In the last 36 questions of "Goodbye Lover", Zhang He asked Guo Keyu what is my most attractive trait to you. Guo Keyu blurted out: There is nothing that attracts me.
As soon as this sentence came out, Zhang He was immediately anxious, and he asked Guo Keyu again: Have I really not attracted you in the past ten years? Guo Keyu smiled in his heart and said: No.
Zhang He said with a gloomy face: "Then I am still quite sad."
Even if Guo Keyu pretended to be very serious, everyone could see that she was obviously joking, but Zhang He was just going to take it seriously.
From the beginning of the program, Zhang He said that the purpose of coming to the program was to know how Guo Keyu had seen him in the past ten years. It can be seen that he has always been in a low level of self-awareness, and has always needed the approval of others to confirm his value.
In fact, in the whole show, Guo Keyu did not praise Zhanghe less, and gave him ten points from the beginning. In the later travels, whether in front of Zhang He or not, Guo Keyu always affirmed Zhang He's sense of responsibility in terms of appearance and family.
In fact, just a few minutes before Guo Keyu joked with him, Guo Keyu had just said many of Zhang He's advantages.
But Zhang He could not jump out of the strange circle of low self-awareness, and when Guo Keyu encouraged him to praise him, he smiled triumphantly at that moment, and when he turned his head, he felt that Guo Keyu did not approve of him.
This low level of self-awareness causes them to often not have conversations. As Guo Keyu said, Zhang He set the answer when he asked the question, and if the answer he got was not within his set range, then the conversation could not continue.
In "Difficult Conversation", it is said that there are three levels of conversation, the first layer is what happened, the second layer is emotional dialogue, and the third layer is self-awareness dialogue.
Although Ba Zhanghe is impatient, the biggest part of his conversation is that his self-awareness level is too low to start a learning conversation.
It may be the reason for the environment in which he grew up when he was a child, and he never got the affirmation and encouragement of his parents when he was a child, so when he grew up, he always looked for encouragement to prove himself.
In front of Guo Keyu, he is actually the boy who did not get love when he was a child, he regarded Guo Keyu as a mother, and constantly wanted her affirmation and encouragement.
Self-perception encompasses three aspects: Am I competent, am I a good person, and do I deserve to be loved?
People with low self-awareness think the answer to these three questions is either yes or no.
So as long as the other party expresses a little inconsistent opinion or opinion, they think that the other party is rejecting themselves and denying themselves. Therefore, people with low self-awareness will be particularly sensitive.
Once Zhang He and Guo Keyu were sightseeing in a fenced place, Guo Keyu said that people wrote that they would not climb, Zhang He thought that Guo Keyu felt that he wanted to climb up, and then he explained that he did not want to climb up at all.
It can be seen how sensitive Zhang He is, and he will always think that what others say casually is aimed at him, and he is always worried that he is not a "good person" in the eyes of others.
Guo Keyu was really tired of living with Zhang He, and he didn't know that that sentence might make him angry. I don't know which sentence will touch his fragile self-esteem.
Although Guo Keyu and Zhang He are still in love, they are really not suitable for being together. Not being together can be very good friends. If together, the two of them get along, for a long time, and go the same way again.