He was foolish by nature, but he was favored by a generation of beauties; he was slaughtered and invited, but he encountered unprecedented joy in his life; he gave everything he had, but he caused her to cry.
He is Guo Jing. Who did he meet? What different things did he go through? Today, Guo Jing has something to say.
01 Guo Jing met Huang Rong
Starting from "Competition to Recruit Relatives", "The Legend of the Archery Hero" entered the official story. The encounter between the male and female protagonists is of course the most important. How did they meet?
(Guo Jing) was eating happily, and overheard the noise at the door of the store. He thought about the red horse and hurried out, only to see the red horse eating grass. Two shopkeepers were shouting at a ragged, skinny teenager.
It turned out that the teenager had taken someone's steamed bun, but did not pay for it. It looked like he didn't have any money. He was angrily rebuked by two shop guys and asked to put down the buns. He himself felt that this was not very good, which was really a bit humiliating.
The young man put the bun down according to his word, but the white bun had left several black handprints on it, and he could no longer sell it. One of the guys was furious and punched him, and the teenager dodged it. Guo Jing saw that he was pitiful, knew that he was hungry and anxious, and rushed up to stop him, saying: "Don't be rude, it is counted on my account." "Pick up the bun and hand it to the teenager."
However, after the teenager got the steamed bun, he did not eat it, but instead fed the steamed bun to the dog. At this point, everyone was surprised.
Guo Jing was also stunned, only to say that the teenager was hungry in his belly, so he snatched the steamed bun from the shopkeeper, but he threw it to the dog to eat. Guo Jing returned to his seat and ate again. The boy followed, looking sideways at him. Guo Jing looked at him with some embarrassment and beckoned, "You can also eat, okay?" The young man smiled and said, "Well, I'm bored alone and trying to find a companion." "It's a Gangnam accent.
Guo Jing's mother is from Lin'an, Zhejiang, and the six monsters of Jiangnan are all from Jiaxing Zuojinren, he has been accustomed to listening to the Jiangnan accent since he was a child, and it is very gratifying to hear that teenager speak his own hometown voice.
It was this sense of joy that made Guo Jing feel warmer, and he talked with the teenager. This is the entry point for Guo Jing's interaction with Huang Rong, but it is far from the end. Huang Rong's next performance shocked Guo Jing.
The teenager went to the table and sat down, and Guo Jing instructed Xiao Er to take the food again. The shop boy saw the teenager's dirty and poor appearance, the boss was not happy, called for half a day, and then lazily took the dishes over.
The young man had a seizure: "You say that I am poor and do not deserve to eat the food in your shop?" I'm just afraid that if you bring the best wine and dishes, it won't suit my appetite." ShopKeeper said coldly, "Really?" You old man can point out, we always do it, just afraid of eating no one to return the money. The young man said to Guo Jing, "No matter how much I eat, will you be the owner?" Guo Jing said, "Of course, of course." Turning to the shopkeeper, he said, "Quickly cut a pound of beef and half a pound of lamb liver." He only said that beef and lamb liver is the best delicacy in the world, and asked the teenager: "Drink or not?" ”
The young man said, "Don't be busy eating meat, let's eat the fruit first." Hey, man, let's start with four dried fruits, four fresh fruits, two salty acids, and four preserves. Shop Xiao Er was startled, but he didn't expect him to say something big, and sneered: "What fruit does Uncle want?" ”
The young man said, "This kind of poor place small hotel, you can't get good things out of cold, just like that, the four dried fruits are lychee, guiyuan, steamed dates, and ginkgo biloba." Fresh fruit you pick when new. Salty acid to build fragrant cherry and ginger silk plum, I don't know if you can buy it here? Candied fruit? It is rose kumquat, herb grape, frosted peach strips, and pear meat. The shopkeeper listened to him very well, and couldn't help but put away his heart.
The young man added, "There are no fresh fish and shrimp here, well, let's have eight so-so wine dishes." The shopkeeper asked, "What do you like to eat?" The young man said, "Alas, it is impossible not to say clearly." The eight wine dishes are flower cooking quail, fried duck palm, chicken tongue soup, deer belly stuffed Jiang Yao, Mandarin duck fried beef tendon, chrysanthemum rabbit shredded, fried roe legs, ginger vinegar gold and silver hooves. I'll just pick up what you've made here, order some expensive dishes, and we'll get rid of it. The shopkeeper listened with his mouth wide open and closed his mouth, and when he finished, he said: "The price of these eight dishes is not small, just duck paws and chicken tongue soup, you have to use dozens of chickens and ducks." The young man pointed to Guo Jingyi and said, "This great master is the east, do you think he can't afford to eat?" ”
Shop Xiao Er saw that a piece of sable on Guo Jing's body was very precious, and thought that even if you would not issue money, it would be enough to peel off this sable skin to offset it, and then agreed at the moment, and then asked: "Is it enough?" ”
The young man said, "Twelve more dishes to serve and eight kinds of dim sum, it will be almost the same." The shopkeeper did not dare to ask the name of the dish again, only afraid that he would not be able to order it, so he instructed the chef to pick the best selection, and then asked the teenager: "What kind of wine do the grandfathers use?" The small shop has ten years old three white fen wine, first hit two corners okay? The young man said, "Well, I'll just deal with it!" ”
After a while, the fruits and preserves and other things were brought to the table one by one, and Guo Jing tasted everything, and each piece was a delicacy that he had never eaten before.
The young man talked loudly, talking about the customs and customs of the south, and Guo Jing listened to him talk elegantly and knowledgeably, and could not help but be greatly overwhelmed. His second master was a full-fledged scholar, but Guo Jing was very skilled and martial, and only in his spare time did he learn some rough words with Zhu Cong, and at this time, it sounded like this young man's knowledge was not under the second master, not only secretly marveling, but also secretly wondering, thinking: "I only said that he is a poor boy, who knows that his knowledge is so high." Middle-earth characters are indeed very different from Saiwai. ”
It can be seen that Huang Rong at this time has already developed a strange attraction for Guo Jing. She used her professional foodie ability to surprise Guo Jing and attract guo Jing uniquely. Guo Jing grew up in the desert, and he thought that the delicious things were beef, lamb liver, and where he had seen fine delicacies such as chicken tongue soup.
Just as the so-called lack of something is easy to produce a certain hunger, it is easy to be attracted to something. Guo Jing, who did not understand food, was deeply attracted by Huang Rong. But the attraction at this time is not the kind of emotional belonging of men and women. In the following conversation, Guo Jing developed a strong sense of speculation about Huang Rong.
02 Guo Jing and Huang Rong are particularly speculative: the same frequency can resonate
As the saying goes, wine is less than a thousand cups per confidant, and words are not speculative for more than half a sentence. That's true. You meet a confidant, that is, you can talk endlessly, and you must talk about it in the middle of the night with candles. Words are not speculative, you say east and west, so I really don't want to talk about it at all.
Guo Jingyi grew up in the desert, although he made good friends with Tuolei and Hua Zheng, but Temujin cherished his young son, and Tuolei often followed his father and rarely had time to play with him. Hua Zheng had a great temper, and Guo Jing refused to give in everywhere, although he often played together, he had to quarrel at every turn, although he would say good after a while, he was always not very speculative, and this matter and this teenager ate and talked, somehow, he actually felt the joy of his life. He was originally clumsy, not good at words, usually always asked others, only to have to answer a few words, Han Xiaoying often laughed at him quite Nancy benevolent words like the style of gold, is the fourth master's disciple, but at this time he actually talked endlessly, all his stupid things, in addition to learning martial arts and related to Temujin, he even said all the ancient brains, when it came to forgetting the form, he grasped the left hand of the teenager.
It is because his heart is particularly happy that Guo Jing has a true feeling for Huang Rong, so he is very willing to spend money for Huang Rong. The wine and dishes ordered by Huang Rong are relatively expensive and cost a lot of money, but Guo Jing doesn't care at all. The so-called pouring cover is as old as ever, and the white head is as new. The book describes it like this:
The treasurer, cook, and shopkeeper in the hotel are all amazing, and if they have business, they will naturally do it one by one. The Mongol custom of entertaining guests has always been to give everything they have, not to mention that Guo Jing made money for the first time in his life, and he did not know the purpose of silver money, but even if he knew, even if he agreed with the young man, his heart was overjoyed, so he spent ten times more silver money, and he would not pay attention to it at all.
What do you mean? Even if he spent ten times more silver, Guo Jing would not pay any attention to it. Does Jin Yong write this way, is it in line with the requirements of logic? It seems illogical, but it is really in line with Guo Jing's logic. Because it is certainly impossible for ordinary people to do this, everyone cares more about how much money, who is willing to spend so much money for the stupid beggar who meets in Pingshui. But don't forget, our protagonist is Guo Jing. Who is Guo Jing?
Generous people, atmospheric people. At the age of six, he desperately rescued Tetsubetsu, and gave up his life to save Hua Zheng and Tuo Lei. Think about it, a person who even gave up his life for his friend, can he still refuse to spend money for Huang Rong, who has a special contract with himself? Continue to see how Guo Jing behaves.
Out of the shop, the wind is blowing. The young man seemed to feel cold, shrunk his head and neck, and said, "Excuse me, goodbye." Guo Jing saw that his clothes were thin, and his heart could not bear it, so he took off his mink fur and draped it on him at the moment, and said: "Brother, you and I are the same as we see each other, please wear this dress." He had four ingots of gold left beside him, and took out two of them and placed them in the bag of mink. The young man did not thank him either, but draped himself in a mink coat and drifted away.
The young man took dozens of steps, turned back, and saw Guo Jing holding a red horse in his hand, standing on the long street looking at himself, dazed, knowing that he was reluctant to part ways, and beckoned to him. Guo Jing walked over quickly and said, "What else is Missing Brother Xian?" ”
The young man smiled slightly, and said, "I haven't asked my brother for his high surname and big name." Guo Jing smiled and said, "Really, I forgot about it." My surname is Guo Mingjing. Brother what about you? The young man said, "My surname is Huang, and my single name is a Rong character." Guo Jing said, "Where are you going?" If we go back to the South, how about we go together? Huang Rong shook his head, "I will not go back to the south." Suddenly, he said, "Big brother, I'm hungry again." Guo Jingxi said, "Well, I'll accompany my brother to have some wine and dinner." ”
This time, Huang Rong led him to ChangqingLou, the largest restaurant in Zhangjiakou, and the layout was all modeled on the pattern of the old Jingbeiliang Restaurant of the Great Song Dynasty. Huang Rong no longer ordered wine and vegetables, as long as four plates of exquisite fine points, a pot of Longjing, the two talked about the north and south.
Speaking speculatively, guo jing told Huang Rong how good his little red horse was, and how his masters praised this horse. Since it was so good, Huang Rong also began to pay attention to it.
Huang Rong asked about the nature of the little red horse, and after listening to Guo Jing, he looked very envious, took a sip of tea, smiled and groaned: "Big brother, I asked you for a treasure, are you willing?" Guo Jing said, "Where is the reason for not being willing?" Huang Rong said, "I just like your sweat and blood BMW." Guo Jing did not hesitate and said, "Well, I will give it to my brother." ”
Huang Rong was originally making a joke casually, thinking that he loved this once-in-a-lifetime BMW, and he and he just met pingshui, with the intention of seeing how this honest man could export and refuse, even if he promised to be so bold, it was a big accident, he couldn't help but be stunned, grateful in his heart, it was difficult to help himself, suddenly crouched on the table, whimpering and crying.
The Guo Jingken mentioned here gave the little red horse to this beggar little brother. What does the little red horse mean to him? That's a very good friend. How did he subdue it, how did he ride it to save Temujin, how did he ride it to the Central Plains. Every paragraph in the middle is full of people and horses.
Guo Jing must also have regarded the beggar brother as a confidant, as someone he could send the Ma brothers out. This seems to be unintentional, but in fact there is affection, and deep emotions are transmitted to each other.
03 Sincerity is a trick: the mechanism of giving attraction
In the process of Guo Jing and Huang Rong's first encounter, why could Guo Jing quickly attract Huang Rong's attention and let Huang Rong fall in love with him? The key trick is sincerity.
In today's society, it is more of an indifference between people. This pattern of indifference is actually in line with the requirements of social development. Social competition is so fierce, how can you expect people to be sincere with you? In addition, there are many scammers who are particularly good at using the sincerity of others to carry out deception, so that more and more people originally want to treat others sincerely, but when they think that scammers may be on the side at any time to take advantage of it, they hesitate or even are unwilling to pay their sincerity.
Therefore, sincerity becomes a scarce commodity and is difficult to obtain. Because it is difficult to get, who can really treat people, will definitely be loved. No, although it was in the virtual ancient times, Huang Rong also liked Guo Jing's sincerity to people.
One of Guo Jing's true hearts, willing to help strangers. When he saw someone hungry and about to be beaten, he couldn't see it and had to pay for someone else. It was a very kind act. Whether it was common in ancient times is not known, at least in our time, it is rare. Therefore, his move is even more touching and recognized.
The second of Guo Jing's sincerity is very tacit understanding with Huang Rong. He heard Huang Rong speak with a southern accent and felt very familiar in his heart. In addition, he and Huang Rong saw each other as they were, and they were willing to say anything to Huang Rong. It's also a way of being genuine. If Guo Jingfeng only said three points and could not throw away a piece of his heart, then he could not get Huang Rong's wholehearted response to him, and he could not feel the same as Huang Rong.
The third of Guo Jing's sincerity is willing to spend money for his friends. Huang Rong ordered many expensive dishes, and then when it was cold, he threw them away, and after throwing them away, he wanted a table of good dishes, and after eating a few chopsticks, he said he was full. Such behavior is similar to what is called "doing" today. Yes, it's just too much. If it is an ordinary person, it is necessary to cross the eyebrows and be cold, but Guo Jing is not, not only is he not angry, but he is very happy to let Huang Rong do it, he just follows behind to pay.
Guo Jing's sincerity towards his friends made him gain Huang Rong's love. Please note that Huang Rong was finally touched by Guo Jing and actually "whimpered and cried." Huang Rong's crying came from the bottom of her heart, indicating that she had been completely touched by Guo Jing, and thus truly fell in love with Guo Jing.
Why? Huang Rong ran out of Peach Blossom Island to break through the rivers and lakes and walked to Zhangjiakou, and must have experienced a lot of indifference. When she first walked out of the island, she must be able to understand better that the true feelings on this river and lake are the most lacking. Huang Rong, who grew up in a single-parent family, originally lacked that delicate and sincere care on the puzzle of love. This lack is doubled in the cold snobbish jianghu. At this time, what she needed most was exactly what Guo Jing had.
Guo Jing treated her sincerely, which she did not expect. She had never thought of meeting a sincere person, and at this time she already wanted to be with Guo Jing next, in her words, "I was bored alone and wanted to find a companion." ”
She should congratulate herself, in this cool river and lake, met her own white moonlight.
04 How to show sincerity
If you want to be true to others, you have to be genuine. Guo Jing was very helpful, and this excellent character did not happen suddenly when he met Huang Rong, but when he was a six-year-old child, it was already very clear.
Think about what kind of good nature and strong heart it takes for a six-year-old child to give up his life and die to protect a philosopher who has nothing to do with him. He not only protects Tetsubetsu, but also desperately protects Tuolei and Hua Zheng. At this time, Guo Jing was not conscious at all, but showed instinct. This means that Guo Jing has a kind nature to treat people.
Guo Jing, who has a kind nature, met Huang Rong, who was waiting for his true heart at the very beginning of walking the rivers and lakes, and resonated with Huang Rong in his heart. This requires that if you want to be sincere with others, you must really resonate with each other. People who have truly loved others in various forms will understand that the sense of resonance that comes from the heart, and the heart-to-heart reflection that is displayed from it, is absolutely impossible to perform with any acting skills.
If you don't really resonate with each other's mind, you can't pretend. If there is no resonance, but it seems very enthusiastic, it is hypocritical. Guo Jing, who was in such a state of mind, could not talk endlessly with his beggar little brother about the East and the West. Guo Jing's feelings, although he was good friends with Tuo Lei and Hua Zheng, "always not very speculative, this matter and this teenager while eating and talking, somehow, actually felt the joy of life." ”
This "unprecedented joy in life" is the kind of investment and nostalgia formed by the resonance of the heart, and it seems to have found its own brightest star in the vast sea of people. Those who have found their brightest star will understand that this feeling is irreplaceable.
But it is not enough to stay on the level of happiness in the heart. This kind of goodwill needs to be maintained through realistic means. Guo Jing maintained his sincerity to Huang Rong very well, and thus got Huang Rong's sincere treatment. The very realistic requirement is to spend money as generously as possible within the scope of your ability.
Guo Jing was touched in his heart, and he was really not stingy about spending money for Huang Rong, and the expensive dishes were casually ordered, not enough to ask for more. Not only that, but didn't Xiandi want a little red horse? Here you go. Do you want anything else? As long as I have, I will not be stingy. How many people can do this when the rivers and lakes meet?
Does it mean that you have to spend money like Guo Jing to get the other party's sincerity? Not necessarily. All true hearts require sincerity, but each true heart has a different approach. Who can do what Guo Jing did, a shot is more than a dozen silver, and when they break up, they also send two ingots of gold? The vast majority of people can't do it. But not being able to do this level does not mean that there is no sincerity.
If you only have ten dollars and you eat a bowl of noodles for fifty cents, it's always okay for you to add an extra egg to the girl, right? Isn't that sincere? If the girl is also sincere with you, she will feel your psychology and will vibrate for you.
In fact, if you think about it, the reason why Guo Jing is willing to spend money for Huang Rong also shows that this money is within his ability. He brought four ingots of gold himself, and a lot of silver. Only then can he appear generous.
Some readers should remember that when they later visited the Temple of King Yue, because there was no money, Guo Jing spent money one copper plate after another, and huang Rong was angry. At that time, he did not send a piece of gold one by one, because if there was no one, there was no way.
If he himself only brought two or two pieces of silver, and you let him spend money generously, it would be impossible. However, if he can try to order delicious dishes for Huang Rong within the range of two or two, Huang Rong will certainly not be abandoned. She wants sincerity, not how much money it takes to prove it.
Treating people with sincerity, resonating with sincerity, and being willing to pay, these are the three secrets of Guo Jing to attract Huang Rong. In general, sincerity is the trick to attract lovers. This is not a routine of design, but a heartfelt display. The biggest trace of true heart is natural, and only so naturally, Huang Rong's so intelligent woman was captured by Guo Jing, and captured for a lifetime.