We need to be cautious about making friends, and what kind of people we are with, over time, under the influence of the ears, we will be assimilated into what kind of person.
There is a law of wine and sewage in psychology, which refers to the fact that pouring a bottle of wine into a bucket of sewage and getting a bucket of sewage;
A bottle of sewage is poured into a barrel of wine, and the result is a bucket of sewage.
That is to say, those bad things will inadvertently have an immeasurable negative impact, and all we can do is to stay as far away from such "sewage" as much as possible.
It's not just friendship that needs to be like this, it's also true of love, it's also true of relationships between the sexes.
At the beginning of man, nature is inherently evil, and some people's "bad" is innate, and they have bad cultivation engraved in their bones, and they will only "last forever" with the passage of time.
What we have to do is to learn to discern, to know which people are worthy of deep friendship, and those people are only suitable for nodding friends, so as to avoid unnecessary losses.
Men with "bad hearts and eyes" often have these qualities, please be careful when encountering them.
Will blame all the fault on others
One thing that is obvious about men with "bad hearts" is that their eyes are obscured, or their eyes can only look forward.
If a thing produces a bad result, the average person will first look for problems from themselves, and then look for external factors.
But this is not the case with "bad heart" men, they can't see the problems in themselves, and when bad things happen, they will only blame all the fault on others.
Such people are good at "staying out of the way", they are like crows standing on a coal pile, they can see the black of others, they cannot see their own black.
Luo Zhenyu said: "The vision of the person who really does things is to grasp the current and future trends in time, to look at things from different perspectives, and to maintain sufficient possibilities for iteration." ”
Obviously, the man who can't see the problems in himself is like the daffodil that is self-pitying, blindly confident, can't see his own shortcomings, and can never get better.
Such men will emit a magnetic field of negative energy, and those who approach them for a long time will also be assimilated.
"Poor in heart", but also poor with righteousness
Wu Di in the TV series "Beijing Love Story" is a painter who has a girlfriend he likes very much, Zixi, and the two have been together for many years.
However, Wu Di has not met with talent, drifted in the great Beijing for several years, and has not achieved anything.
Seeing that Zixi was getting older, Wu Di still felt that his ideal could be realized in Beijing, a place where land was scarce.
He always told Zi xi to wait until he was shining, so that he could buy a house and a car to marry her.
But how can Zi Xi afford to wait?
Wu Di never gave her any hope, just let her wait, but seeing that the future is getting more and more uncertain, who can always be calm, and who can ensure that such a slim day will not be too long?
So, Zixi mentioned breaking up, and she chose someone who could give her hopes together.
There was nothing wrong with thinking about it for himself, but this move obviously touched Wu Di's pitiful and sensitive self-esteem.
He felt that Zixi just hated that he didn't have money to leave him, he felt that he had seen Zixi wrongly, and he had never thought that Zixi was a materialistic woman who refused to accompany her to suffer.
However, Wu Di seemed to have forgotten that when Zixi first joined him, he had no money, so naturally he did not dislike him for not having money and chose to be with him, and how could he choose to leave because he had no money.
Unfortunately, Wu Di is a "poor heart" man, his heart is higher than the sky, he feels that Zixi should accompany himself to endure hardships, he feels that Zixi should not pursue better than himself.
Such a man will only be blinded, and he will not be able to give anyone the happiness they want.
I am mediocre, but I can't see that others are better than myself
I've seen men like this – he told his girlfriend that it was better to go to graduate school than to find a job, to hang out with friends than to do housework at home, and to be too tired to be promoted than to eat and die in a post.
Slowly, the girlfriend's social circle is almost zero, and the work is only enough to maintain food and clothing.
But oddly enough, men are happy because the current girlfriend is just worthy of herself.
What a terrible person this is? Everyone is not born a genius, most of them are ordinary people, through the continuous efforts of the day after tomorrow, and become a shining person.
However, some men are not enough to be mediocre themselves, but also to let the people around them accompany them to be mediocre, so that their hearts can be balanced.
Carlisle, a famous American humanist, said: "Even the most fragile little life will achieve something once all of its energy is focused on one goal."
But men with "bad hearts and eyes" do not understand this truth at all, they will only assimilate people who are close to them, so it is better for such men to stay away.