeply hit every heart that has experienced hardships and hardships. Whichever page you open, you'll find that this book gives you strength.
01 Pain drives your true growth
Do you also live a step-by-step life, rejecting any risks and surprises, only to find that many things can deviate from the established track. For this reason, you often feel miserable and cannot accept the bad results of change.
Author Olano is one of them. She has lived a conformist life since she was a child, going to school, working, getting married and having children, and always keeping herself in a safe comfort zone.
She thought this life was as expected, but everything was not as she expected. Suddenly, the breakdown of the marriage, the obstruction of the career and the serious illness of the mother suddenly arrived. These changes and pressures were like a boulder that overwhelmed her.
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She tried to escape, deliberately ignoring, deluding herself into thinking that life would go back to before. But in the end, it turned out that this was just a luxury, because time kept moving forward.
In fact, this is our life, where in the world are there so many immutables? It's good that everything goes according to plan, but sometimes "sudden" and "unexpected" are not bad.
In order to get rid of the pain, Olano began to learn to paint. Slowly, she found a strength in her paintings that could confront pain, allowing her to bravely face her own pain and examine herself. It is also this bad experience that will have the book "Once I Thought about a Hundred", a book that can give us strength.
As she says in the book, "Sometimes, it has to fall apart in order to re-congeal and aggregate." "In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, a full-time wife played by Ma Yili, who has a superior and comfortable life, cleared everything after divorcing her husband Chen Junsheng, entered the workplace with the help of friends, broke the predicament, and finally realized the transformation of self-growth in the workplace.
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It is true that from time to time we encounter unexpected pain in life, and it is this pain that allows us to stop losses in time and understand what is really important earlier. Those moments that once made our lives dark can also make us open-minded and open-minded, and laugh at life.
After all, a broken heart is also an open heart.
02 Get out of the negativity and deliberately cultivate a good mentality
Have you ever been in a difficult situation? There are many ideas and limited ability to act; what is thought and what is said is inconsistent... Sometimes, just thinking about this, you will feel very depressed, aggrieved, and all kinds of negative emotions will arise spontaneously.
Why do we get caught up in negative emotions and can't help ourselves? Because we can't face this real contradiction and can't break through, we are deeply trapped in it, accompanied by wild thoughts, anxiety, fear...
You know, people's energy is limited, just like physical strength, there is no use, which is why we feel weak after being sad and helpless.
However, any unhappiness, over time, will gradually soften. After experiencing a series of life changes, the author Olano learned to carefully examine her discomfort and learned how to get out of the negativity in her painting.
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1. Take your time at your own pace. Many times, we follow in the footsteps of others and forget what our own rhythm is. Qi Baishi used his life experience to tell us that living in his own rhythm, every minute and second is a golden period. He has not found what he wants to do at the age of 26, learned to draw halfway at the age of 30, tried his best to support his family at the age of 40, had no money to buy a house before the age of 67, and was still in love and had children at the age of 83... You know, the surprises of life will always appear inadvertently.
2. Empty completely and leave for the time being. Instead of falling into the emotional whirlpool and unable to extricate yourself, it is better to change the environment, change the way of life, go to Dali, Yunnan, and enjoy a comfortable and slow life; hang out by the West Lake in Hangzhou and unlock N kinds of lifestyles. After a short period of absence, refuel, open your mind, and fight against it.
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3. Don't make "forever" decisions because of a momentary will. When it comes to emotions, people are often the most prone to making mistakes, often doing things that they will regret afterwards. At this time, we must remember not to let the emotions wash over your head, after all, Han Xin can endure the humiliation of the crotch, and the Yue King can also endure the humiliation.
4. Start with a very small, small positive thought. Try to wake up early and smile three times to cheer yourself up; eat a beautiful breakfast and last the energy of the day; learn to dress up and be kind to life.
"Just like the moon, we experience the fullness of the moon and the invisible."
03 There are more possibilities in a life without limits
In life, many of us often have self-doubt and self-denial because of some things or the words of others, and this feeling often makes us feel as if the sky is about to fall, which is really bad.
We thought that as long as we changed our hairstyle and dressed in a different style, we could get out of it, but the result was not as we wanted.
In fact, self-doubt is a battle between us and ourselves.
In this battle, we don't have to win anybody, we don't have to surpass anybody, and we don't have to care what others think of us. We just have to fight ourselves and live the way we want to be.
1. I thought I knew what I was doing, but I didn't. Allow yourself not to know many things, give yourself time to learn and grow, so that you can get closer and closer to your dreams and the person you want to be.
2. Sometimes things don't necessarily make sense. At this time, you need to change your thinking, try to maintain a more open mind, and let yourself grow in order to harvest a fuller and more complete life.
3. Sometimes you just have to sit quietly and keep breathing. The meditation breathing method can help eliminate tension and anxiety, release emotions, and bring us back to the present moment in an instant.
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4. I know it's all going to pass. Meditate on all this will pass, give yourself psychological hints, help yourself to regain your sanity, respond appropriately at the right time, and face life better.
04 written at the end
Life is just like Mr. Yang Dai said: "After different degrees of exercise, a person will obtain different degrees of cultivation and different degrees of benefits." Like spices, the more crushed they are, the finer they are ground, the more intense the fragrance becomes. ”
Each of us may have a frustrated experience, like Alessandra Olano, the author of "Once I Thought About a Hundred", but as long as we survive, life will suddenly be clear.
Finally, "Once I Thought About a Hundred" brought me a very strong and very pleasant reading experience, as if there was a force pushing me forward, and the inner energy had begun to boil.
Everything will eventually pass, and it would be better if you could know the time
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