Between husband and wife: "three years of pain, five years of separation, seven years of itching, ten years of keeping".
The nature that can survive the past is to keep the clouds open and see the moon, and the one that can't survive can only be slowly forgotten with time.
During the love period, the two people look at each other very well no matter what they do, and once they are married, they will argue over chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
Not only that, but also the big and small trifles in life are pressed in the heart, and each other's patience and good temper are slowly polished.
However, Hu Yajie and his wife Tang Jing quarreled more and more inseparable from each other.
The man struggled outside for a day, of course, hoping to return home to have a very comfortable environment and hot dishes and hot soup brought by his wife.
But that day was late at night, and Hu Yajie returned home with his tired body after filming.
But what comes into view is the dirty living room, and his wife Tang Jing is still lying on the sofa eating snacks.
Suddenly enraged, Hu Yajie said:
"Can you clean up your home and see what the mess is?"
Tang Jing, who was spoiled since childhood, did not give Hu Yajie a good look, and she retorted:
"Pack what? Won't you do it yourself? ”。
"I didn't marry you here to serve you."
Hu Yajie has a very serious cleaning habit, usually likes a spotless home, if the home is dirty, how to live will not be comfortable.
And Tang Jing was born in a wealthy family since childhood, and is still the only daughter in the family, and is the treasure that her parents spoil in their hearts.
The combination of these two people, seemingly mismatched, is a perfect match!
The two people have repeatedly quarreled to the point of divorce, but they have never left, but they have made their lives happier and happier, and they have become the envy of many people.
Isn't there any secret in the marriage of these two people?
The story starts at the beginning...
1.
In 1963, Hu Yajie was born in Heilongjiang, with an older sister above and a younger brother below, and he was the second oldest in the family.
Speaking of his family, that was his childhood nightmare!
His father, who had been a pilot, had become an ordinary worker after his career, and his mother was also an ordinary worker.
In this era, if you are labeled as "born bad", you will be greatly wronged in life.
And Hu Yajie's father is because of his bad birth, and this family has been worrying all day!
From time to time, a group of people broke into Hu Yajie's home and rummaged through the places, and the fierce and evil appearance of a group of people really frightened the young Hu Yajie.
Whenever such a scene was encountered, my mother and sister would tightly wrap their arms around Hu Yajie and say to him:
"It's okay, these people are just looking for things, they have something lost."
Hu Yajie did not speak, nor did he dare to look up.
Fortunately, it did not cause harm to Hu Yajie's young mind.
On the contrary, he knows better how to understand his parents and how to take care of them.
Dreams of youth were always so intense.
When he was a child, Hu Yajie was selected by the Children's Palace in Qiqihar to be a small actor for a long time because of his appearance, and he has not been able to forget it for a long time.
In order to get ahead, in order to let the family live a good life, but also for the literary and artistic blood in their hearts.
Hu Yajie, who has grown up slowly, has also become more and more strong about this idea, and he must become an actor.
When I was in high school, the Qiqihar Drama Theater was recruiting, and it happened that Hu Yajie also saw this recruitment information, and he went directly to sign up without saying a word.
When he interviewed the drama theater, he was selected just because of his love of art and outstanding appearance.
At that time, there were no beautifications and filters, and there were no various cosmetics, and everyone was original temperament and appearance.
However, the family thinks that there is no future, and the family still hopes that he can take the college entrance examination and be admitted to a good university, so that the family members can follow him and raise their eyebrows.
But these can not withstand Hu Yajie's love of wanting to be an actor, and in the end, the family did not say anything, and he also gave up taking the college entrance examination at school.
Although he officially entered the drama troupe, it was different from what he thought...
As he was the youngest and most junior, he could only play dragon roles in the theater, sometimes without a single line.
He wanted to try to turn over, because the family still had unpaid money and a younger brother who needed to be supplied.
After staying in the drama theater for a long time, Hu Yajie did not know which direction to work in, and his life was confused for a while, and his monthly salary was only left for himself, and the rest was sent to his family.
But fortunately, heaven is taking care of Hu Yajie.
The bleak life in the drama theater is finally coming to an end in the fourth year.
One day in 1984, the newspaper was full of enrollment information from the Beijing Film Academy, and Hu Yajie seemed to see a "life-saving straw."
He wanted to sign up for the exam, but the drama theater said to him:
"Unless you resign, you can't go to the exam, but if you resign and don't get in, you won't come back, here is not where you want to come, you want to go." 」
Hu Yajie didn't want to live such a day of seeing his head at a glance again, after waiting for four years or there was no improvement, he wanted to try this opportunity now, even if he couldn't pass the exam.
In the end, Hu Yajie bid farewell to the Theater of Words of Hope and took the exam of North Film.
2.
In the past four years, although Hu Yajie has not been the protagonist, he has studied and studied acting skills assiduously, and he has practiced his basic skills steadily.
In this year, he was successfully admitted to the acting major of North Film.
Most of the children in film school eat and wear the best, and few go out to do odd jobs to earn money.
While Hu Yajie studied hard, he did not care about the eyes of others and went around looking for odd jobs to earn living expenses.
His diligent and serious attitude also made the teacher like him very much.
Sooner or later, gold will shine.
In his junior year, Hu Yajie ushered in his own opportunity, and just after his debut, he won the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor.
The crew of "Plainclothes Policeman" has auditioned no less than 80 actors before and after for the male protagonist "Zhou Zhiming", whether it is a popular star or an excellent student of North Film.
The result is that the chess pieces are uncertain.
The teacher told Hu Yajie: "There is a crew selecting actors, just in a classroom on the second floor of the teaching building, you also go to try it."
After coming to the crew, the director told Hu Yajie a general story about the policeman Zhou Zhiming in the play.
The more Hu Yajie listened, the more fascinated he became, and there was a hint of deep taste in his eyes.
Hu Yajie was a very ordinary and unremarkable person, and he did not expect the director to look at him.
But a few days later, the crew of "Plainclothes Police" came to pick him up and shoot the scene.
The director told Hu Yajie:
"Your height does not meet Zhou Zhiming's setting, and you have never participated in the production of a TV series, it is reasonable to say that we should not use you, but I can see from your eyes that Zhou Zhiming is so determined."
In this way, Hu Yajie's first step in the TV series starred in such a high-quality drama, and was also nominated for the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor.
The most handsome policeman, he has also become an idol of all policemen.
Just entered the show business circle and became a fire.
The play "Plainclothes Policeman" is one of Hu Yajie's most classic representative works, and even if it is now, it will not be outdated.
The show has been deeply influential for generations.
In 1992, at this time, Hu Yajie had already shined from the entertainment industry, and this year when he filmed "Old Lady Soil", he met his own love.
But this love is not so simple.
The two first met in the crew of "Old Lady Soil".
The girl, named Tang Jing, graduated from the Beijing Academy of Performing Arts, was born into a wealthy family, and was the only daughter in the family, and her parents have always regarded her as a pearl in the palm of their hands.
At that time, Hu Yajie had already been all over the streets, how could Tang Jing not recognize it?
As soon as the two people met, Tang Jing restrained her emotions.
Seeing such a quiet girl, Hu Yajie could not say anything, and the two people had some feelings when they first met.
Fate seems to have pulled a red line for the two people.
However, will these two people, who have different family conditions and insights, be happy together?
It probably started when we first had dinner together, when we discussed the script together, and when we talked to each other.
Hu Yajie's down-to-earth duty has always touched Tang Jing's heart, and Tang Jing's beauty and gentle temperament attract Hu Yajie.
In this way, the two people are together in the crew.
At this time, although Hu Yajie was already a big-name star, he did not have any shelf at all, and he took great care of Tang Jing, which made Tang Jing feel:
"The person in front of me does not look self-righteous at all, and is polite to all the crew members, which is really a good man."
This seemingly mismatched relationship, these two people have made it a good deal.
Hu Yajie was ready to visit Tang Jing's parents, but the crew let Tang Jing rush to the crew, but at this time, Tang Jing's father was hospitalized.
Tang Jing said to Hu Yajie:
"Or we'll come back later, I'm going to the crew, my dad is hospitalized, my mom is with him, let's go after a while."
Hu Yajie:
"You are at ease with your own, everything in the house has me."
During the time when Tang Jing's father was ill, it was always Hu Yajie who did filial piety in front of Tang Jing's bed.
"There is no cooking smoke in the hospital, but it is the closest place to the fireworks in the world."
The old man and the mother-in-law listened to how he and Tang Jing knew how to be together, and after listening, they were very supportive.
3.
The two soon entered the palace of marriage, because In Beijing Hu Yajie had been living in a small house, and the two people did not plan to have children soon.
Put your career on the right track first, and have a good economic foundation to say this.
However, the tribulations of the two people appear frequently after marriage.
Hu Yajie's parents are old, both of them need to be taken care of, they have not seen any big world, Hu Yajie wants to take the second elder to Beijing to live.
But when he looked at his own small house, he couldn't let go of these people.
After learning about Hu Yajie's thoughts, Tang Jing said: "Then, I will go to my mother's house first, so that it will be more spacious."
When the second elder came to Beijing, Tang Jing made a meal every day to bring food to his in-laws, bought them all kinds of snacks to eat, and chatted with them.
Tang Jing has been taking good care of her in-laws.
This made Hu Yajie feel very pleased.
The reason why I feel relieved is because Tang Jing has not served anyone since she was a child, and it is already good to be able to do so, and Hu Yajie is already very satisfied.
But even so, there are many bumps in the daily life of the two people, but this is their "catalyst for emotional warming".
Two people are born with different doorways and different lifestyles, and there will be great differences.
After the conditions improved, Tang Jing gave birth to a son, for the sake of this family, Tang Jing was willing to quit the show business circle, concentrate on taking the child at home, and became a housewife who did not leave the pots and pans.
Hu Yajie is working hard outside to earn money to support his family.
Two people have also fought to the death for the education of their children, and neither of them will let the other.
It may be that all the troubles in life have accumulated and exploded at this moment, and anyway, the beauty of the previous love is all gone during the quarrel.
But after each pass, each side will give each other a step down, and slowly get better.
Hu Yajie has a cleaning habit and likes to have a clean and orderly home environment.
After Hu Yajie returned home after a tiring day outside, he was furious when he saw his dirty and messy home, and he said to Tang Jing angrily:
"Don't you know how to clean it up?" 。
Tang Jing didn't have much of a good temper and said directly:
"Don't you have hands yourself?" Won't you clean it up yourself? After saying that, Tang Jing continued to lie on the sofa and eat snacks.
Then the two men started a fierce quarrel mode.
Hu Yajie's eyes were not able to see that the family was dirty and messy, and Tang Jing felt that it was good to be so casual.
The two have divorced several times because of "health problems". And in the end, all of them are not successful, because they all have each other in their hearts.
In 30 years, two people have also been polished by the big and small things in life.
Hu Yajie and Tang Jing never really divorced.
There is a saying that seems to have been created for these two people: "Even if two people have contradictions in love, the most rare thing is that two people can't argue, and the more quarrelsome the feelings, the better."
But at the moment when the temper is on the head, how many people can handle it rationally?
In fact, Hu Yajie and Tang Jing lived as most people wanted now.
In 30 years, after so many ups and downs, but still no quarrel, the two people are getting better and better.
Although they are not happy to look at each other's shortcomings, they still do not give up, which is really rare.
What do you think?