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We always think that the relationship between people will be very long, will be together for a lifetime, and then understand that the adult world has never been a lifetime, some are only for a while.
Many relationships, for the time being, may not be a problem, but after growing up, they find that they have no relationship with each other.
Lovers or friends have finally become passers-by in life.
The writer Qi Bangyuan once wrote such a sentence in "The Great Current River":
"If I look at the messages that I haven't opened for a long time, I will find that those who once said that they would live a lifetime have only appeared in my life for a while."
Although we don't believe it, it seems that people who really say this for a lifetime may only be a moment, and the person who has been waiting for you may be in the blink of an eye, and the other party is no longer in the light.
Life is like this, all encounters are a separation, believe it or not, but try to accept it, because no one can change it.
In other words, no matter how good the relationship between people, it will also be scattered.
01: The encounter of adults is just a shoulder-to-shoulder encounter
Since you are an adult, you should never believe in a long-term relationship, and you may try your best to maintain each other in a relationship, but even if you try harder, you will eventually part ways, and we can't influence it at all.
We will meet many people in this life, some people may just take a look and never see each other again, and some people will be separated again after a period of time together.
I always thought that I was separated, just goodbye, but I didn't expect it, I never saw it again.
Tell the story of a friend Yu Yang, he has a very good friend, they said that they will always go on, no matter how the time changes, they are good friends with each other.
From high school to college, and then from college to society, they supported each other through the darkness of life.
When Yu Yang encounters problems, he will talk to him, will seek comfort from him, and when he has problems, he will also consult with Yu Yang.
Supposedly, such a relationship should be very long-lasting, but in the end it will be a failure.
As usual, Yu Yang called the other party and suddenly found that the other party was turned off.
Not only that, all the contact methods could not contact him, Yu Yang did not expect such a result, he did not understand why this was so.
He tried to think back to whether he had offended him, whether there was something wrong with him, but when he thought about it, he didn't remember anything.
In fact, Yu Yang did not do anything bad, but this relationship ended like this, and their fate may end here, which is not a matter of doing well or not, but the fate is exhausted.
I advised Yu Yang to let go, because what was lost could only be lost, even if it was tangled up.
Yu Yang said that he knew, but it was difficult to accept, which I fully believed, because it was difficult to accept this matter to anyone.
After half a lifetime, I finally understood that not every fate will have results, it turns out that each side by side is just a shoulder to shoulder, the world is very big, so big that it is difficult to meet people; the world is very small, so small that we have to rub shoulders with many people every day.
The adult world has never come to Japan for a long time, some just never see each other again, when a relationship is over, please don't be sad, because this is normal, since there is no result, even if you try harder, it will not help.
There is a line in the movie "Generation Grandmaster":
"Sometimes, I met a person yesterday and I felt that he was very interesting and impressed, but then I never met him again, and life is like this." 」
Deliberately looking for it, it seems that it is really difficult to find, do not want to find the other party but will appear, life is like this, everything depends on fate, really can not be forced.
There is a fate between each other, even if they are separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, they will hold hands; if there is no fate, even if they are close, they cannot see each other.
Never complain about regrets in life, because that's the norm.
In other words, a life with regrets is wonderful, and a life without regrets is doomed to be not wonderful.
02: Cherish what should be cherished, and let go of what should be released
Every encounter between people is really not easy, when encountered, we must cherish it, we must try to let go of it when we can't meet it, don't be deliberate, let alone force it, because it has no meaning.
If you can accompany you all the way, then there is no need for you to say that the other party will never disappear in your world; if you are destined to become a passer-by in life, you will not be able to stay.
Gaining and losing is the normal state of life, so why are you so persistent?
Don't feel that attachment is a fortunate thing, but it is actually an indescribable pain.
Self-media person Yu Chiho has taken such a paragraph, which explains this very well.
Yu Qiansui fell in love, she thought she could go on with each other, but she did not expect that one day the other party would disappear without greeting, Yu Qiansui was very painful, she did not understand why this was so.
When she confided in her friend, the friend only softly comforted, Yu Qiansui kept crying, did not know how to face this sudden situation, during this time the friend did not say anything, because she knew that it was superfluous to say anything now.
After Chiho eased up slightly, the friend said:
"Try to be relieved, I know that words may not be useful to you now, but do you think it is useful to continue crying?" Can it be saved? If you can't, why torture yourself? ”
At this moment, Yu Qiansui seemed to suddenly understand that some of the departures seemed to be unexpected, but in fact they were already destined, since the two people were not people of the same frequency, how could there be results?
Born as a human being, we really can't influence fate, we can only cherish it when we have fate, and strive to let go when there is no fate.
Know at all times that every relationship in the world has the same shelf life as food.
Some marriages say that they are good for a lifetime, but they are really only for a while; some people say that they will accompany you to go on, but they will never find it again when they walk.
From the moment we come into this world, we are faced with separation, separation from friends, separation from parents, separation from children, separation from all people, and our time together is destined to be a journey rather than a lifetime.
Even if we once said that we will not be separated for a lifetime, we will not be able to meet the reality after all, and what we can do is to cherish it together and not work together to let go.
The rest of life is really short, the people I can meet in this life are a kind of luck, may each of us cherish this luck and live like our favorite.
Promise me, okay?
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei, a young emotional writer and marriage counselor, focuses on marriage recovery and intimate relationship repair.