The shortest way to win hearts and minds is to get to know each other.
Ever seen a classic marketing story.
A few people sell combs to the temple, but the monks have no hair, so how to sell combs?
From the perspective of products, you can only constantly emphasize the material, design, function, etc. of your own products, but the monk does not need it, and naturally will not buy it.
However, if you think from the customer's point of view, turn the comb into an "open light comb", "wisdom comb", "marriage comb"... With the specific scenarios needed, sales are only high and not low.
When pursuing girls, the truth is actually the same.
In the process of pursuit, boys are often the identity of the seller, and it is themselves who want to sell, while the girl is the identity of the customer, and will always consider it first.
If you only use the boy's thinking to chase the girl, no matter how hard you try, it may not be pleasing.
On the contrary, it is willing to use girls' thinking to pursue girls, and when standing in the perspective of girls to establish their own value, the pursuit of results may be twice as effective.
However, what confuses many people is that they have not pursued success at all, and how to use girls' thinking to pursue girls.
In fact, the method is not difficult, follow the girl's thinking to chase the girl, just need to do these things.
01.
Pay attention to each other's "emotions"
In "Talk Show Conference", Yang Mengen once said:
"I especially envy the friendship between girls, get along well and happily, and chat is very simple, one says 'I think Malone is handsome', the other says 'I also think, aaaah' is enough." 」
In this passage, in fact, it already reflects the characteristics of male and female thinking, girls pay attention to emotional feelings, but boys pay attention to the truth.
The reason why girls say a topic may be simply to find it interesting, or simply to share, or it may be a simple relief of emotions, do not need others to give themselves constructive doctrine, and do not like others to contradict themselves.
But boys often think differently.
In Yang Kasa's words, when chatting with boys, no matter what they send, boys like to talk at length, and they will think, is this person sending me a message purely for chat, definitely not, she should want to learn something from me.
As a result, the boy sent "Malone is handsome", and the boy may return "the inside is more important than the appearance".
When girls share that they are full and say that they are "too full", boys may return to "that fast up exercise exercise".
In fact, these replies are not only unnecessary, but also seem redundant, and many times their own "I am too" can resonate with girls.
Including when girls have sadness, sadness, depression, happiness and other emotions, what boys need to do is to understand, to consider what girls want, rather than what they want to give to each other.
When girls have the feeling of being understood, enjoy the feeling of chatting, and are used to having someone to accompany them, they will naturally be moved by the habit.
Afraid, is that boys always want to deliberately chat, so as to ignore the girl's emotions, so that girls feel that the result of getting along too tired, is to let themselves lose their competitive advantage, and finally the reason said a lot, but the frequency of the other party's message will be lower and lower.
02.
"Weakening" pursues purpose
Some time ago, a friend was ready to buy a house and talked about an interesting phenomenon he encountered.