In this era of high-speed progress, there is always a busy work, an endless bill, and a pressure that cannot be pushed off.
Many people also bend over and bald as a result. The collapse of adults may be at the moment when these daily chores are piled up.
Today we asked the fruit shell patient to introduce a doctor who worked very stressfully to see how he found the possibility of giving himself a breath when he was crushed by the last feather.
In August 2019, the male ticket was assigned a new job function: in addition to daily medical and scientific research work, he was also responsible for the administrative affairs of the department. The reason for this arrangement by the superior is clear, and it is necessary for young doctors who are in the ascendant period of occupation to assume certain management functions.
When his friends heard about it, they all showed him a "huh" expression. It's not that this responsibility is difficult, but everyone knows that he lacks management skills and is shy, and suddenly let him coordinate dozens of people's meetings, duty, overtime, leave, and deal with hospital administrative departments, which is basically a nightmare figurative.
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The leak in the house was raining overnight, and it was particularly difficult for them to be in the department. The old doctor retires, the new doctor does not arrive, and the two security tasks must be on standby 24 hours a day. The male ticket worked hard for a while, and found that it was really impossible to coordinate - the schedule was changed 8 times a week, the lunch was answered by 7 phone calls to change shifts, and the doctors who had been scheduled were transferred to meetings and classes... Every day is like this: the anxious patient who has been waiting in the waiting room for more than two hours and began to shout and scream is running wildly on the way to the emergency room, and the leaders of all walks of life have called and roared, "Why don't you look at the group?!" ”。
I've seen him standing in front of the kitchen sink a few times, hands shaking, trying to breathe deeply.
During that time, we seriously discussed the issue of work stress. For most people, career pressures from all sides are often selective: you can choose to ignore some of them, procrastinate some, or rebel against some.
But for the profession of doctor, there will be a lot less options — you know that if you don't show up, maybe someone will die.
The gentle personality and inability to refuse others also make the male ticket more vulnerable. He said to me privately: "I think that if I can't arrange the administrative work of the department well, it is all my fault, and I am not capable enough..."
I said, "First of all, you have to realize that since you have to give someone a job, you can't make everyone like you." ”
The male ticket hissed on the couch and curled up: "I just want everyone to like me!" ”
One day I just got off work, and his colleague sent me a message saying that he was not in the right condition and was now hanging up for the emergency room, but there were still many patients in the colleague's office who could not accompany me, so I was asked to hurry up and pick it up.
I was stuck in traffic for an hour and a half before I got to the hospital, and the male ticket was curled up alone on a small recliner in the corner of the dressing room, shivering. After asking around, an experienced nurse sister said it was probably a panic attack that triggered hyperventilation.
At this time, his colleague finally finished seeing the patient of the day, came to me and said, "How can he have a panic attack?" Looking at the very happy and strong young man, is it too heavy on his heart? Let him relax a lot..."
Me: "Actually, I think that the weight of the heart is the result of anxiety rather than the cause, modern people who have not been a little traumatized, go back to the psychiatric department to see, should take medicine and take medicine." 」 ”
The colleague had an expression of "how can it be so easy for a young man to go to psychiatric department now?"
After that, the male ticket also had one or two seizures at home, shrinking into a trembling mess alone, and it was obviously time to intervene. Since the occupational pressure cannot be solved for a while and a half, let's find a way to fight the pain itself. As doctors and doctors' companions, we are not afraid to treat mental problems, psychiatry is a thriving science, and the funds are too much!
We explored the registration system of the Shanghai Mental Health Center at No. 600 Wanping South Road for half a day, and found that the weekend was full, and the workload of the male ticket did not allow him to take leave on weekdays. It was about three weeks later, but only a day or two later, I suddenly received a message from the male ticket: "I can't do it, can you come and pick me up and go to the hospital in the afternoon." ”
When I rushed into the department, the male ticket was in a meeting with his superiors. The male ticket saw me and carefully told his superiors that he could not work in the afternoon and had to go to the doctor.
The superior's voice suddenly became agitated: "What if you suddenly want to go to our side?" ”
He looked down and muttered, like a hunk scolded by his teacher.
Fortunately, the boss counted two sentences or released people, I shook his hand and asked: "Is it difficult to be scolded by the boss?" ”
He said: "I can't take care of it now. ”
When I arrived at the hospital, the outpatient clinic naturally did not have it, but fortunately, I hung up the special needs number of the day. In the waiting room, he clenched his teeth and clasped his hands, and I felt the muscles of his whole body tense, like a rat forced into the corner by a huge predator, and every pore was emitting pain.
At that moment I suddenly realized something. Our tacit understanding, the deep friendship of many years, and all the determination I had to stand up for him could not fight the pain of this time for him. Illness is man's own destiny, and I can accompany him, but he himself is the brave man who has chosen.
Because of this sudden realization, I did not accompany him into the clinic. I realized that I didn't want to be the one who explained his condition next to the patient. I don't want to pretend that I can be the savior: the brave man must have made his own decision to take the step of confronting the Demon King head-on.
After a while he came out, looking much more relaxed.
"Moderate anxiety," he said, "the doctor also said: all doctors, he understands!" ”
After dispensing the medicine, I asked, "Do you want to take a few days off in sick?" ”
The male ticket suddenly became nervous again: "I don't know, I can't decide..."
"You've all done this and rested!" I dragged him back to the doctor's office, "Doctor, can he take sick leave?" ”
"You can open this situation," the doctor brushed and wrote the sick leave list, "give you two weeks off for worship, at most, after two weeks there is no improvement and then open!" Don't be afraid, it will be fine! ”
After seeing the patient, in order to celebrate the successful visit, we decided to take a detour to eat crab flour noodles.
I didn't feel that hard at the time. On the one hand, a diagnosis means treatment; on the other hand, neither of us thinks it's a big deal. Isn't it good to have a cure for anyone in life who is not sick?
However, my first reaction after the diagnosis may be the same as many of the patient's families: "My partner has an anxiety disorder, is it because I make him feel unhappy?" ”
If someone around us is suffering from anxiety, how should we get along with them? How do doctors explain and advise on panic attacks, anxiety, and other phenomena?
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