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Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Where there are rivers and lakes, there will be open strife and secret struggle. Where there are open and secret struggles, there are countless contradictions between right and wrong. All of this is an endless cycle.
We all hope that there will be less right and wrong, less contradictions, and harmony between people, and not to do too much.
But hope is beautiful and reality is bone-chilling. As long as there are crowds, the contradictions will not be less, only more and more, and even affect ourselves.
For example, in the workplace, you have suffered from the calculations of others, so what will you do? For example, in the jianghu, some people look down on you, or even look down on you, then what kind of approach will you take?
According to the concept of most people "more is better than less", I believe that many people will choose to "retreat and retreat", even if they use hot faces to paste other people's cold butts, they will not hesitate.
It can only be said that there is a knife on the head of the word "forbearance", and this knife will not only hurt others, but also hurt yourself. If it is not used well, it is still ourselves who are unlucky.
Man, who endures and endures, is easily regarded as a docile sheep. In the end, others will only continue to suppress you, and even become more intense.
Therefore, when you meet those who deliberately suppress and exclude you, you must not endure it again and again, but you must deal with it like this.
02
When you meet someone who deliberately suppresses you, you must know how to "play tai chi".
Others are particularly strong and tough. If you choose to be tough, the result can be imagined, but it is just "the mantis arm as a car, self-destruction".
Therefore, many people will choose to "obey" and completely make themselves weak. The result was also cruel, that is, being bullied until the day he was fired.
The ancients had a saying: "If it is too rigid, it will be folded, and if it is too soft, it will be wasted." ”
A person, too rigid, too weak, is not a good thing. And what we have to do should be "rigid and soft", just like playing tai chi, avoiding its sharp edge, and achieving the effect of taking one step back and two steps forward.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Xiahou Huan led 100,000 soldiers and horses to attack Xinye. Zhuge Liang, on the other hand, chose to show weakness appropriately, retreated in disguise, avoided its sharp edge, made the other side proud, and finally attacked and annihilated the Cao army with fire, and won a great victory.
This is a typical classic case of "showing weakness" and then "winning strong with weakness".
The essence of playing tai chi is to use the other party's hardness to restrain the other party. This is a necessary ability for most professionals.
03
When you meet someone who deliberately suppresses you, you must learn to "kill".
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that if you meet someone you hate, you don't need to talk to him too much, you just need to hold him up. When he reached a certain position, he naturally disappeared.
This kind of "holding up" behavior is essentially "holding up".
What is "killing"? In short, if you make his voice and position higher and higher, then he will become more and more arrogant and look down on people. Slowly, his weaknesses became apparent, and even if you didn't fight him back, he would seek his own demise.
I have seen such a case.
Xiao Wang especially hated Xiao Li, thinking that he did not have the ability to rise so high. However, he did not have the intention to do anything, but kept pushing Xiao Li up. As a result, Xiao Li was dismissed directly due to his inability, the project failed, and the company suffered huge losses.
His temporary strength is actually nothing. If God wants a man to perish, he must make him crazy. As long as he goes to a certain height, crazy to a certain extent, I believe he is not far from failure.
Therefore, killing is the most common trick in this era.
04
When you meet someone who deliberately suppresses you, you must know how to "pretend to be crazy and sell stupidity."
A fist hits you, and you know you can't resist it, so what do you do? Hard to carry, meaningless, only by pretending to be crazy and selling stupid, making himself a "cotton", can he hit the cotton, there is no harm at all.
In the Ming Dynasty, after the Jianwen Emperor Zhu Yunjiao ascended the throne, he always suppressed the Zhu family's clan king, and even took zhu Di, the yan king, as the primary target of cutting the clan.
In the face of Emperor Jianwen's step-by-step rush, Zhu Di knew that he had no way to retreat, so he chose to pretend to be crazy and stupid, not only sleeping in the pigsty, but even pretending to be a dog, so that others thought he was driven crazy.
It was this act of pretending to be crazy and stupid that dispelled Emperor Jianwen's doubts, and also made Zhu Di ready, laying a good foundation for launching the Battle of Jingnan.
If a person can stretch out when he gets an opportunity, then he also has to bear the pain of temporary grievances. How far can you be wronged, and only later can you better bottom out and realize a higher value in life.
The suppression of others is not terrible, what is terrible is that we have lost the ambition of "being able to bend and stretch".
05
When you encounter people who deliberately suppress you, you must understand the "partial corner".
There is a saying that goes, fight for a long time without a moment.
When others have a momentary advantage, we do not have any ability to break this situation. In this regard, we cannot choose to blindly fight back, but to find another way out.
In the "Thirty-Six Counts", the first and last counts are "concealing the sky and crossing the sea" and "going up to the top".
What many people don't know is that these two measures can actually be used together. That is, we can't afford to mess with it, but we can hide it. In the process of hiding, we cultivated the boardwalk and darkened the warehouse, realizing the strategy of concealing the sky and crossing the sea.
Just like Han Xin's exit from Chen Cangguan out of Shuzhong, after silent development, he then broke through each one, highlighted the strange soldiers, and finally achieved the plan of "attacking" Xiang Yu.
Only by taking history as a mirror can we understand the gains and losses. When the ability is not enough, hide in a certain place, accumulate strength, while watching the development of the situation. In this way, the moment we seize the opportunity, it will eventually be a blockbuster.
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