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01. Preface
If, if the eyes are the windows of the mind, then the mouth is the door of the mind.
Opening your mouth is actually equivalent to opening your heart. Interacting with people can see from a person's language what kind of color his inner world is.
As the British writer Johnson said: "Language can most expose a person, as long as you speak, I can understand you." 」 ”
The way you speak can show the true side of a person.
A person's emotions, personality, character, and even levels and patterns will be reflected in what he says.
In the journey of life, we may have many friends, we may meet confidants who must be cherished throughout our lives, and we may also meet people who are "kind and black-hearted".
Through his words, you can know what kind of character and emotional intelligence the other party is; looking at the way the other party speaks, you can judge whether this person is worth interacting with.
Whether a person is kind and dark-hearted can be seen from "talking".
02, the way to show the way of speaking
From the way a person speaks, it can vividly express what a person wants in his heart.
If, when a person speaks, he never says everything and his heart always swings from side to side, then it means that he may not have a sufficient position and is prone to becoming a wall grass.
People with a kind face and a dark heart speak well, but they are used to talking halfway through, after explaining the beginning of the matter clearly, and then they will wait for your reaction before speaking.
Such people are often not sincere enough and want to express a proper sense of closeness, but there are always concerns in their hearts, afraid that they will stand in the wrong line.
The reason why people with black hearts do not speak completely is that they often dare not take sides, for fear of harming their own interests. If someone else can offer a higher price tag, he may change his position.
People with good faces and dark hearts, in order to seek greater benefits, will not care about friendship, let alone care about moral shame.
On the road of life, truly kind people always leave no "bottom" when they speak, and treat the people around them with sincerity.
Life is short, stay away from people who talk to you and always have reservations. Because, you can't exchange it for sincerity.
03, the tone of speech
From the tone of a person's speech, we can see whether a person's heart is good or hypocritical.
People interact with each other, many people, will carefully make a mask for themselves. Some people pretend to be strong and down-to-earth; some people pretend to be weak, but they calculate to take shortcuts.
People with good faces and black hearts seem to be very gentle and talk very well, but in fact, they all hide "calculations".
Words of praise are always spoken on the lips, and what is expressed is like and flattering. While gaining the favor and trust of others, they quietly hold each other's resources and interests firmly in the palm of their hands.
People in the deep city government will not easily expose their true thoughts. Hide yourself viciously, cloak yourself in the skin of kindness, and get close to others.
People with good faces and black hearts are very soft when they speak, have no diamond horns, can always "understand" you very much, and can quickly get your favor.
Albert Einstein said, "There is nothing more beautiful in the world than to have a few solemn friends who have integrity in mind and heart." ”
True good friends, who speak often "loyally against the ear", occasionally speak "ugly", and will always remind you with their hearts to make you live more soberly.
If a person gets along with you, is cautious everywhere, can not objectively put forward your strengths and weaknesses, always say good things, or even fake big empty, then such a person, even if there is no bad intention, there is not much significance in continuing to communicate.
04, the content of the speech to see the interests
Some people, speaking like chess, every sentence has its purpose. People with good faces and dark hearts are often very urban governments, and when they talk to people, the meaning they express always want to control the overall situation.
Even, when speaking, he will treat the people around him as pawns and think of himself as the center of the universe.
If you take a closer look, you will find that everything that unfolds when a person with a good face and a dark heart speaks revolves around his interests.
It's as if every sentence is for your own good, but what you get is a sesame-sized benefit, but it benefits him endlessly.
People with good faces and black hearts, inside and outside, are only related to interests, and unabashedly express the need to pursue interests.
And people who are really worthy of deep friendship know how to "make profits" when they speak. He will always consider how you feel and how much you should be rewarded for your efforts.
People with good hearts, honest and responsible, only take the part of the benefits they deserve, and will not count others.
People with good faces and black hearts only care about their own interests, and they always want to encroach on the interests of others in order to maximize their own interests.
05. Summary
The interaction between people, whether a person's character is good or not, can be seen from speaking.
In life, you will meet all kinds of people. You don't know whether the person you meet is true or good, or hypocritical. When you don't know someone, don't get acquainted with someone too quickly.
A person's good and evil, true and false is actually no way to hide, more and the other party to say a few words, all aspects to understand the other party's intentions, you can understand.
If the other person is always eager to talk and stop, wanting to get more commitment from your mouth, then this person has a plan.
If a person always shows a particularly affectionate look and wants to get closer to you, the other party may not be enthusiastic and sunny, but has a plot.
If a person is hypocritical, whether he is good or not, please stay away from him.
In life, make more good friends, and make more friends with people who are upright, kind, optimistic and uplifting. Make the right friends, and the rest of your life will be more smooth.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.