■ Sun Huichang
Lies refer to saying things different from the facts for the purpose of deception under the premise of knowing the facts. It is lying or telling lies, but there is a distinction between good intentions and bad intentions. In psychology, a white lie is called a white lie, and a malicious lie is called a black lie. Thieves believe that those who benefit themselves but are mostly harmful to others are malicious lies, and those who tell lies, but benefit each other, are white lies.
Lies are false, none are true. The lie of kindness is the true feeling that people reveal from the bottom of their hearts. Even if you know that this is a lie, you will try to believe it and appreciate it from the bottom of your heart.
Take my own experience as proof. On that day, the air in Jinan was unusually hot, I took a bus to the office alone, and after a long wait, I was finally the last to get on the bus, and the people on the car were one after another, forming an airtight human wall. I struggled to squeeze into a narrow corner to stand firm. Before long, I was sweating profusely, and I tiptoed back, hoping to find a slightly ventilated place for me to stand, but to no avail. At this time, the driver braked sharply, I almost fell, I felt dizzy, and my face must be ugly. An uncle sitting in his seat saw my expression and gave me a seat with concern. I was embarrassed and shook my head in panic. This uncle also stood for a long time before he sat down. How can I sit in his place? Seeing that I was hesitant, my uncle advised me again, "Come and sit down, I'll get off the bus when I get off the train." Listening to him say this, I was at ease, effortlessly picked a seat, sat down, and suddenly felt light.
After a stop, I was going to watch the uncle get out of the car, but I was surprised to find that the uncle was still in the car! He was already sweating, but he did not have the slightest complaint, he just wanted to give way to me, who did not know each other, preferring to stand by himself, forcing the sweltering and harsh environment, I was full of infinite respect for this kind uncle.
Although it has been many years since this incident, the uncle's kind lies have always echoed in my ears, and he told me that I should sincerely help and care for each other.
Now, someone invites me to certain events, and in fact I don't want to go from the bottom of my heart, if I tell the truth: "I don't want to participate!" That will inevitably provoke the other party to be very unhappy, and even grumpy, blocking me from WeChat. If you change the way and tone: "I'm sorry, I already have another appointment." Or simply say that you can't get sick, so you can save the other party's face. Even if the other party knows that I am lying, it is no big deal, the so-called tacit understanding! Isn't saving face two benefits? I think it's a well-intentioned lie, not a lie!
There are also many stories of white lies. Such as: "Hope Plum Quenches Thirst" in the Three Kingdoms period, the novel "The Last Leaf" by the famous American writer O Henry, and so on. Milusi Sanna said: Sometimes, lies are beautiful, and her name is "white lies." Zhou Libo, founder of Haipai Qingkou, said: Love is a lie that we all believe. Balzac said: Flattery never comes from a great heart.
There are also many stories of lying and teasing people, and inflicting great damage on themselves: "The Wolf Is Coming", Zhou Youwang's "The Princes of Beacon Theatre" and so on. Letters lie, make themselves lose face of "The Emperor's New Clothes", love to lie, and finally brave have "Pinocchio" and so on, I will not list them all!
There is a line in taiwanese singer Zheng Zhihua's song "Sailor": speaking insincere words, wearing a mask of hypocrisy. Coincidentally, Brother Xie Kejiang also came up with similar words a few days ago, someone invited him to dinner, but he did not allow it, and after the people left, he smiled and said to me: "Why are you going?" It's tiring to wear a mask! ”
In fact, not only in society, but even in the family, most of them live with masks, which is an undeniable fact. Haven't major supermarkets, shopping malls and other service industries already advocated smiling service? I would like to ask: Is the smile of the salesman real? Didn't they all wear masks? The answer is: most smiles are masked. Because social and economic benefits depend on the proficiency and level of wearing masks, some salesmen have the special function of fake smiles, there are geniuses who wear fake masks to perform, affinity is full, can be fake and real, let customers be happy, turnover will go up, wages have risen, red envelopes have increased. Without this masked genius, smiling is worse than crying, not only can not get the red packet, but also the danger of firing squid. Buyers and sellers, the status is equal, where is there "customer is God"? This will only encourage the prestige of some vitriolous and picky customers, and I think this slogan is not conducive to social stability and unity.
In short, I think that in the social interaction of daily life, it is inevitable, even necessary, to say a few white lies and smile with a mask!
About the author: Sun Huichang, male, born in 1970, originally from Dong'a County, Liaocheng. He currently lives in Pingyin County, Jinan City. He is a member of the Chinese Poetry Society, a member of the Qilu Calligraphers and Painters Association, and a star of learning for the people of Shandong Province.
[Editor and production: Slippery, real name Liu Jian, senior teacher, founder of Huanpai Literature. On the title page of his book "Slippery", it is impressively written: "Humble is fine, fine is humble." / The one who is humbled is dying, / The spirit is coming to an end because of the essence. / Life is different, / People die together. / Alive, once red-faced for a chicken feather, / Can sacrifice one's life for a girl to forget death; / Dead, not proud of the tens of millions of beautiful women in Guangsha, / Not depressed...]
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