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Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing: While hating each other, they will not abandon each other and live as an example for their sons

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Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing

Marriage expert Wenger Jolly once wrote this sentence:

Even in the best marriages, there will be 200 thoughts of divorce in a lifetime, and 50 urges to strangle each other.

In this world, no one's marriage is perfect, even if the couple who seem to be extremely loving to outsiders, there will be contradictions and quarrels, it is rare that the quarrel is not dispersed, and the more quarrelsome the better.

Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing are such a couple, since their marriage, they have quarreled countless times because of trivial matters, and have divorced three times, it seems that they hate each other, but in fact, none of them can be separated from anyone.

Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing

Roman. Roland once said:

There is only one kind of heroism in life, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, you still love it.

Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing held hands for thirty years, and while hating each other, they did not abandon each other, and they also became the example of their son. How do they do it?

Let's take a look at the wisdom of their husband and wife.

01 Dreams

In 1963, Hu Yajie was born into an ordinary family in Qiqihar, Heilongjiang Province, the eldest son, and a younger brother and sister below.

Early Hu Yajie

Hu Yajie's ideal since childhood was to act or become a member of the People's Liberation Army. Although no one in his family was engaged in art, he had a different love for art since he was a child.

Hu Yajie's grandmother liked to watch dramas, and when he was a child, whenever he played movies, he would accompany her in his grandmother's arms to watch them, and every time he watched them happily.

After going to kindergarten, Hu Yajie's desire to perform was even more explosive, he performed as soon as he had the opportunity, he was not afraid to laugh at all, and when he went to primary school, he joined the school's literary and art propaganda team to learn to sing model plays.

Hu Yajie has artistic talent, learns everything, and often represents the school to participate in performances organized by the city.

However, on the road of pursuing ideals, Hu Yajie is not smooth.

Acting as a hobby, his parents are supportive, but if it is to be a profession, they do not support, they hope that he can go to college and have a stable job in the future.

But this is not what Hu Yajie wanted, so after graduating from high school, he did not take the college entrance examination, but went to apply for the Qiqihar City Repertory Theatre.

He first worked as a cadet in the troupe for a year, and then turned into a formal professional actor, he originally thought that he would have more opportunities to play the main role and realize his ambitions when he turned right.

But no, he played mostly innocuous roles in those two years.

He was not reconciled, he was confused, he could not find a sense of home here. "This is not my home, I must act in movies!"

There was a voice inside him telling him this. With this cry in my heart, I am looking for opportunities to change.

In 1984, Hu Yajie, who was already 21 years old, saw the beijing film academy's enrollment advertisement in the newspaper, and he knew that the opportunity to change his fate had come, and he wanted to apply for the Beijing Film examination and become an excellent actor in the future.

"Long Sky Beacon" "Four Brothers"

After Hu Yajie decided to apply for the Beiying examination, he consulted with his parents.

Originally, his parents had always hoped that he could enter the university, and this time he took the initiative to apply for the examination, and of course they fully supported him.

However, at that time, the repertory theater did not support it, and he could only choose one if he wanted to study or stay in the troupe.

This situation puts Hu Yajie in a dilemma, with ideals on one side and the rice bowl on the other.

Stills from Armageddon

Between the two, Hu Yajie chose the former, which means losing the latter, but it is possible that the fate will change completely;

Choosing the latter, life is guaranteed, but it may be like this for a lifetime, under the balance, Hu Yajie resigned from the iron rice bowl, was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy, and became a classmate with Wang Zhiwen and others.

02 A corner of fame

Just went to college, in the face of the excellent classmates around him, Hu Yajie is not the best one, but he must be the hardest one.

Some classmates advised him not to just bury his head in hard reading, but also to learn to socially pull resources, otherwise no one knows, who is looking for you to shoot a play?

Stills from "Ideal Shines on China"

In the face of the "kindness" of his classmates, Hu Yajie himself was also a little distressed, but he knew in his heart that his family was not well-off, had no resources, had no background, did not understand social interaction, did not understand entertainment, and only hard work could change his fate.

Since then, he has followed: being a person, acting, one move at a time, and one life.

Therefore, he does not steal and slip, focuses on himself, and at the same time works and thrifts without delaying his studies, so as to reduce the burden on his family.

Such a Hu Yajie is what parents expect and what teachers like. His parents taught Hu Yajie from an early age to be a good person and a hero.

Stills from "Thunderfield Acacia Tree"

In school, although Hu Yajie was not as good as other classmates, he was simple and stable and deeply liked by his teachers.

Later, under the recommendation of his teacher, Hu Yajie starred in his first film "Thunder field acacia tree" in his junior year, although he was not the male protagonist, but Hu Yajie played the male number two "Qiu Yuan" in the film, and also had a very heavy role.

After the film was released, it was recognized by the industry and the audience, and everyone also saw the potential of Hu Yajie.

Plainclothes Cop poster

In the winter of 1986, during the winter vacation of his junior year, Hu Yajie returned to school early after the winter vacation because of the need to prepare his thesis.

Originally, this was an ordinary day like the past, but for Hu Yajie, it was a day that completely changed his destiny.

That day, his acting teacher told him that stills from "Plainclothes Cop" were being selected for actors at the academy and asked him to come over.

When she got there, Hu Yajie met Lin Ruwei as the director, she looked at Hu Yajie, did not show him the script, but sat there and told him a story.

Stills of "Plainclothes Policeman" "Zhou Zhiming"

Hu Yajie listened to Director Lin, and after listening to her for three minutes, he realized that he might not have a play, because "Zhou Zhiming" had too rich life experience, and at this time, Hu Yajie's life as a student was very simple, and he had not even starred in a TV series.

Moreover, before him, the director had interviewed 83 candidates, who were undoubtedly the best, from senior actors to better students of North Film.

Although he felt that he had no hope, Hu Yajie still listened to Director Lin very seriously and attentively, and after listening, he went back to the academy to continue to prepare his thesis, and did not take this matter to heart.

But I didn't expect that a few days later, the crew sent a car to pick him up to shoot the scene, he was really selected, he was very surprised and surprised, obviously there are so many people who are better than themselves, but the director's selection strength is not the strongest of his own, Hu Yajie is confused.

Later, the director told him that although he was not the strongest, his height did not meet the setting of "Zhou Zhiming".

But he is the most determined, when listening to her play, she saw the dedication to life in his eyes, and this is the most unique thing in the male protagonist "Zhou Zhiming".

In this way, Hu Yajie starred in the first TV series in his life, "Plainclothes Policeman", and won the second national TV top ten actors with the role of "Zhou Zhiming" and was nominated for the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor.

Hu Yajie became famous in the role of a man, and he became the "hero" in everyone's heart, and he did not live up to the director's expectations of him, nor did he live up to himself.

Hu Yajie

Hu Yajie became a symbol of "hero", he suddenly fulfilled his dream of being an actor and a soldier, and his family was proud of him.

03 The wise man is sober

Hu Yajie became popular in the country, and his popularity rose steadily, but he was not carried away by the honor brought by "Plainclothes Police", he was a wise man and kept a clear head.

After Hu Yajie became popular, when he graduated, all units rushed to ask for him, and the North Film Factory and the Bayi Factory all threw olive branches to him, but he finally chose the Repertory Theater of the People's Liberation Army Air Politics Cultural and Labor Troupe.

Because it was his dream as a child: acting, being in the People's Liberation Army. He did it all, and this year he was 25 years old.

After becoming famous, Hu Yajie is still not arrogant. He did not use his fame to seek materials and create a better life for himself and his family, nor did he take advantage of his fame to take advantage of the momentum to shoot a lot of dramas.

Hu Yajie has his own principles for taking over the play, he said that the non-performance of falsifying history, involving violence and improper non-performance, his high requirements for the script, by no means money can change.

In the decade from 1990 to 2000, Hu Yajie maintained the production of one or two plays a year in front of the audience, which was far from enough for people who liked him, and he was somewhat disappointed, most of all, for fear that he would be forgotten.

But Hu Yajie did himself firmly, he had a clear understanding of himself, he said that people cannot always be in the limelight. When people forget, they must not forget their original intentions and goals, they must endure loneliness and always prepare for opportunities.

Therefore, Hu Yajie, who has this sober attitude, can always bring good drama to the audience.

During that decade, Hu Yajie starred in film and television dramas such as "New Year", "Bloody Morning", "Old Lady Soil", and "Dancing In the Sky".

With these dramas, he won the Golden Globe Award at the Three Continents International Film Festival in Nantes, the Best Feature Film Award of the Hundred Flowers Award for Popular Films, the Best Actor at the 1st Beijing University Student Film Festival, and the Best Actor in the TV Series "Golden Star Award".

After 2000, Hu Yajie starred in dozens of film and television dramas that were talked about, such as "Cordon", "The Sea is Wide and High", "Mother mother", "That Golden Flower and Her Son-in-Law", "Brothers in The Flames of War", "Blood Together", "Glory and Dreams", "The Destiny of the Country", "Armageddon" and so on.

Stills from Destiny of the Nation

In his acting career, Hu Yajie has created many classic characters, created many works loved by the audience, and was rated as a national first-class actor.

In life, he is also a responsible man, he does not smoke, does not drink, does not love to play, treats people frankly and kindly, is a good husband of his wife, a good father of his son, and a good son of his parents.

Hu Yajie's wife, Tang Jing, was also an actor, Tang Jing graduated from the Beijing Opera School, she learned to sword and horse, she will shoot dramas when she has the opportunity, and the two are related to drama.

04 Valentine's Day is destined

It was February 14, 1992, at the gate of the Taiyuan Hotel in Taiyuan City, in front of the white van of the film crew of the movie "Old Lady Soil", it was their first sight.

In the early years, Hu Yajie and Tang Jing

On that day, the sun was shining, Hu Yajie saw Tang Jing in the distance, and his heart inexplicably surged with a throbbing, and he seemed to be in love.

At that time, Tang Jing saw that he was very calm, first, Hu Yajie was already famous in the country at that time, and his popularity was higher than his own, and second, it was out of the girl's reservedness, so she did not show much enthusiasm, just polite greeting.

But Hu Yajie was different, at that time, the drive from the hotel to the crew was almost more than four hours, he should have sat in the front row, but in order to chat with Tang Jing, he took the initiative to give up his seat to others and sat next to Tang Jing in the back row.

So this romantic love story quietly began. However, at that time, Tang Jing did not know that Hu Yajie was in love with himself at first sight, and at that time, Tang Jing just felt that this big star was not as cold as imagined, he was very easy-going and very good at taking care of people.

Stills of Hu Yajie

Hu Yajie is not only extremely serious about his work, but also serious about the people he likes. From the time he took the initiative to change seats and sit next to Tang Jing, during the filming of the crew, he also took great care of her.

Although there was no vigorous story happening, just simply eating dumplings, buying snacks, and pasting the door and sewing these small things, but in Tang Jing's view, it was a big thing, and she felt that the man in front of her was careful and responsible.

And after the "Old Lady Soil" was finished, when she returned to Beijing, Tang Jing's father was hospitalized due to illness, but Tang Jing had to enter the crew immediately because of the drama, she could not take care of her father in front of the bed, Hu Yajie let her rest assured to go to the film, everything was in him.

This made Tang Jing very moved, the man in front of him was worth entrusting himself for life, so they got married.

marriage certificate

Although Hu Yajie was already a household name at that time, Tang Jing was also an old actor who acted in many works.

But economically, they are not rich.

In addition, Hu Yajie, as the eldest son in the family, he has to take care of his parents, brother and sister alone, and the burden on him is very heavy, but even if he marries naked, Tang Jing is willing.

They believe that as long as there are two loving hearts, they can overcome all difficulties.

A month after the new marriage, Hu Yajie heard that his parents were not in good health, so he wanted to take them to Beijing to live, but they did not have a house, some were just small houses rented, and if they brought their parents here, they would have no place to live.

Hu Yajie with his parents

So he consulted with Tang Jing, and when his parents came, he gave them a small "snail house" to live in, and Tang Jing returned to his mother's house.

Tang Jing did not hesitate, she felt that as a child, filial piety to parents, and taking care of parents is a matter of course.

She reassured Hu Yajie to bring her in-laws and mother-in-law, and she would do her best to take care of them whenever she had time.

This made Hu Yajie very moved, he did not look away, married a virtuous and considerate wife.

05 While abandoning, do not abandon

However, loving husband and wife is not always sweet and sweet, and there are also contradictions between Hu Yajie and Tang Jing.

After marriage, because of some differences in living habits, they quarrel and make noise at every turn, such as Hu Yajie is from the military, and everything in the family is required to be clean and tidy, while Tang Jing is more casual, and everything is mainly comfortable.

The two often go to great lengths because of this, and even divorce.

Hu Yajie and Tang Jing are both people with strong personalities, at the beginning, no one let anyone, everyone hoped that the other party could change for themselves, but the result of hard-hitting was that both sides were defeated.

Quarrels and divorces are not their original intentions, they do not really want to divorce, think of their romantic encounters, everything is predestined.

Later, they agreed to quarrel, but don't be angry and say poke people's hearts, that will hurt the feelings of husband and wife.

In this way, later, every time they quarreled, they thought about each other's goodness, thinking about why they fell in love with each other, and the fire that was going to start was extinguished.

Mr. Yang Dai said: "Half of life is chai rice oil and salt, and half of the stars and the sea." Put a little salt, it is salty, put a little sugar, it is sweet. Whatever flavor you want to tune into, it's all up to you. ”

Hu Yajie Tang Jing

Hu Yajie and Tang Jing both understand this point, they know that they are in love with each other, to have a good marriage, both parties need to work hard together, if you give each other a candy every day, life will not be sweet.

After the run-in period of the newlyweds, they ushered in the crystallization of love, in order to better take care of their sons and family, Tang Jing gave up her career to become a full-time wife at home.

She warned Hu Yajie not to abandon herself because she did not have a job and did not earn money.

Hu Yajie patted his chest and promised: It is natural for men to earn money to support their families.

Later, although there were quarrels in life, they were no longer as confrontational as before.

Hu Yajie's family of three

Hu Yajie and his son

Hu Yajie knows that Tang Jing's difficulties are not easy, she gave up her beloved career for her son and family, and completed herself, he cannot live up to his wife's affection.

And Tang Jing can also understand her husband's hardships and difficulties, in order to give herself and her son better living conditions, he is also hard to shoot outside.

In this way, this couple, who disliked each other from the beginning, continued to grow up in the run-in, cherished each other, and walked hand in hand for thirty years.

Hu Yajie is a responsible husband, Tang Jing is also a wise wife, she is as filial to the husband, to the bottom of the love, to each other is more respectful.

Tang Jing and Hu Yajie

For many years, Hu Yajie had a habit of keeping a diary, and there was a special cabinet in the house to hold his diary.

In this regard, Tang Jing did not have a little curiosity, she would not casually look through his diary, nor would she turn over his mobile phone, fully respecting his personal privacy.

Of course, Hu Yajie is also unguarded against Tang Jing, his diary cabinet is not locked, the mobile phone is not set up with a password, and he has not passed on any lace scandals for so many years, they respect each other, trust each other, and create a happy home together.

Hu Yajie is a strict self-disciplined person, although he is particularly strict in the education of his son, but he leads by example, so that his son also grows into a man who knows how to be grateful, filial to the elderly, and has responsibility.

Hu Yajie's son

In the personality signature of Hu Yajie's social platform, Hu Yajie wrote: "I like acting in film and television dramas, and I hate acting in my life. ”

This is the best summary of his artistic life and real life.

As an actor, Hu Yajie is a national-level actor and a good actor loved by the audience; as a real-life person, whether it is to treat parents, friends or wives and children, he is honest with each other and sincerely abides by each other.

Looking back on the thirty years that he and Tang Jing were in the same boat, there were joys and joys, sorrows and sorrows, and the heart of breaking up, but they always held the wish of the white head, practiced by example, and became a model couple and a model for their sons.

A family of three

Ibsen said, "Marriage is a great test of life. ”

The best marriage is like Hu Yajie and Tang Jing, no matter how many trifles and how many storms they have experienced, after seeing through all the shortcomings of the other party, they are still willing to not give up and stay together.

May we all withstand this test and cherish the ordinary life in mutual dislike.

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