People often say: "Women are like flowers", and they also say: "The beauty of women is not in the skin of the bone." ”
From ancient times to the present, whether chinese or foreign, those women who are still beautiful and elegant until they are old have learned to use these methods to "enrich" themselves.
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Use reading to cultivate emotions and do not "generally see" with the people around you.
Some people say that a woman's appearance, before the age of thirty, was given by her parents, and the innate genetic advantages were vividly expressed. After the age of thirty, it is given by yourself, the amount of reading, the depth of experience, are quietly changing a person's appearance.
I didn't think so until I was older, and I found that the attractive woman did not have a good skin bag, but had an interesting soul that no one could match.
Orator Fu Seoul once said: "Once you stop envying others and admiring yourself, there is nothing at all, and your appearance is ordinary." ”
Before she became famous, she also experienced a "darkest moment" in her life. What helped her break through was reading. Every night, she says, when the child goes to sleep, she allows herself to sit at her desk, read other people's books, and write about her own experiences.
Day after day of persistence, finally created the "golden sentences" on the dance, shining Fu Seoul.
The woman who has learned from the book has become wise and brave, and it is logical to break out of a healthy road in the workplace.
Relying on reading not only solves the dilemma of food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but also wins respect, recognition and status, which is the reward and gift of fate for women to sink their hearts into reading.
Fu Seoul's path to success is not suitable for every woman, but reading to enrich herself, enrich her empty soul, and soothe anxious moods is suitable for every woman.
Traveling in the world of books, looking at the world between the lines, human feelings are cold and warm, and the heart can't help but open up, with the improvement of cognitive level, the improvement of aesthetic ability, naturally will continue to reflect on their own words and deeds and values, when realized, we have to continue to enrich this short life, where will we fall into the triviality of daily life, preoccupied with it?
Just as the so-called "belly has poetry and books to be self-exuberant", a woman who has not read a book will always have only one acre and three points of land in front of her eyes: unfinished housework, endless parents who are short; and a woman who has read books sees the sea of stars.
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Use your career to nurture your family and bring yourself a full sense of security.
Host Bai Yansong once said: "The outside of all the voices, can affect you, because you do not have your own opinion in your heart." ”
This sentence pokes at the weakness of many women. Although it has long been far away from the era of "obeying the father, obeying the husband, and obeying the son", if you do not achieve economic independence and want to have "opinions", it is tantamount to a fool's dream.
Women want to live according to their "opinions", the first thing is to achieve economic independence, in other words, to have their own careers.
There is such a plot in an urban drama: the father in front of the daughter's mother-in-law does not hesitate to criticize the daughter who decided to return to the workplace after giving birth to a second child: "The little money you earn at work is not enough for the child's milk powder money, it is better to honestly take the child at home, saving the old man to suffer for you." The mother-in-law nodded her head and praised her father-in-law for understanding things best.
But in the blink of an eye, when the daughter took the big treasure who was already in elementary school to send her father home, the father patted her shoulder and said: "Daughter, it is good to go to work by yourself, and the father supports you!" The father and daughter looked at each other and smiled, instantly resolving the previous embarrassment.
Yes, no matter how rich a man is, he is not as rich as himself. Reaching out to her husband for money, the number of times is more, and it is inevitable that there is a little "begging" meaning. Not all men can be considerate of their wives' efforts for the family and are willing to pay for the job. All, the money you earn, in order to really "spend casually", you have your own savings, so that you will not worry about when the relationship between two people is really broken, where should you go.
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Use exercise to maintain your body, stay away from illness, and live comfortably.
A woman's whole life, what is her own? The older you get, the more you will understand that lovers, children, parents, and careers are not, only health is.
Female writer Li Xiaoyi once said that she insisted on getting up at 4:45 a.m. every day to write, and it has been eight or nine years. As a working mother, if you want to do something you like in your spare time, you can only cherish every minute and every second desperately.
The reason why I got up so early is because after giving birth to my daughter, only the early morning time, the daughter is not noisy, and she has not yet reached the point of work, and the quiet time that no one disturbs is most suitable for writing.
But once you go to work, the rhythm is still very tight, either to interview, or on the way to the interview; not to write, or to read and conceive, so brain-burning and physical work, how can you do without a healthy body?
So she took out forty minutes a day, underwent systematic exercises, and sweated like rain every day, exercising her body and tempering her will.
Although he is very busy and tired, he can always be energetic and can always "carry" it.
The older a woman is, the more she must understand that the best help for her children and the best comfort for her family is to have a good body and a good attitude.
With physical and mental health, we can continue to "love what I love and do what I do." ”
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Conclusion:
In this life, a woman wants to live a bright and beautiful life, and she is not born by marrying a good husband or "holding a golden key". Instead, he learned to enrich himself, even if fate gave him a bad card, he could play "King Fried".
Love and marriage cannot kidnap them, children and families cannot bind them, they have a free and strong heart, and their whole lives are constantly striving for excellence.
Although they have suffered great hardships and experienced great winds and waves, it is these colorful experiences that make their lives dazzling and radiant.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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