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Is the fate of this life really absolute?
Can the fate of a person in this life really not be changed?
Is there really no turning point in the fate of this life?
These three kinds of doubts are what we often call the "three questions of destiny." However, the vast majority of people will fall into a kind of "cycle", either thinking that my fate is up to me, or thinking that people can only accept their fate.
In fact, these two extreme ideas, that is not possible. Because "three points are destined, seven points rely on hard work." We may not be able to change our destiny, but we will eventually have the opportunity to change our destiny.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang believes that there will be two or three major turns in everyone's life, and whether he can grasp these turns well, then he can change his destiny.
To put it bluntly, you and I will eventually come to run the day, but whether we can go with the flow depends on our vision and strength.
Why do Taoists and Confucians advocate the "unity of heaven and man"? Why does Wang Yangming advocate the "unity of knowledge and action"?
In the view of Taoists and Confucians, the essence of the unity of heaven and man is to let people follow the general trend of natural and historical development. In Wang Yangming's eyes, only by combining theory and practice can we have new breakthroughs.
This is an effective way to change one's destiny.
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Someone has asked such a question, can the hard work and wealth of ordinary people really not change?
For this question, in fact, there is an answer to the above, that is, not necessarily. Because toil and wealth are not absolute, but interchangeable.
Those who toil and die, perhaps in ten or twenty years, will get rid of the fate of toiling, and thus become rich and bitter.
Those who are rich and prosperous, perhaps they will become more and more impoverished in ten or twenty years, and even live in the form of running and toiling, with only pain and no happiness in front of them.
In the Zhou Yi, there are two sayings, no pole Tai Lai, and no Tai Ji no lai.
The so-called "no pole Tai Lai", roughly means that when a person is at the bottom of the valley, then as long as he chooses to persevere, I believe he will have the day when he goes uphill.
The so-called "Taiji no come", roughly means that when a person is good to a certain extent, then he will gradually decline, from prosperity to decline.
This is the law of the transformation of "kuei Rong". From a dialectical point of view, everything in this world will change, nothing is absolute, everything will change with time.
For ordinary people, no matter how hard a person runs and toils, no matter how bitter his fate is, it will not exceed twenty years. As long as he works hard enough and perseveres enough, I believe that his turnaround will soon come.
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In ancient times, there was such a businessman who had been failing in business, and even he felt that there was no hope in this life, so he wanted to jump into the river and commit suicide.
However, when he was about to jump into the river, an old man stopped him and asked him what problem he had encountered, why did he jump into the river and commit suicide?
The businessman told the old man about his experience. After the old man listened, he laughed and said, "I can't open it for the sake of temporary small things, but I am really still young!" ”
"When I was younger, like you, I thought I would fall for the rest of my life. However, when I survived, I found that my family was gradually rising, and my children and grandchildren had also obtained meritorious titles. Didn't the fate of himself and his family change? ”
After listening to the old man's words, the businessman cried bitterly, saying that he did not know what to do.
Therefore, the old man gave him such a sentence: "One thought is born and all things rise, and one thought destroys and all things decline." ”
After more than a decade, the merchant achieved great success, and his friends were all over the world, and the family was the leading local family. This is the fate of the merchant for the second half of his life.
In fact, there is no absolute destiny in this world. When you have survived the cold winter, the spring will come unexpectedly. Only if you grasp the spring will your destiny change dramatically.
Everything is just a change of "thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi".
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I once met such a young man, who was born in a rural family and later went to Guangzhou to work hard. Anyway, in the eyes of his relatives, this young man will not mix up any achievements and will eventually return to the countryside.
However, the young man persevered in Guangzhou and has been trying to make money.
He did not focus on the matter of part-time work, but has been developing a side business and has been using his connections to make money for himself. To this day, he was still a hit worker, and he has long become the boss.
At the party, he said such a sentence, originally thought that the cowherd could only return to the countryside to herd cattle after all, who knew that everything had a day when "willows and flowers were bright". And for this day, I fought for eighteen years.
From the age of 23 to the age of 41 to achieve something, this is his life experience.
Many people will wonder, why has the fate of people changed so much?
As long as we analyze it in combination with the trajectory of market development, we can understand.
Technology is constantly changing, and the capital of the market is constantly annexing and combining with each other. At this time, the change of strength and weakness will eventually appear all the time. As long as you grasp a certain opportunity, ordinary people can also float up at the cusp of the storm.
In Wang Zhiwen's words, everything is just an opportunity.
Don't blame your own hard work, maybe your turnaround is in the next moment. Life will always surprise people.
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