In many people's concepts, it is natural for women to interact with each other, and it is a matter of course for women to spend men's money, and even many women will think that if a man is reluctant to spend money on her, it is that the man does not love her.
In many emotional stories, we often see this kind of remark, saying that men are reluctant to spend money on women, which is a manifestation of unlove.
Many friends around me also have this experience, and when they eat with men, they will naturally let men pay. However, there are also some women who will take the initiative to check out, but this part of the women is usually relatively rare.
Some women have a positive view of this situation, they will never take advantage of men, and they will not think that men pay is the performance of loving her.
So this kind of woman and man in love, they will also have the same giving. How much a man has paid for her, how much she will pay for a man.
So please don't think that women pay is a very strong performance of personality, there are three reasons behind this, we may wish to answer them one by one.
1, reluctant to spend your money, understand that you make money is not easy
Some women are reluctant to spend men's money because she knows it's not easy for men to make money, and this kind of thinking will make them think more about men in the process of dating.
Women of this type are usually more sensible and more sensible in their relationships. They know how to deal with the relationship between two people in the interaction between men and women, and they can also distinguish between priorities and priorities.
If a man is involved with such a woman, he will usually be happier. Because two people together will not feel tired because of who pays more, this belongs to the love that goes in both directions, gets along very well with each other, and happiness comes easily.
So in many marriages, we will find that some men buy a bag for their wives, or buy some expensive gifts, even if she is very happy, she will first blame men for spending money indiscriminately.
It's not that they don't like gifts, but they think that gifts are dispensable, and the most important thing is the life problems of two people. She doesn't want you to be too tired, and she doesn't want you to wronged yourself and your family because you bought her gifts.
Sometimes rejection does not mean dislike, and it may even be because of greater liking, so I am willing to let go of myself and complete more and greater love.
2) Don't think men should pay, they prefer independence
Some women are more independent, so they also behave particularly principled when it comes to interacting with men. When two people go to eat, or go shopping, seeing men paying the bill, women will stop them, and they don't want men to treat them as vulnerable.
In the relationship between men and women, there has never been any rule requiring who should do what to do, who should bear what, and no one stipulates that men must buy something for dating, and women should enjoy it.
In the concept of Chinese, it is usually the female protagonist inside and outside the male protagonist, especially in the case that the feelings have not yet been determined, the man's initiative to pay the bill will be considered polite and nurturing, and these behaviors of men will also add a lot of good feelings to women.
However, with the development of society, women are becoming more and more independent, and some women will break this outdated concept and play their own value. They will fight for their rights in this relationship, so many independent women will take the initiative to pay when two people are involved, and sit on an equal footing with men.
3, not interested in you, do not want to take advantage of you
Usually, the more you don't want to be related to one person, the more you care about the distance between two people.
For example, two people dating, if this woman is not interested in the man she meets, then she will most likely deliberately keep a distance from this man in the matter of consumption, and will not let the man take the initiative to pay.
Even if men do take the initiative to pay the bill, it is estimated that this type of woman will AA with men, emphasizing that they do not have any relationship with each other.
If you meet a more stubborn man who doesn't want to AA, then she will ask to see a movie next time, or do something else, and then she will pay for it. In short, a girl who doesn't have any feelings for you will not take advantage of you, and she will not be related to you.
These very obvious actions are telling you, "I'm not interested in you, please die this heart sooner." After all, in the concept of Chinese, even if they don't like you, they won't tell you directly, but they will show their thoughts and opinions in the dialogue with you."
So look at a woman's attitude and don't listen to what she says, but look at what she does.
In the process of male and female interaction, do not underestimate the fact that women pay the bill, which actually reflects the idea of a woman.
At the same time, don't think that women taking the initiative to pay is not to give you face, and wants to make you lose face in public.
Men should know how to understand a woman's heart and not always interfere with another person with their own ideas.