Chen Xiaochun's lover Finally collapsed! Sure enough, in front of the law, no one could pretend

Author: Xue Lejun

Source: Parent-Child Learning

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Recently, Chen Xiaochun was on the hot search because of a popular law microblog.

It turned out that he participated in a variety show, "Our Piping Hot Life", in which Hu Haiquan asked a question:

Is it illegal for a husband and wife, between lovers, to peek at each other's mobile phone without consent?

Soon, the lawyer gave an answer:

Looking at your partner's phone without permission may constitute an offence.

Because citizens enjoy the right to privacy, no organization or individual may infringe on the privacy rights of others by means of spying, harassment, leakage, or disclosure.

Although it is a very intimate relationship between partners, it is also necessary to respect each other's right to privacy.

If the show only goes here, everyone will only add a piece of legal knowledge.

But it was funny, and Chen Xiaochun, who heard this knowledge point, seemed very excited, and directly asked incoherently:

"What? My wife may be illegal when she looks at my phone? ”

After receiving the reply, he repeated again that "it is not allowed in the law".

After repeated confirmation, he finally realized that he had frantically raised the corners of his mouth and secretly snickered, as if he had obtained some Shangfang Sword.

But after Ying Cai'er saw this paragraph, she replied directly on Weibo: there is no need to peek.

With Ying Cai'er's character, he should be able to look at it with openness and not peek.

For a long time, the two husbands and wives in the eyes of the public, Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er, are synonymous with love.

Chen Xiaochun was a hot-tempered and full-tempered "mountain chicken brother" before marriage, and became "Mr. Good" after marriage;

Ying Cai'er was a smooth big lady before marriage, and after marriage, she was willing to marry and teach her children.

On the day of the wedding, Chen Xiaochun signed a "deed of sale", and the oath was even more exaggerated than Huang Xiaoming's "baby you are finished":

"Every month my income will be handed over to you, and my pocket money will be at your disposal. I take care of the housework at home, and I want to give birth to boys and girls. I will be very gentle with you, accompanying you for the rest of my life, and I am the only one in my life. ”

After that, the "three chapters of the covenant law" before marriage were strictly implemented:

1. Do not take the initiative to leave a phone for other girls.

2. Report on whereabouts every day.

3. You must say goodnight before going to bed.

Ying Cai'er also successfully infected her husband with her signature smile.

Even if Chen Xiaochun is affectionately pretending to be cool on the stage, seeing Ying Cai'er interact with himself will break the work for a second and smile with a spoiled face.

Even if she has gone through more than ten years of marriage, as long as She mentions Ying Cai'er, Chen Xiaochun will look sweet and proud, saying that she promised her wife that she would not divorce for a lifetime.

And firmly believe that "either you will not get married, or you will never divorce at all".

And Ying Cai'er also praised her husband:

"Along the way, I found that no matter how much fame and status giants have deep feelings, they can't stand up to a Chen Xiaochun."

He values his family very much:

"Sister is not out of the show business circle, sister is the top of the mother circle." Don't ask me what my masterpiece is, I will tell you that my masterpiece is my home. ”

In this marriage, Chen Xiaochun gave enough love and respect, in addition to the commitment at the wedding, even what program he wanted to participate in at work and what announcement to receive were left to Cai'er to decide.

But as Chen Xiaochun showed in "Our Piping Hot Life", even if the marriage is beautiful, there will be some things that are not so liked and not so willing, such as:

Ying Cai'er will move Chen Xiaochun's mobile phone, including checking the contents of the mobile phone, including locating the mobile phone, including using any means by which the mobile phone can be found...

In "The Wife's Romantic Trip", Ying Cai'er admitted that she had seen her husband's mobile phone.

When she "wants to prove something," she peeks and thinks she's seeing something.

For example, other women have sent messages to their husbands, "Why are you missing?" ”

But she did not make a big fuss with her husband, but took some measures against other women, so that others felt that Chen Xiaochun's women were not easy to do, and don't cause trouble for herself anymore.

In "Super Access" and "Mars Intelligence Bureau", Ying Cai'er also defended herself for positioning her husband's mobile phone:

"Mobile phone positioning is not called finding people, it is called finding mobile phones. I was afraid that my husband's mobile phone would fall off, so I helped him set a position. ”

"Of course, people and mobile phones must be together."

If you don't forget it, there will be an echo.

Once, when she was very bored during pregnancy, she clicked on the mobile phone, but unexpectedly found the cat greasy.

The husband just said that he was in a meeting, but the positioning display was in the middle of the sea, and only after questioning did he know that the husband and a group of friends went to a party.

The star who can check the mobile phone, there is more than one.

Venus, who is known for her true temperament, also said in the "Venus Show" that she once accidentally saw a flight information of her husband, always trusted her husband, and never checked the other party's mobile phone in just a few minutes.

First, her husband did not report the trip, she did not know that her husband went to Munich;

Second, her husband has no relatives in Munich, but he has a female friend in Munich.

Although she later learned that the other party had just gone to a ball game, no matter what, the alertness and trepidation of that moment were also real.

Her good friend, Xu Fan, also secretly checked Feng Xiaogang's mobile phone, but compared to The frank explanation of Venus's husband, Feng Xiaogang said a good thing about it:

"If you don't want a divorce, do your thing, don't worry too much."

Also because the "mobile phone" sent an exclamation:

Moreover, in addition to the entertainment industry, even in the lives of ordinary people, there are not a few people who check each other's mobile phones.

At that time, it seemed that everyone could transform into Sherlock Holmes, and the slightest trace could be found, associated, and investigated.

There are even people who secretly take each other's mobile phones to send a "I miss you" to all his female friends, fishing law enforcement.

As a result, on the one hand, mobile phones have become taboo, and all the content in it is privacy;

On the other hand, mobile phones have also become the fuse of suspicion, quarrels and even breakups and divorces.

Why check your phone? The essence is distrust, doubt, to verify something.

What about after looking at your phone? There are bound to be two outcomes:

One is that I don't see anything suspicious.

But even so, will you be at ease? Probably not.

On the contrary, they will wonder if the other party has deleted all the evidence?

If there is no information about a suspicious object at all, will it be "there is no silver in this place for three hundred and two"?

Why are other people's chats grinning widely, and they don't have any reservations with hers?

You will continue to verify, and then this suspicion will grow wildly, destroying the original intimate relationship between the two of you.

In psychology, there is a kind of "self-validation", that is, when you identify something, you will find ways to prove that what you think is correct.

That is to say, when you feel that the other party is cheating, then his every move seems to be more and more like cheating;

When you feel that a person's relationship with your husband is not normal, then the more she looks at her words and deeds, the more uncomfortable she becomes.

And the human subconscious has super powerful powers.

In the famous "Death Row Experiment", a prisoner who was about to be executed died before long after being blindfolded, separated by a knife and separated by a knife, and listened to the blood dripping down.

And in fact? Although he felt pain, he did not really bleed, all he heard was a deliberately placed drip device.

He died of powerful fear and a super-strong subconscious.

In the famous "placebo effect", even if the patient does not take the medicine at all, the symptoms can be alleviated.

Why? It is because they believe that they are taking "real medicine" and believe that doctors can cure them.

So, once the seed of doubt is planted, it will grow irrationally and wildly, devouring everything.

The seeds of trust take root and sprout, and they can also correct the direction of life.

The second is that you do see the evidence.

At this time, an adult needs to be prepared before making a decision.

Is it ready to fight the grass to scare the snake, or to prepare a quick knife to cut the mess;

Whether to be prepared to bear it generously, or to break the net of dead fish.

Adults do things first by thinking about the consequences.

Once you've thought about it, do it.

In most cases, it is best not to check it, because it is "mediocre self-disturbance" and may lose both.

Chaucer said, "Doubting everything is the same mistake as trusting everything, and it is right to have it."

On yesterday's Valentine's Day, Ying Caierka posted a weibo post to celebrate the 12-year marriage between the two.

Still sweet, still as loving as ever.

In the matter of looking at the mobile phone, Chen Xiaochun probably would not accuse Ying Cai'er of breaking the law.

In the matter of husband and wife relationship, mobile phones are only a small part of it.

Looking at the mobile phone, it is only the appearance of the marriage relationship, whether the two people are in the same heart, can be felt from many details of life.

How do people and their partners deal with the matter of looking at mobile phones? Welcome to leave a message to let us know.

The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted.

Author: Xue Lejun. This article is reproduced from kidsfund: The most important scene of children's education is the family, and the core relationship is parent-child. Dou Dad, a child psychological counselor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, provides you with the truth of parenting every day. Please contact the original author for reproduction.