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Nowadays, the society is developing rapidly, and the thinking and concepts of young people have changed. But some of the ideas that have been passed down for thousands of years are still stuck in the hearts of generations of people. For example, the family must have a son in order to pass on the generations.
I saw a netizen post: "My sister has six daughters in a row, just to give birth to a son for the in-laws to pass on, which is sad and lamentable." According to netizens, the sister is only 32 years old this year, has been having children since she got married at the age of 23, has given birth to six daughters, and is now pregnant for more than six months to check whether she is still a daughter. The sister collapsed, thinking that she was useless, other women can give birth to sons, why can't she give birth to herself.
I have persuaded and tried many ways to get my sister not to cling to having a son anymore. But the sister said that her husband was an only child, and if she did not have a son for him to pass on, she would be a sinner in his family. I was really speechless, and it was sad and sad to see my sister like this. For my sister, I knew that there was no other way but to have a son early to fulfill my wish.
After reading this netizen's post, my heart was very unhappy. It is sad that in today's modern civilization, there are still so young women who are trapped in the shackles of having sons and cannot extricate themselves. I think the reason why the sister of the netizen is so obsessed is not only the pressure from the in-laws' family, but also her own demons, she also feels that the face of the in-laws who gave birth to a son has a light, she has a family status, and the future is also guaranteed.
Son preference is terrible, but women themselves look down on themselves even more terrible
Son preference is a terrible time, if a man prefers sons to daughters, it is understandable to want their sons to pass on the generations. After all, they don't have to be pregnant for October, they don't have to suffer, they just have to enjoy the fruits. But many times it is often women who prefer sons to daughters, for a son who does not follow his own surname, for the incense of a man's family, or to use his son as his patron, and to give birth to a son as the greatest merit of his life. I also tried to brainwash myself, what daughter was born to the father, and the son was born to the mother. But those who have graduated from nine years of compulsory education will not say such a thing.
So in order to give birth to a son, they disregarded their own physical injuries and used their womb as a copper wall. In the golden period of youth, he has been on the road to pregnancy and childbirth, and has worked tirelessly to have a son. Then, after having a son, he regards his son as the root of his life, squeezes his daughter to supplement his son, implements the preference for sons in the next generation, and passes on his bad ideas to the next generation.
In the perception of many women, it is more convenient to use the uterus than to work hard on their own
Many women desperately give birth to sons, saying that they are to make men have a light on their faces. So funny, having a son has a man who has a light on his face? If a woman is a successful person who can bring shade to the family, who dares to say that such a woman is not the glory of the family. It's just that many women always feel that it is more convenient to use the womb than to achieve fame. Having children is much easier than trying to achieve personal value on your own. Therefore, they can only pin their future honor and disgrace on their womb. So they fell into a vicious circle of fertility and reduced themselves to fertility machines. A woman can't be the master of her own womb, can she still be the master in other aspects?
[Topic Discussion: Are there any women around you who are obsessed with having sons? 】
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