Author┃ Ziming Read aloud ┃ Xiao Mo
Guidance ┃ Guo Xinai Editor ┃ 丄学号
Recently, there is a news that "boys give up the college entrance examination to accompany their fathers to the last days", which makes netizens break the defense!
Xiao Li, who was preparing for the college entrance examination, learned that his father had a brain stem hemorrhage, gave up studying abroad and returned to his father to take care of him until his father finished his last life.
After his father was discharged from the hospital, Xiao Li has been accompanying him around and taking care of him carefully, and every part of his hometown has left happy memories of father and son: "Every time my father takes medicine, it is very uncomfortable, and I will try my best to coax him, just like when he coaxed me when I was a child." ”
In the impression, Dad is an optimistic and strong man, no matter how hard and tired, he can always face it easily.
Unfortunately, a few days ago, my father left, and the hero in Xiao Li's heart left forever...
Today, Xiao Li has re-entered the college entrance examination. He said with emotion: "If there is still a chance to meet in the next life, I will be a father to take care of him." ”
Netizens read it and left messages: "You will have a bright future." "Filial piety is the cornerstone of career success." "Children who know how to be grateful are the most outstanding." ”......
Indeed, gratitude is more important than anything else. With a grateful heart, children will be filial, will be considerate of others, will have all kinds of beautiful possibilities, and the future will be valuable to society.
There is a saying that goes: if you want a child to become an adult, you must let him learn to be grateful.
It is true that children who know how to be grateful are the luck of their parents; children who do not know how to be grateful are the sorrow of their parents.
Raising children who understand gratitude is a lifelong practice for parents.
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Raise children who know how to be grateful
It is a blessing for parents throughout their lives
Whoever says anything will be rewarded with three Chunhui.
The love of parents is the spring light, which shines on the earth, and the child is the bud of the little grass, bathed in the sun, and thriving.
Three years ago, a cute baby smile on the Internet healed countless people.
The baby in the photo is called Fei'er, and shortly after birth, a pneumonia broke out and spent all the family's savings.
Fei'er's father is a delivery man, her mother sells meat in the vegetable market, and both husband and wife are very busy at work.
In order to take care of the child, the father took Fei'er with him, and unlike other babies, the half-year-old Fei'er was not sitting in a normal stroller, but a courier box on his father's motorcycle.
In this way, a baby who has just sat, follows her father, gallops on the street, and when her father stops, she will timidly show her small face, curiously watching her father work hard, it is not easy, wait for her father to finish the meal, feed her milk, tease her, and her face will smile and blossom.
When Fei Er is a little older, she will ask in her childish voice: "Daddy, I can wait for you downstairs", "Daddy, will you cause you trouble with me?" ”
Dad did not stop the work in his hand, directly smiled at her warmly, and said softly: "Fei'er is not a burden to Daddy, Fei'er is a treasure that Daddy exchanged for his youth!" ”
Three years have passed, and the days of wind and rain every day have made the little girl see the hardships of her father's work and understand the difficulty of her father's life.
Fei'er, who grew up, would help her father do all kinds of housework. Dad went to work, she cleaned up the place at home, saw that the dishes had not been washed, moved to the small bench, stood on it and washed the dishes clean. At such a young age, it is painful to understand things.
Some netizens enviously said: This father is how many blessings have been accumulated in the past life, and only in this life can there be such a good baby!
The child's smile hides the feeling of licking the calf, which is really an inexplicable healing.
Gratitude is the medicine to save the human heart.
Many times, when we drag our tired bodies home from work, see the child hand you a glass of water, prepare slippers for you, and hear the child's soft greeting, all the fatigue and grievances on the body will disappear.
Yes, a child's ordinary behavior, a warm word, will make parents feel that everything in the world is bright, and happiness is born spontaneously.
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Raise children who don't know how to be grateful
It is the sadness of a parent's life
Zhu Xi once said: "The doting one is unknown, and the greedy one is insatiable."
Deeply.
The more doting the parents, the less grateful the children become.
In Metamorphosis, there is a scene that particularly impressed me.
A father and son are rushing to the next recording point, the son is seventeen or eighteen years old, dressed in a fashion brand sportswear, striding forward, walking easily in front.
The father, holding a huge suitcase in one hand and a large bag and a small wrapper in the other, staggered behind his son.
They got on a bus, perhaps the father's luggage was too much, some passengers took the initiative to give him a seat, the father hurriedly beckoned his son to come and sit well, the son did not say thank you, he sat down happily.
While holding his luggage, the father opened the map to see the station, and when he found the station, he found that it was already past the station, and he hurriedly beckoned his son to get off.
Unexpectedly, the son not only did not help his father with his luggage, but instead threw all his anger on his father.
His mouth shouted: "You old thing, tell you not to sit in this kind of broken car, you have to!" Okay now, right? It's going to be late! He was angry and punched and kicked his father.
The people in the program group went to dissuade him, but they were also insulted by him.
The passengers on the bus were in an uproar, shook their heads and sighed: Today's young people do not understand gratitude, nor do they understand filial piety.
The father's eyes were red, he bowed his head sadly, slowly squatted down with a trembling body, packed up the luggage scattered on the ground, and quickly followed his son.
Shakespeare said, "The ungrateful child eats more pain than the sharp teeth of a serpent." ”
The greatest misfortune of a family is not that the child is mediocre and has no deeds, but that the child does not know gratitude, cannot understand and hurts the parents.
This stems from the habitual blind giving of parents, so that children feel that everything their parents do is taken for granted.
Children who are pampered by their parents are self-centered and cannot understand the difficulties of others. I will not be grateful to the people around me.
Children who do not know how to be grateful, they will only take in life, and their parents will be slightly sluggish and immediately resentful.
Parents raising children of "white-eyed wolves" is a lifetime of sadness.
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Teach children to be grateful
It is the best gift that parents can give to their children
Grateful children, even if they don't stand on the stage, will shine extraordinarily.
Xiaojing is her daughter's best classmate, and despite her poor family conditions, her grades have always been among the best.
Xiao Jing's father is a sanitation worker, honest and dedicated, and an advanced worker in the unit. In the fourth grade, my grandmother unfortunately had cancer, so my mother quit her job and changed to an hourly job, taking care of my grandmother during the day and cooking for others at night.
Although they work at the bottom and live a tight life, they never complain and often proudly say to their daughters: "Mom and Dad do the most glorious work." ”
When grandma's condition was stable and she was discharged from the hospital, Xiaojing wrote the words of thanks on the card and secretly placed them on the doctor's desktop.
Grandma took Xiao Jing's hand and said happily: "Xiao Jing knows that she is grateful to the doctor, and in the future, she will definitely be filial to her parents." Xiao Jing put her arms around her grandmother and said, "I will also be filial to you!" ”
Xiao Jing understood that when she grew up, she should share some things for the family. On weekends, she always rushed with her mother to do housework and clean up the house.
At the graduation ceremony, Xiaojing was invited to the stage to give a speech, she said heartily: "In addition to thanking the teachers, I also want to thank my parents, who work hard every day, just for grandma and me, to have a good living environment." I will study hard and thank them with practical actions!"
Parents look at everything in life with a grateful heart, and children will feel the beauty of life.
The best love that parents have for their children is to cultivate their children to understand gratitude, so that children can be grateful to their parents, their elders, and all those who provide help for themselves.
The Eastern Han Dynasty thinker Wang Fu once said: "Life needs a grateful heart to create, and a grateful heart needs life to nourish." ”
Every move, word and deed of parents will affect children in life.
Parents face the frustration and misfortune of life with a grateful heart, and the child will be grateful for everything in life with actions.
Children who know how to be grateful, life will give you brilliant sunshine, and you can go further on the road of growth.
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Be grateful
To borrow a sentence from Zheng Siyun, a student who received assistance: "People, growing in gratitude, maturing in return, and flowers blossoming and falling, are all a ceremony of gratitude." ”
To be grateful is to cherish what you have and to be grateful.
Educating children should start with small things, such as: walking with the elderly, helping parents carry things, making a dish that they are good at... Repeat the drill in life, subtly affecting the child.
Let the child taste life with a little heart, and look around with a grateful heart.
Children who are grateful from elementary school grow up with better social skills, stronger resistance to stress, more emotional stability, and higher happiness.
2022 has arrived, may the new year, all children be grateful, all encounters are beautiful!
Author: ZiMing, like words, prefer children, with gratitude, and grow up with children as inspirational mothers.
Appreciation belongs to the author
Reader┃ Xiao Mo
Xiao Mo, a junior high school teacher, is a spiritual life, understanding the soul of words with the heart, reading aloud to match the heart of the words, and using sound to convey the love and kindness in the words.
Shanbo Education Guide ┃ Guo Xinai
Guo Xinai, principal of a primary school in Shenzhen, a first-class teacher, a family education instructor, an advanced educator in Bao'an District, served as the director of the Moral Education Office, engaged in education for 34 years, loves calligraphy and literary creation, and his works have repeatedly won awards in various calligraphy and literature competitions at all levels, focusing on the comprehensive quality education of youth growth, psychological education and parent-child parenting.