At that time, after Hu Yajie became popular with "Plainclothes Policeman", when he once went home, he saw the mess in the house, so he yelled at his wife: "You are a lazy woman, and you don't know how to clean up!" The wife did not want to show weakness and replied: "You are a crazy man, you know that you are walking around outside, and you will not clean up after the chaos?" ”
Hu Yajie was furious: "Divorce! ”
However, it was awkward to divide the family property...
In 1987, Hu Yajie, who was a junior at the Beijing Film Academy, was selected by director Lin Ruwei to star in the 12-episode TV series "Plainclothes Police".
The original novel was written by Haiyan, which was also his first work to be put on the screen, so Hu Yajie became the first "Rock Boy".
At that time, Hu Yajie did not have much acting experience, in order to play a good role, he even ran to prison to experience a period of life, suffered a lot.
After the broadcast of "Plainclothes Policeman", in that era of lack of entertainment, it instantly caused a ratings frenzy.
The 24-year-old Hu Yajie became a hit and received more film offers.
Later, in the filming of the movie "Old Lady Soil", I met a beautiful 24-year-old girl Tang Jing.
Tang Jing graduated from the Beijing Academy of Drama and played female No. 2 in the movie "Old Lady Soil", and the two fell in love because of the drama.
He pursues Tang Jing passionately, knowing that she likes to eat yellow peaches, but there are no ones nearby for sale.
So Hu Yajie rode his bicycle for dozens of miles to buy back the yellow peach, Tang Jing was grateful for his sincerity, and the two made love because of the yellow peach.
That year, Tang Jing's father was hospitalized for heart disease, Tang Jing was filming and had no time to take care of it, Hu Yajie said to Tang Jing:
"You can rest assured to go filming, uncle here I will take care of it."
Tang Jing was very touched and felt that this man was worth entrusting for life, and the two got married half a year later.
Hu Yajie is good to his father-in-law, and Tang Jing also takes good care of Hu Yajie's parents.
At that time, the newly married two people lived in Hu Yajie's single dormitory, a 26-square-meter attic.
Hu Yajie's parents came to Beijing from the northeast, and Hu Yajie wanted to borrow a 10-square-meter house for his parents to live in.
Tang Jing insisted on letting out the new house for the two to live in for the old man.
Love is mutual, and Hu Yajie's father is particularly good to Tang Jing, the eldest daughter-in-law.
Later, the old father fell ill and lost his memory, no one remembered, he remembered that the eldest daughter-in-law was Tang Jing, as long as Tang Jing came home, the old man would not be noisy or quiet.
Two people who love like this have quarreled for a while about divorce.
Hu Yajie was born in the military and loved to be clean, and Tang Jing was a child who had been pampered and raised from a young age, and he was not good at cleaning up the housework at all.
Once Hu Yajie came home and saw that everything in the house was piled up on the bed.
He yelled at Tang Jing, the house is so chaotic, you don't clean up.
Because Tang Jing was the only daughter of the family since childhood, she was spoiled and habitual, and she was indeed not very good at cleaning up the family.
Tang Jing is also very aggrieved, isn't the home quite clean? If you look at something that doesn't go well, you clean it up.
Just like that, you hate me, and I hate you.
So, there was the opening scene, and the two quarreled, and finally quarreled over divorce.
Both of them fought for custody of their son, and Tang Jing said, "I also want custody of my son when I die." Hu Yajie said, "I don't want to die." "There was no result.
Hu Yajie said, "Let's divide the property first!" ”
Tang Jing said, "I want that wine cabinet." ”
Hu Yajie: "I want the mirror on the wine cabinet." ”
Tang Jing was anxious: "They are one, how can they be separated?" ”
Hu Yajie said: "Husband and wife are also one, this is not that we must be separated, why can't they be separated." ”
Later, Tang Jing underwent surgery because of appendicitis, and Hu Yajie had to go to the hospital to accompany his wife no matter how busy he was.
Sometimes I was so tired that I sat in a chair and fell asleep.
Hu Yajie said to her, "I don't feel at ease if I don't come here."
The two thought of being good to each other and began to reflect on themselves, so Hu Yajie apologized first:
"I was not good before, I didn't understand you enough, I will change in the future and try to be a good husband." 」
Tang Jing was no longer angry and had cleaned up the house since then.
As for the word "divorce", no one has ever mentioned it again...
The two have also done what they say they will and have supported each other for many years, working together for their little family.
Especially in the three years when Hu Yajie was depressed because of some things, Tang Jing was extremely tolerant of him, and no matter what Hu Yajie said, she obeyed everything she said.
When Hu Yajie came out of the haze of depression, he thanked Tang Jing for her understanding and dedication over the years, and never changed her original intention and single-mindedly.
In a marriage relationship, some people find that something is wrong, they will lose control of their emotions and blame each other.
In fact, this attitude, in addition to making the other party quarrel with you and making you more angry, can not let the problem be solved.
Of course, it's easy to blame, just open your mouth, but you have no responsibility?
As an adult, it is completely possible to replace the yelling with reminders, why not act rationally?
If the old problems are not solved, but there are always new problems that arise, will we always let the problems ferment in the quarrel, but never try to solve them?
Hopefully, in every family, there will be at least one person who can solve the problem, and if both parties are the ones who create the problem, the trouble will be big. What do you think?
