It is said that the daughter is the father's past life lover, and every "daughter slave" father is full of tenderness for the daughter in the eyes.
So, what about the son?
In an instant, countless mothers are irritable: the son is mischievous, the sword between mother and son is often tense, the mother is more in charge, the mother is annoyed, the mother is bad, and the mother is not hated by the son!
But in fact, the mother is the son's lover in this life!
Don't worry, after reading the following points, mothers will be happy: it turns out that mothers are so important in their sons' hearts.
Raising a boy, the mother must know the code of life, right here.
1, the mother is the first important relative
There is no doubt that the mother is the most important first relative in the boy's life, because in this world, if there is no mother, there is no mother-child relationship.
When the famous writer Wu Zhihong mentioned the "mother-child relationship", he pointed out: From the beginning of the boy waiting to be fed, the influence of the mother on the boy is crucial and irreplaceable.
Boys who lack the care of their mothers from an early age are often accompanied by serious emotional deficits; when they grow up, boys will be emotionally defensive and it is difficult to establish intimate relationships with people.
But on the contrary, if the boy is in childhood and his mother gives him sufficient companionship, it will make the boy feel full of love, warmth and tolerance. Nourished by maternal love, boys learn to understand the world and accept the people and things of this world.
2, the mother is the first idol
The mother is the first woman that the boy comes into contact with in his life, and no matter what the appearance of the mother is, the first appearance in the boy's mind must be the most beautiful.
Therefore, the mother's gesture will be very large, affecting the child's view of women throughout her life.
3, the mother is the first dream lover
Adolescence is the most headache stage for parents, in addition to the elusive nature of children, learning up and down, boys will not fall in love early, but also become a very worrying aspect of parents.
However, if a mother is gentle and considerate, can be empathetic in the process of child growth, and meets the boy's energy needs for female love, then the boy's adolescence will often transition more smoothly, and it is not easy to fall in love early.
Because, the mother has satisfied the boy's fantasy of the lover of his dreams.
4, the mother teaches the boy the gentleness
There was once a "drink more water" passage that told the boy's lack of tenderness in parenting.
Husband, my stomach hurts. - "Drink plenty of water!" ”
Husband, I have a cold. - "Drink plenty of water!" ”
Husband, my great aunt is here. - "Drink plenty of water!" ”
On the way straight men care about people, that is, water is a panacea, please drink more.
Because of gender relations, boys have a big grin and informality, and therefore, it is difficult to capture and perceive the subtle emotional changes of the other party, and thus become the spit point of many female friends.
But not all boys lack a gentle side. Whether boys care about people, whether they know how to care for people, comes from the upbringing of their mothers from an early age.
I have a girlfriend, two "big and small men" in the family, and the very different performances of father and son often make her hot and cold. The husband is born a straight man, usually does not say gentle and considerate words, even if she has a headache and brain fever, she has to open her own mouth, the husband can detect.
One day after dinner, my girlfriend felt a stomachache and sent her husband to buy medicine. Who knows, this disturbs the husband's interest in playing games, he is obviously not very happy, not only grinding and rubbing, but also muttering: "You drink some hot water first, right?" Wait until I finish this game? If you don't let your dad buy you a box, he's in the neighborhood next door, close to the drugstore..."
Hearing her husband's answer, the girlfriend was so angry that she strangled him to death, so angry that she yelled: "I'm still not your wife?" I just call a friend for help, and I care more than you do! ”
On the contrary, his son's performance made him feel that he still had a love. Although he was only in kindergarten, when the child saw that his mother was uncomfortable, listened to the conversation of his parents, immediately brought boiling water, and extended his small hand to help his mother rub his stomach.
I once asked her with a smile: "My husband did not teach well, but my son was well cultivated by you, and my future daughter-in-law will be blessed in the future!" ”
The girlfriend smiled bitterly: "It is important whether men will hurt people!" The husband can't teach it, then he can only find some comfort in his son..."
Boys also have the potential to be gentle, when they get along with their mothers, they fully feel the gentleness and thoughtfulness from their mother's love, which not only makes the boys more sound, they will also learn from their mothers and take the initiative to take care of the people around them.
If you look closely at the little warm man, you will find that behind them, there is often a gentle and lovely mother standing.
5) Mom teaches boys how to get along with the opposite sex
How to learn to get along with the opposite sex is a lesson that boys must learn on the road to life growth. Boys who are polite, have a sense of humor, have a sense of responsibility, and have opinions tend to attract girls more.
So, how does a boy feel that he is welcomed by the other party?
At this time, the mother is the most powerful helper behind the boy.
From the perspective of feminine feelings, mothers can tell boys: What type of boys do girls like?
Moms can also tell boys what they should do in the process of getting along with girls. What to watch out for?
Teaching little by little will slowly make boys learn to get along with the opposite sex, so as to be a confident and sunny boy.
6, the mother cultivates the sense of responsibility of the boy
Boys are naturally protective and will lend a helping hand to the weak. When they see their strength to protect each other, they inspire a sense of responsibility.
Then, the mother can become the best object of protection for boys.
Mothers who know how to show weakness give boys the opportunity to protect others from an early age. In life, let the boy learn to help his mother do housework, learn to help his mother deal with external interpersonal relationships, and learn to help his mother cope with all the difficulties in life.
The boy's sense of responsibility is slowly stimulated, and eventually cultivated into a man with responsibility and shoulders the responsibilities of the family.
Moms are the most important person in a boy's life, and there is no substitute for mom's influence on boys. When the mother has insight into the boy's life code, she has more opportunities to become a better boy.
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