When it comes to Hu Yajie, the actor, the first thing that everyone thinks of is definitely his debut TV series "Plainclothes Police", and his role of "Zhou Zhiming" in the play has been recognized by countless audiences.
In addition to this work, as a national first-class actor, Hu Yajie also has many very good works, such as "Old Lady Soil", "Daobei People", "National Destiny", "Confused County Ling Zheng Banqiao", "Blood Walking", "Glory and Dreams" and so on.
While these works made him popular, they also won him the national top ten actors, the best actor of the Beijing University Student Film Festival, the best actor of the all-army Golden Star Award and other awards!
What is surprising is that he has a smooth career, but he has experienced a lot of unhappiness in terms of feelings.
In the 30 years since he married his wife Tang Jing, he has divorced his wife 3 times, but the result is that the more he makes trouble, the more he loves, what is going on?
After working with his wife for thirty years, how did he and his wife hate each other but not abandon him?
Born in 1963 in Qiqihar, Heilongjiang, Hu Yajie grew up in a military family, his father was a pilot, his mother was a factory worker, he was the second oldest in his parents, and he had an older sister and a younger brother below.
When he was a child, open-air movies were popular in his hometown, and whenever this happened, Hu Yajie would run to the venue early to wait, and as the movies were watched more and more, he also longed to become an actor.
However, in that era, the literary and artistic career was once suppressed to the point of no prospects for development, so his parents firmly disagreed with his dream.
In order to realize his dream of being an actor, in the year of graduation in his third year of high school, Hu Yajie secretly applied for the exam of his hometown Qiqihar Repertory Theatre without his parents.
Although he had not studied acting before, his appearance conditions were very good, giving people the feeling of sunshine and handsomeness, so he was admitted as soon as he took the exam.
By the time his parents knew that he had been admitted to the repertory theatre, he had been working here for more than half a month, and there was no way to stop him, so he had no choice but to agree to his choice.
Given that his parents had always wanted him to go to college, and he also hoped that he could go further down the road of acting,
After working in the Repertory Theatre for more than a year, when he saw that the Beijing Film Academy was enrolling, he immediately signed up for the exam and was successfully admitted to nortel's acting department.
During college, Hu Yajie worked hard to learn acting skills while looking for opportunities in the show business circle, compared to many students who encountered walls everywhere, his outstanding appearance conditions gave him many opportunities.
From the beginning of his freshman year, he has been invited to participate in many film and television drama works, although they are all supporting roles, but he has honed his acting skills.
In his junior year, when he went to the school communication room to get a letter, he happened to meet Lin Ruwei, a famous director who was preparing to shoot the Haiyan drama "Plainclothes Police".
Lin Ruwei has directed classic works such as "She Fell in Love with Her Hometown" and "Four Generations Together", in addition to her strong directing ability, her ability to see people is also particularly accurate.
At the first sight of Hu Yajie, she felt that Hu Yajie could make a big fire, and immediately invited him to participate in the drama "Plainclothes Policeman", playing the role of the male number one "Zhou Zhiming" in the play.
Hu Yajie did not disappoint Lin Ruwei, after the release of this work, it was supported by countless audiences and "Zhou Zhiming" played by Hu Yajie also made him win the nomination for the second TV Top Ten Actors and the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor.
Before graduation, he quickly became popular all over the country, Hu Yajie immediately became a prominent figure in the Nortel campus, and many little girls expressed their love for him, but Hu Yajie's mind at that time was on his career, and he had no idea of falling in love.
Since then, he has participated in many works, perhaps because the work "Plainclothes Police" has impressed everyone too much, and his subsequent works have not received too much attention.
After graduating from Nortel, he was assigned to work in the Repertory Theatre of the Political Department of the Air Force, during which time he also won the second prize for his personal performance at the All-Army Parade with the play "Far Cloud, Near Cloud".
Although the development on the drama stage at that time was also very good, Hu Yajie's most yearning was the big screen, so he entered the drama troupe not long ago, and once again put the focus back on the show business circle.
It was precisely because of this choice that he met the woman he loved most in his life.
In 1992, when he was filming the work "Old Lady Soil", he met the actress Tang Jing.
Tang Jing is 4 years younger than him, before the main active in the Peking Opera stage, learned the knife and horse Dan, coincidentally entered the show business circle after falling in love with acting, and then has been in the circle to develop.
Although Tang Jing's popularity and popularity are not as high as his, Tang Jing looked young and beautiful when she was young, and Hu Yajie was immediately captured by her, in layman's terms, "love at first sight".
In order to catch this girl, Hu Yajie almost tried his best, and after learning that Tang Jing liked to eat yellow peaches, she ran all over the small county where she was at that time, just so that she could buy yellow peaches for her.
Many years later, when Tang Jing recalled the scene of being chased in the show, he also said with special feelings: "I was particularly touched at that time, and he and I were committed to him because of Huang Tao..."
Under The continuous pursuit and efforts of Hu Yajie, Tang Jing agreed to his pursuit after holding back for a while.
In August 1992, the two of them, who had known each other for a long time, entered the palace of marriage happily after being convinced that the other was the most beloved person in this life.
Although the two did not have much money when they got married, and even could only live together in a house of about 10 square meters, every time the parents of both sides came to see them, they could only go out to rent a house, but despite this, they still did not regret their choice.
In order to let Hu Yajie develop his career with peace of mind, after the two got married, Tang Jing also took the initiative to give up his acting career and take on the heavy responsibility of taking care of his family.
At the beginning, the couple accompanied each other and worked together for their family, which was particularly good in terms of feelings, but as they lived together for a long time after marriage, there were more and more contradictions between them.
After living with his wife, Hu Yajie, who has a slight cleanliness habit, often quarrels with Tang Jing over some small things in life, such as unclean furniture, housework is not done well enough, and so on.
Tang Jing, on the other hand, thinks that there is a little dust on the furniture that cannot be seen, and there is no need to wipe it every day.
In addition, compared to Hu Yajie's lack of refinement in her days, Tang Jing has always disliked him for not being romantic enough, not only never sending her flowers, but even when she was sick, he did not accompany her.
As these trivial things in life accumulate more and more, the two people slowly evolve from mutual dislike at the beginning to into inability to tolerate these shortcomings in each other.
One day in 1996, when Hu Yajie, who had a cleaning habit, complained about Tang Jing again because of trivial matters in life, Tang Jing said directly: "Don't ask me by your standards, I can't do it in my life." ”
Hearing this, Hu Yajie, who was angry, directly came to a sentence: "Then simply divorce it!" ”
Tang Jing did not show weakness, she replied: "Leave is to leave." ”
However, when they talk about divorce, after calming down, they know that each other will not leave each other, and Hu Yajie, as the man, chose to take the initiative to bow his head, and Tang Jing also forgave him when he saw this.
Not long after the divorce, in 1997, after 5 years of marriage, they finally gave birth to their son.
I thought that the couple's feelings would become more loving because of the arrival of the child, but I didn't expect that on the contrary, after having a child, the two of them quarreled over trivial matters in life, but also often quarreled because of the child's toys and so on.
Hu Yajie, who suffers from cleanliness, sees that his wife has not cleaned up the house in an orderly manner, and he once again proposes a divorce with Hu Yajie: "This day can't pass, we divorce!" ”
Tang Jing was also annoyed by his many unreasonable troubles, and directly said: "Leave away, who is afraid of whom?" ”
They were determined to divorce, but in the end, because no one was willing to give up their children, they once again dismissed the idea of divorce.
I thought that the divorce farce of the two times would make Hu Yajie cherish this marriage more, but in 2007, because of his cleanliness problem, he saw that there were several rotten fruits in the family that were not thrown away in time, breeding some small flying insects, and he and Tang Jing proposed a divorce again.
This time, Tang Jing could no longer bear his temper and directly packed up his luggage and returned to his mother's house.
Fortunately, the parents of both sides urged them not to divorce, and Hu Yajie's mother said bluntly: "It is our blessing to have such a good daughter-in-law, if you are divorced, we will not recognize your son!" ”
Under the repeated persuasion of the elderly people on both sides, and considering that the two have loved each other for many years and love each other in their hearts, they once again let go of the idea of divorce.
After these 3 farces, not only did they not get married, but the two became more affectionate.
Hu Yajie, who had scolded his wife many times, realized that he was used to having each other's life during the time when his wife packed up his things and returned to her mother's house, so he said to Tang Qin affectionately after reconciliation: "I found that I can't do without you in this life, and I will change myself and strive to be a good husband in the future." ”
Tang Jing said, "I believe in you, you will definitely be able to do it." ”
In fact, Hu Yajie did indeed do it, and in the days that followed, he never made a big fuss about Tang Jing because of various trivial things in his life, and with the help of his wife, he also overcame his slight cleanliness.
Seeing that the relationship between Hu Yajie and Tang Qin became better and better, his son Chenchen also regarded him as an idol and role model in his heart as he grew up, determined to become a good man like him when he grew up.
This made Hu Yajie particularly touched, he was very glad that he did not divorce his wife because of a momentary impulse, otherwise he would not only lose a good wife, but also lose his identity as a role model in his son's mind.
Since he and his wife understood each other and tolerated each other, Hu Yajie's family and emotional life has always been very good, and now their two sons have grown up healthy, and the life of their family of three is very happy.
After achieving certain achievements in his acting career, Hu Yajie did not forget to repay the society, and he has always been keen on public welfare undertakings.
For example, the "Burn Care Public Welfare Fund" has been established to provide welfare and care to burn victims in the society.
In 2017, he was also named "2017 China Public Welfare Figure" together with his wife Tang Jing for his enthusiasm for public welfare undertakings, and in 2018, the couple won the honorary title of charity model of the 10th "China Charity Award" issued by the Ministry of Civil Affairs!
It is worth saying that I don't know if it is the reason for the full harvest of love and family, Hu Yajie, who has been in love with his wife for thirty years, although he is now 59 years old, he is still very well maintained.
Compared with many so-called frozen age male gods, he who is still young and energetic is a veritable frozen age male god!
Here, I wish him a better and better life, and look forward to him bringing us more good works.