At the end of "Non-stop Walking", Liangduo left with his wife and children, and the old couple went to send them off.
On the way home, my father said, "They will come back in the New Year."
Immediately after, Many said in the car, "I can forget about the New Year, once a year, it is a lot."
Many daughters-in-law Yukari (hereinafter referred to as Xiaoxiang) responded to him, "I have always let my parents entertain him and not go away."
Xiao Xiang's thoughtfulness is a kind of courtesy, and there is a kind of raw point in the politeness. She also supports a lot of ideas and doesn't go home this New Year.
After this dialogue, "Non-Stop Walking" has the most heart-wrenching scene, "my father died three years later", "not long after my mother died".
"The tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to be kissed."
The love of parents for their children is a debt that their children will never be able to pay.
1. Parents are unreliable
There are two main reasons for the intentional alienation of their parents. First, he is a middle-aged man who has achieved nothing. Second, his parents were unreliable.
Let's start with the first point.
I hope that Xiao Xiang will help him hide the news of unemployment, and there is his filial piety of reporting good news and not worrying, which is also caused by his self-esteem.
His alienation from his parents is to prevent them from learning the fact that he is a waste of wood.
Evaluating whether a man wastes firewood or not has two main dimensions, career and feelings.
Unemployed and widowed, many performances are not glamorous.
Some people may say that a lot of unemployment does not mean that he has no money.
I have a hard time agreeing with this view.
The brother-in-law sells cars to Many, and his mother encourages him to buy a car, and Many has been vague.
At the end of the film, Many drive a car to sweep the grave, indicating that he does not reject cars. He didn't buy a car, not because he didn't have a driver's license or because he didn't need a scooter to live in Tokyo.
There was only one truth, he couldn't afford to buy a car.
The mother could not see a lot of shyness in her pocket, she encouraged her to buy a lot of cars, and she would also accept a lot of money for her.
My father understood that it was not easy to make money, and took the initiative to ask if the money was enough to spend. Plenty of responses, enough to support the family.
Liangduo married the widow Xiaoxiang after the age of forty, which can be seen as evidence that he was poor. This has made many parents angry.
Many even whispered, taking the initiative to ask their sisters what their parents thought of this marriage.
But as long as he thinks Xiaoxiang is the perfect partner, he won't do it.
Let's talk about a lot of parents.
The mother used words such as "old model" and "widow" to describe Xiaoxiang.
She is a gossip queen, and many fathers are more fierce, and it is difficult for a widow with a baby to marry.
This is the most embarrassing moment of "Non-Stop", as soon as this word comes out, the air suddenly becomes quiet.
Fortunately, Xiao Xiang's emotional intelligence is high enough, and he smiled and said, "Fortunately, there is a good man who wants me", easily resolving the embarrassment.
The same two people living together, the difference between father and mother is a little big. The father is external cold and internal heat, and the mother is external heat and internal cold.
What they have in common is that they don't have high emotional intelligence.
They will never properly handle the relationship with their sons and daughters-in-law, because they have married Xiaoxiang, and Many are more estranged from their original families.
Let's start with a lot of fathers.
The daughter-in-law greeted him, and he said "it's you" and left in a hurry.
Many mothers complained that he was childish, in fact, the father was a giant baby who only earned money and did not know how to express love.
The family eats an eel set together, and he licks his chopsticks and eats the liver in Junshi's (Xiao Xiang's son's son) eel liver soup.
Hiccup, good different care.
Despite his presumptuous attitude, he is still a warm-hearted grandfather.
He would communicate with Junshi with a kind face, hoping that he would become a doctor.
For Many, being a doctor is a tough patriarchy, and for Junshi, it is an acknowledgement of Junshi's grandson's identity.
My father's shortcoming is that he does more and talks less.
After his father's death, Ryodo also said, "I didn't go to the football game with him."
This line is enough to prove that Kore-eda has reached the level of "the extreme of decay tends to be flat".
When he and his father watched the sea awkwardly, he found that his father did not like baseball anymore and fell in love with football as much as he did.
The two meet to watch a football game together in the future.
This time the conversation echoed the beginning.
Many once said to Xiao Xiang, "Dad still thinks I'm a baseball fan."
As it turns out, many perceptions are wrong.
Father has exuded an aura of love to Many, and he is no longer a baseball fan, but loves Football.
For the sake of his son, he changed himself.
He does not have enough ability to release his love to the juniors, but he still loves the juniors. Junshi also hopes to become a doctor when he grows up, which is a response to this love.
And many mothers.
To evaluate a person objectively, we must listen to his words and judge his deeds.
Many mothers are not kind old ladies.
The whole family ate eel rice together, and my mother offered to listen to music, and she said leisurely that she often listened to this song.
Her father felt that her little secret had been revealed, and his face could not hang on, but he could only hold back no matter how upset he was.
The song that my mother sang was sung by my father to my lover. Interestingly, until then, he had always thought that this matter was done without leaks.
In fact, the mother took quite a lot of them to the father's and lover's residence, and the two of them heard the father singing in the room. She went to buy a CD of the song the next day and listened to it while her family was away.
A lot of mothers, a fierce character who can hold his breath.
She is a traditional housewife, not financially independent, and has no capital to compete with her other half.
Despite her lack of financial strength, her family status was much higher than that of her father.
When taking the family portrait, the mother sat firmly in the C position, and the father stood aside, unhappy in his heart, and whisked his sleeve away.
The son-in-law would compliment the mother's family's cold drinks, and the granddaughter would call it "Grandma's House" instead of Grandpa's house.
In this regard, the father once asked his daughter why the children were called "Grandma's Family" instead of "Grandpa's Family".
The daughter said hehehe.
As the spiritual leader of the family, the pajamas incident proved that mothers could not be human.
She would prepare three pairs of toothbrushes for many of them, but did not buy Pajamas for Junshi.
Xiao Xiang was very concerned about this. Because she felt that many mothers regarded Junshi as a guest, not a family member.
This is really not a small incense.
Afterwards, many mothers sent xiaoxiang kimonos, hoping that the two would make dolls.
The baby proves her attitude towards Junshi, because Junshi does not have many genetic genes, so he is not a family member.
As I mentioned earlier, many mothers do not have high IQs.
The gesture she gave to Xiaoxiang a kimono also proves this.
She complained about her own daughter in front of Xiaoxiang, and never wore a kimono for her, presumably secretly sold.
She was going to give the kimono to Xiao Xiang. It's like saying, "My daughter doesn't know how to cherish my heirloom, so I might as well give it to you." The kimono, originally a gift full of love, became a means of preventing her daughter from selling it in her hands.
Xiao Xiang's brain is so fast that she will definitely understand the ultimate purpose of her mother-in-law's kimono for her - to urge her to make a doll with Many.
Before that, Xiao Xiang found that her mother-in-law bought pajamas for a lot, not for Chun Shi.
This act is nothing more than a statement to the daughter-in-law, "To become my daughter-in-law, you must have a child."
This attitude of hiding needles in the cotton is bound to make XiaoXiang uncomfortable.
The two returned by car, and many said that they would not go home for the New Year, and Xiao Xiang agreed with this plan with a euphemistic attitude.
The attitude of the two proves that the parents have exhausted the young couple. To stay away from them is to protect yourself.
2. Dispute over inheritance
In addition to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, intergenerational conflict, "Non-stop" also has a contradictory line - the dispute over inheritance.
The contender side is the daughter line represented by Chinami and the son line represented by Ryota.
Active and enthusiastic, planned, is the style of the daughter's department.
She determined the relocation time, provided her mother with a new design plan, and announced in advance that she would live in a different pot.
Chinami's daughter mentions in front of Junshi that there is her room with a blue bed and a piano that belongs to her.
Unlike the daughter line, the performance of the son line is very Buddhist.
Because many do not plan to live with their parents.
Although the son is very Buddhist, his chances of getting his parents' property are much higher than those of his daughter.
Because the parents always regard many as the first heirs.
At a mother-led family meeting (the father refuses to attend), Senami offered to say, "It's best to live with your daughter when you're older."
The main reason Forami plays the emotional card is to get her parents' property.
Many mothers were aware of their daughter's careful thinking and said on the spot, "It depends on what kind of daughter."
Senami's emotional intelligence is good, but like her husband, she belongs to that kind of beautiful talker.
He took the initiative to repair the tiles, but never did it.
In the end, many tiles were repaired.
Daughter and son, if they choose one or the other, they will definitely choose their son.
It's not just a matter of son preference, it's also a trade-off option.
Chinome uses her parents as an ATM, but many know how to reciprocate.
Many mornings after arriving home, my mother ordered sushi for 16,800 yen, which translates into 994 yuan (2021 exchange rate, "Walking Non-Stop" was released in 2008).
Food prices represent love.
When Xiao Xiang ate eel rice, she exclaimed, "Sushi for lunch, eel rice for dinner, awesome."
During the sushi meal session, the reaction of the Senami family was very interesting.
Chinomi's sons and daughters talk a lot, saying that they ate sushi yesterday. The son-in-law's reaction at this point was to silence them.
When my mother heard this, she said leisurely, "My name is sushi, but you have just eaten it."
Chi nami hurriedly said, "It doesn't matter, I haven't eaten yet." ”
For the mother's hospitality, the Senami family only has beautiful words, but many take the initiative to pay money to subsidize the mother.
This is the difference between Senami and Ryota.
The mother has always refused to let her daughter move back, which shows her unquestionable family status. This can also be seen in her inner balance, the son is more important than the daughter.
In fact, many people do not live with their parents, have nothing to do with Senami, and have a lot to do with their parents.
This man in his forties could never find a way to live in harmony with his parents.
epilogue:
Many went to the grave with his mother for his dead brother. They saw freshly plucked yellow flowers in front of the tomb.
The mother guessed that the flower giver was the brother's ex-wife.
A lot of ridicule, if she is not afraid of far, she can indeed come over to send flowers.
She would even think of Yoshio, a fat man who "killed" their son, who was not a tool.
Many mothers could not imagine that it was many fathers who sent flowers to their eldest son.
She can see the absurdity and childishness of her husbands, but she does not understand that their lives are closely linked.
After the death of many fathers, my mother also left quickly.
Children have similar situations with their parents, and when they are there, they always feel that their parents are the source of chicken feathers in their own lives. It is not until they die that they will find that this can be remembered.
The road of life does not stop, but we are always slow.