Letter | Luan Shujing: To Youth

To youth

Text/Luan Shujing

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Dear Son: Hello!

Mom and Dad first wish you a happy birthday! Congratulations on taking another big step forward on the road of life, adding a new step, Happy 25th Birthday!!

When you were an adult at the age of 18, I wrote a letter to you called you "To Youth", instructing you to be determined to do big things and do every little thing seriously, and then every birthday of yours, I will simply write my own thoughts, communicate with my son, and put forward my and your father's suggestions, hoping to help you in your future life.

Next year you will leave school, enter society, and go to the training ground of life. In the last year or so, in addition to working in the school laboratory, writing the graduation thesis, but also facing the choice of employment, this is a key node in life, your choice will determine the direction of your future life, mom sat down and wanted to talk to you.

First, about growth and academics

In the past few days, your father and I have reviewed your twenty years of study, going to kindergarten, primary school, middle school, successfully entering the university, and guaranteeing your doctoral education after four years... These shots are like a movie, vividly remembered... Fortunately, my son is a person who loves life and is positive, and he can always take the initiative to face problems and move forward bravely. More than three years of doctoral study, plus you have been serving as a student leader and tutor assistant, although you have several positions, you can focus on scientific research, take care of other things, and every task can be completed on schedule.

Your dad and I know that there is a lot of pressure to study for a Ph.D., especially a doctor of engineering, who soaks in the lab every day. Especially when encountering major scientific research projects, in order to complete scientific research tasks on schedule, they often eat and live in the laboratory with their supervisors and teams for several days and nights. Encountering a bottleneck period in scientific research, unable to find direction and ideas, people can not be discharged, this kind of psychological pressure is not the average person can bear. And our baby, under this pressure, is not afraid, not discouraged, facing difficulties, and solving one problem after another, this experience is really a great grind for my son. Jiaotong University is really a melting pot, a good scientific research atmosphere and learning style, so that the son has learned and gained; in the course of repeated training, the son's mind has gradually become stronger.

Dear son, although you are 25 years old, you have been studying and living on campus and lack social experience. Stepping into society will not produce a psychological gap. From elementary school to middle school to university, and even after graduating from college, I was directly recommended as a doctorate, and everything went so smoothly, almost no setbacks, no tribulations. Mom and Dad suddenly felt: in the stage of experiencing setbacks and grinding growth, everything is too smooth but a little worried, may give you some illusions, is not contemptuous of this society, can adapt to the fast-paced high-intensity big city life, all of this, in the parents' minds repeatedly swirling, but also many times with familiar relatives and friends to discuss and communicate, especially your two aunts and uncles, uncles and aunts, we sit together often talk about your employment direction and choices, but also different opinions. But we still consider your thoughts and insist on listening to your own inner voice.

Dear son, this may be the parents' superfluous worry, you are talented, responsive, generous and inclusive, do things boldly, think clearly, especially rare is that you have a strong self-discipline ability, adolescence shows extraordinary self-confidence, self-control and your age rare objective attitude, rational thinking, we believe that you can do better in the future.

Second, about ideals and professions

Mom has always remembered the scene when I entered the university, you were not happy when you got the military training uniform, and when you saw the national defense students training on the playground, she said to us: I could have worn a real camouflage uniform. After the college entrance examination, you have already obtained the political examination certificate approved in advance by the military school, and you need to go to the hospital to do the eyes, at that time, your father was very entangled, thinking that doing eye surgery was very unsafe, so the military school did not go. This has also become a matter of concern that we do not want to mention, and we feel that we should not give our children a hard idea at that time. Fortunately, in the four years of college, my son grew up very quickly in all aspects. At the age of eighteen, he has joined the party honorably, and he has held many positions such as class president and sports minister, but he can arrange it freely and with ease. What is even more precious is that you met the mentor who guided you on the road of life--- Teacher Xie, who led you into the door of scientific research and began to participate in various electronic and digital simulation competitions, which has the opportunity to guarantee the delivery of the university to study for a doctorate. Although he lost touch with the military camp, under the guidance of Teacher Xie, he entered the door of scientific research and became a doctoral student of the Jiaotong University Electric Power Institute

Third, about scientific research and mentoring

Entering Jiaotong University for a doctorate is a major turning point in your life. This time, the school, the major, and the tutor are all your own choices, and they are also what you like and are good at. Very fortunately, you met your doctoral supervisor Wu at Jiaotong University, which is a good tutor with both ability and political integrity, and you finally chose the major that you were interested in, and also met a rare mentor in life. I and your father are really happy and grateful in our hearts, teachers and apprentices such as father and son, the son has the honor to get teacher Wu's appreciation and weight, I believe you will follow Teacher Wu well, do your own scientific research and work, live up to the expectations of teachers, conscientious, excellence, so that scientific research and work to a higher level.

Fourth, on employment and success

What kind of job you choose after graduation is up to you, and Mom and Dad respect your opinion. Mom and Dad know that you have a plan for your life, it is very important to find your career position, you must understand what you are good at, what is the most suitable for what to do, and whether this job can maximize your strengths. But in an unsuitable industry, although you work hard and can produce results, the pace of your professional growth is much slower. Of course, my parents also know that once you make a choice, you will invest enough enthusiasm and effort in your own work, because we know in our hearts that my son is a child who never accepts defeat, and his heart is very strong, and his consistent style of doing things is to be attentive and serious. The world is afraid of the word serious, as long as you do it with your heart, success will belong to you.

Son, twenty-five years old, the first golden time of your life, means that you have really grown up, matured, how to go in the future, I believe you will have your own opinion. Being a person depends on one's duty, and doing things depends on one's ability. Without experiencing wind and rain, how can you see the rainbow, no one can succeed casually. Mom and Dad believe that you will have enough ability and courage to deal with all this in the future. "On paper, I finally feel shallow, and I know that I have to do this", come on, dear son, success always belongs to those who are fully prepared and brave to practice.

Fifth, on responsibility and the future

Xu is related to the family style and family teaching inheritance, and we know that the son is also a filial and sensible child, with a delicate and soft mind. In the winter of 2015, your grandfather who brought you up from childhood was suddenly hospitalized, and your father and I wanted you to come back to see your grandfather, but your grandfather, who loved you very much, resolutely did not allow it, saying not to tell your grandson who was studying thousands of miles away, let alone come back to send him. On the day of Grandpa's death, I suddenly received a call from you, and you cried and told me that you had a dream last night, dreamed of Grandpa, why didn't you tell you about this, you want to come back and give Grandpa a ride. Mom doesn't know how you got the ticket for someone, ran all the way, and returned to Grandpa's house that day. Just the moment you saw your grandfather kowtow to burn paper, I suddenly felt in my heart that the affection of blood thicker than water cannot be stopped by any time and space, and the telepathy between relatives will always exist.

In the Spring Festival of 2019, we decided to take your grandparents out on a trip for the Spring Festival for the New Year, and as soon as possible, considering that your grandfather's legs and feet are not good and his body is weak, your father still insists. The beauty of Guilin's landscape makes your grandparents really linger, Chinese New Year's Eve night, your uncle's family and we met in Guilin, and the whole family ate Chinese New Year's Eve meal together. Back at the hotel, get ready to pack up your things and go to Weizhou Island. At this time, you suddenly browse on your mobile phone that there is already an epidemic on Weizhou Island and you can't go there. The son immediately decided to tell us that we must change the ticket as soon as possible, cancel all the itinerary, and return. At this time, it was already Chinese New Year's Eve at 11 o'clock in the evening, the son changed the return ticket in a very short period of time, canceled all the itinerary arrangements such as Weizhou Island, and then notified the grandparents and uncles' families to return tomorrow morning. At this time, your father said that grandpa had signs of a cold, cough and low-grade fever. The son firmly said that the new crown pneumonia has little impact on young people, and the recovery is also fast, tomorrow I will accompany my grandfather here, and my parents and grandmother and uncle will return together. Mr. Da xu of my family was distressed by his son and said that he stayed with his father. Father and son rush to bear each other, let me feel solid and warm in my heart, this is the responsibility, responsibility and mission of manhood, how fortunate I am to have such two supermen by my side! Fortunately, the next morning, Grandpa's cold symptoms improved significantly, and there was no longer a fever, so we returned smoothly and returned home safely. Fortunately, he returned home and locked down the city the next day. Later outbreaks on Weizhou Island also spread because of imported cases from Wuhan. At this time, we are really fortunate, because our son's quick reaction and decisive handling of things have saved us from these disturbances. I was really impressed by my son's boldness and wit. Going out to travel and departure, as long as the son is there, we all obey the son's arrangement, driving to eat and live are the son carefully arranged the journey, the whole tour guide and driver, we feel comfortable and warm, your father can't help but sigh: it is good to have such a son, my family's super warm man!

Son, after so much experience, your adaptability and ability to deal with things will be more mature. But as the eldest son and grandson of the family, you must know how to take responsibility - take on your responsibilities, take on your obligations! Whether it is for yourself or your parents, or your future family or even society, you have to take on different responsibilities. Don't be afraid of losing money, don't be afraid of hardships when doing things. In study and life, we must not only work hard alone, but also cooperate sincerely with others. Be good at summarizing and have the courage to take responsibility.

Your parents are just companions in your growing up, you are becoming more and more independent and stronger, while we are getting weaker and weaker, more and more dependent on you. In the years to come, your parents' arms may not be able to reach your distant flight, and we hope to see you at that time full of wings, brave and tenacious. I hope that you are better than blue out of blue, and I hope that you will succeed in your studies and succeed in your career. I hope that you can always work diligently and down-to-earth, step by step, with courage, knowledge, faith, and pursuit to fight in the long sky, create your own new life, break out of your own world, become the leader in our big family, and become a real role model among younger brothers and sisters.

Speaking of responsibility, I immediately remembered the tutors of Jiaotong University, in the face of the sudden campus war "epidemic", the school's tutors incarnated as "big white", driving private cars to deliver meals to the students in the dormitory, as well as daily necessities, they could not care about the elderly and children at home, and the teachers built floors and stuck to the school. The busy figure of jiaotong university "big white" appeared in front of the dormitory building, and the students stood in the corridor with brush brushes, singing the school song together, shouting: Teacher, you have worked hard! Take care of yourself! Seeing this, my mother burst into tears. As a parent, I would like to thank the leaders and teachers of Jiaotong University for all that they have done for the children, and to all the teachers and volunteers who have paid their respects, they are really the responsibility and responsibility of the children of Jiaotong University, the role models of the children, and the beacon and navigation of the children. Son, I believe that as a jiaotong adult, you must see it in your eyes and remember it in your heart. Give the greatest support and cooperation to the various epidemic prevention work carried out by the school, and work together with all teachers and students to overcome the difficulties together. Spring warmth has arrived, the flowering period is not far away, I believe that the epidemic will soon dissipate, brilliant fragrant day, must be the time of the big meeting.

Regarding studying abroad, we are not opposed, because of the epidemic, it has not been realized for a long time, so let it go naturally, and there will be opportunities in the future.

Jiaotong University, a big stage with dreams, dear son, the youth of struggle is the most beautiful, and the footprints of running are the brightest. As long as you have the responsibility, have the responsibility, dare to do it, work hard, have dreams, and be down-to-earth, you can do a lot. Live up to Shaohua, forge ahead, and move forward together to the future!

Dear son: Happy Birthday! Everything went well!

Written by Mom on March 25, 2022

【 About the author】Luan Shujing, female, February 1970, deputy principal of Dongchang Road Primary School, loves to read, love life, like writing, traveling, photography, raising flowers.