Wen | Shuping
Following the explosion of Cui Jian's video number concert on the evening of April 15, late at night on the 19th, "WeChat Circle of Friends for 10 Years" also rushed to the first Weibo hot search, netizens have looked at the first circle of friends they have sent, "is youth" has become a common sigh of everyone, especially after 60, 70, 80 is to set off a wave of "memory killing", some netizens commented: Most people listen to not songs, is the feelings; what they see is not the circle of friends, it is youth... A generation will eventually grow old, and "the true warrior is nothing more than loving life after seeing it for what it is."
Full of memories to kill, there are good and embarrassing
What is "Memory Kill"? I deliberately Baidu, originally referred to the memory plot in the anime plot, now refers more to the recall of past events, and when recalling these things, it is easy to cause emotional fluctuations. There was laughter, there were tears, and there was all kinds of embarrassment.
Let's start with the beautiful ones. One of my long-lost friends, Teacher Su, shared a past with me. She had been a soldier when she was young, and last summer she accompanied her family to Qiulinggou deep in the grasslands, where it was once the garrison of an equipment division, and the rows of old but neat red brick houses and tall poplar trees witnessed the years of that year. The villagers watch movies and see doctors, still in the auditorium and barracks of that year, and the feelings between the military and the people are particularly harmonious. While visiting, she was deeply moved and proud of her military career.
On the grassland, wild flowers, wild vegetables, wild mushrooms, and various Chinese herbs can be seen everywhere, all of which are pure wild. She was a doctor, and she recognized chai hu, astragalus, motherwort, cang'er, and many of them could not be named. In the summer, the locals like to dig wild leek flowers the most, and there are many shallots, leek flowers to make leek sauce, and tender shallots to go home and wrap shallot dumplings, all of which are delicious in the world.
When she went, she also saw a large area of dried plums in full bloom, and even the people on the grassland said that it was rare. In that year, the equipment division of Shubian was praised as the spirit of dried plums. The dried plum blossoms do not fall, are not afraid of the wind, are not afraid of ice and snow cover, and maintain the appearance of bloom in the harshest environment, unchanged for several years. She looked at the vigorously growing dried plums in surprise and sincerely thanked the grassland for its love.
I have the privilege of hearing this past of Teacher Su, and I am also deeply moved, if a person's youth has had such a bloody and brilliant time, even if it has become a memory, it is also youth without regrets, worthy of pride. No wonder every time I see Teacher Su, I think her laughing look is particularly bold and heroic, which makes people like and envy.
I myself am much ashamed. When I was young, I seemed to have been confused all the time, and I almost never left any special memories. At that time, I liked to read martial arts novels, liked Jin Yong, Liang Yusheng, and also liked to chase dramas, "Divine Eagle Hero", "Laughing Proud of the Rivers and Lakes", "Deer DingJi" did not fall, all chased.
I also like to watch "Journey to the West", every summer, "Journey to the West" overture bang electric sound, I quickly put my eyes on the TV, the result is to get a pair of myopic eyes early. Cui Jian's rock and roll, I have not heard much, at that time I was still young, I could not understand it.
"It's not that I don't understand, the world is changing too fast." It is true that human tragedies and joys are not necessarily the same, but there are always some emotions and emotions that are connected, for example, at present, many people are experiencing difficulties, whether they allow the days to be bleak and dull, or have light in their hearts, and strive to make ordinary days colorful, as if there is still a choice.
The same reality, do not become a "cave" of escape
On the evening of April 15, the rock musician Cui Jian video number concert with the theme of "continue to sprinkle some wild" swept the screen overnight, more than 40 million people watched the video, and the number of likes in the live broadcast room exceeded 100 million. Later, late at night on the 19th, the "WeChat circle of friends for 10 years" also rushed to the first place in Weibo's hot search, netizens have looked at the first circle of friends they have sent, and another wave of "memory killing" has surged forward. "It's youth", has become a common exclamation for everyone!
The circle of friends after the 60s, 70s and 80s is mostly a documentary of life, with joys and sorrows. I remember that my parents used to talk to their old classmates and colleagues about what happened in their time, about who died, who was sick, and I thought, how did they talk about this? Unexpectedly, now my classmates and I are also "old classmates" and "old classmates" in WeChat, and the topics we talk about are also the past time, and there are inevitable births, old and sick deaths.
Look at the circle of friends after 90 and 00, more about the record of eating, drinking and having fun, it is really good, youth is still there, you can dream, to chase dreams, to enjoy youth. However, it is important to remember not to waste your youth. Everyone's youth has and only once, too precious, to cherish.
In the past two years, everyone has spent more time on the Internet than ever, and every time I see young netizens shouting "boring" on the Internet and fighting a war of words, I will be anxious for them, how can they waste time like this? But, more often than not, I know that they are writing their own youth stories in their own way.
About the year before a book club, I met a girl named Wenwen, she studied comparative literature, likes to read, like poetry, she rarely sends a circle of friends, occasionally sends a message, but also to travel. Last time, looking at her circle of friends, she and her friends volunteered to help children in remote villages read, exercise, paint, and learn music. In the hustle and bustle of the world, she quietly did what she wanted to do.
Whether it is our parents' generation, our generation, and the younger generation, we all face the same reality, each with its own difficulties, each with its own opportunities, and each with its own choices. Can't go farther, we have more time gaps, so there are so many "memory killings", right?
Teacher Su said that she recalled the past, is proud, is no regrets; my, there are regrets, there are embarrassments, but also plain, true, after going to college, suddenly work hard, in one of the most beautiful campuses, in the library under the cherry blossom castle, quietly read more books, ancient and modern Chinese and foreign classic masterpieces, almost swallowed the date to read over and over again, all of my current writing skills should be the foundation laid at that time, but also in time to wake up; my dear niece, now also in a famous university graduate school, She also reads every day without sleeping or eating, she has good English, and she is involved in a wider range of knowledge, and she will definitely have greater achievements in the future.
Therefore, no matter how the world changes, most of us have never stopped moving forward. The famous philosopher Epicteide said: "When I see a person in anxiety, I will say to myself, what does this person want? Because if he doesn't want something out of his control, how can he still be anxious? ”
Recently, I saw a course by anthropologist Xiang Biao, discussing how years of work have become "work holes". Why do we work so hard, not because we like the job, but because we don't? How do we turn work into a process of simply saving money, and then do everything for the sake of future financial freedom, and then get rid of it? People drill into the holes of work, toiling, in order to climb out of the holes as soon as possible. This just leads to a kind of "suspension" of the present in our state of existence: we do not face the present directly, but always want to move towards the future, and the present has become a utilitarian step towards the future. But what is the future? What does it look like? I don't know. Work carried out in the form of "escaping the present" will never escape anxiety. This is also a rebellious solution, and instead of providing the tools to address anxiety, we take you to know the foundation of that anxiety. Only when you see it can you face it. In the final analysis, what kind of meaning each person can give to his or her own present moment is only his or her ability to decide.
Therefore, for those things that are not within our control, we should calmly face them, and at the same time, find our own strength in learning and speculation. Do it as well as you can, create some better memories for the rest of your life, and don't waste every life.
We still need courage, warmth and sobriety
In the final analysis, our "memory killing", the songs, film and television dramas, variety shows, etc. that we miss, more is to miss the people they carry, those things, those times that flow like flowing water, they have witnessed the years of our growth, the traces of youth, the throbbing of dreams, which is an indispensable part of our lives.
Staying on the Internet for too long, overwhelming, a variety of information, it is easy to make people dizzy, if there is not enough screening ability, screening ability and good psychological quality, it is easy to lose direction, into the uncertainty, insecurity, anxiety and anxiety of negative emotions, it is easier to linger on the good memories of the past.
The value of music, film and television dramas, and variety shows also lies in the fact that they can always arouse our emotional resonance, let us follow them or joy, or giggles, or tears, or excitement, every era, everyone's memory, there are always some classic melodies echoing, there are always chased stars, like people, that is also a unique memory, indelible. But our lives clearly don't stop there.
In any case, we must believe that online life is temporary, we will eventually return to the fiery real life, at this time, it should be a life adjustment process, using the slowed time, to observe, to think, to imagine. If the mood occasionally falls into doubt, pessimism and loss, you must adjust it in time.
My adjustment is to read a lot. April 23 is the 26th World Book Day, are you reading? What books did you read? Mr. Yang Dai once said: Reading is like "stealth" to visit the door, you can visit the wise teachers, scholars, and everyone at any time, you don't have to say hello and ask for a meeting in advance, and you are not afraid to disturb the master. Writer Maugham said that reading is also a refuge to carry around, and all the dissatisfaction, stress, and anxiety in life can be temporarily alleviated in reading.
Another quickest way to regulate your mood is to go outside and be healed by nature. April is the most beautiful season of the year, with new flowers blooming every day. Yasunari Kawabata said in the book "Ancient Capital": "The flower is alive, and although its life is short, it lives brilliantly and dazzlingly." In the coming year, it will bud and blossom, just like nature, full of life. "Every time I just look at the flowers, flowers, blow fresh wind, and look up at the sky, my mood will suddenly be cheerful."
There is also a simple way to make people full of blood resurrection, that is, to cook and eat happily with the family, in the past two years, there is less going out to eat, our family's cooking tricks, the level has increased greatly, every time we eat satisfactorily, and then sleep, there is nothing insurmountable.
Some time ago, Teacher Su also told me that she wanted to know if there were any public welfare activities suitable for her to participate in, and she saw if she could participate, and played a little residual heat, which once again moved me. Isn't that how life is? In difficult times, we help each other, and when we get through the most difficult times, we will meet together to go to distant places, travel, go to concerts, and meet people we miss.
I hope that my words can also give you a little encouragement at a certain moment, this spring, we still need courage, warmth and sobriety, may we all watch over each other, gather strength together, and cheer together!