Bai Baihe and Tong Dawei played male and female protagonists in the TV series "Our Marriage", and both husband and wife are quite capable and have good personalities. Men work hard outside, women take care of everything at home, buy houses in big cities, and live enviable little lives, but why are there always contradictions in life?
The reason is that it can be said that "success is because they all have the ability, and the failure lies in the fact that they all have the ability", obviously it is a couple, but the two people are not obedient to each other in their hearts, and it is so difficult to satisfy each other's vanity and praise each other's "hello is so good"? Under the same umbrella, bow your head and accommodate each other!
Female protagonist mantra: If I go to work, I must earn more than you
At the beginning of the TV series, "Our Marriage" showed the ability of the heroine in all aspects, holding a musical instrument to play music, holding a wrench to install furniture, holding a pen in hand to repair electrical appliances, going to the hall, and going down to the kitchen.
For the growth of her children, the heroine who studied finance put down her job and retreated to the family front for more than 6 years, but her ability and strong personality are always displayed. Even in front of the female neighbor who is also a housewife, the heroine will never allow her to lose her feminine dignity in the slightest, and every time the female neighbor mentions that "the man is making money outside" and "he is the one who takes the money back", it will make the heroine very unhappy.
When the female neighbor said that she had the opportunity to participate in the forum because of her husband, and she was stained with her husband's light, the heroine said that if she did not give up her work 6 years ago, who would stain whose light was not necessarily it. The female neighbor couldn't look at it, and said in a serious tone: You are also too competitive and competitive, and you are even higher than your husband.
When the female protagonist asked the male protagonist: If you were allowed to take the child at home, would you be willing? The male protagonist replied without hesitation: Of course, yes, how easy it is to eat soft rice, and it is good to digest. But in the heroine's heart, even in her mouth, she has been emphasizing herself: if she went to work, she would have earned more than you, and the house she bought would be bigger than it is now. It is true that the speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart.
Male protagonist mantra: It all depends on me to work outside alone, I am a good man
As a company executive, the male protagonist is undoubtedly excellent, has little achievements in his career, is gentle and considerate to his wife, and does not have a big man's idea in life, even if he wants to occupy the "game room", he only dares to make the means a little clever, and never dares to be tough with his wife.
Wife at home as a full-time wife, a person to work hard, in the bustling area of the big city to buy a set of more than 100,000 houses per square meter, although the apartment type is not large, but you can walk to the company to work, has been the standard of successful men, is a symbol of identity and status, this point the male owner said that there is nothing wrong with it.
But the female protagonist probably never praised the male protagonist, the male protagonist's achievements have not been recognized at home, obviously a stomach grievance, and finally took advantage of a drunken home, the words in his heart were all poured out: "Your husband is a living 'good man guide', I rely on my own strength, with our whole family to achieve consumption upgrades, our family has jumped a class, do you know how difficult your husband is?" You say your husband is not strong? ”
The male protagonist still uses written words such as "consumption upgrade" after getting drunk, which shows that he is a fairly cultured person, and at the same time, he can hear that he has been holding back for a long time, saying these words is "premeditated". But he can say these words, which shows that wanting to be a good man and wanting to be a model husband is a will engraved in his bones, which is undoubtedly positive, at least it is teachable.
At this moment, if the heroine comes to a sentence of "Husband, you are so powerful!" Even learn from Zhiling's sister and put the voice a little louder, the effect is completely different. But the heroine did not, but afterwards blamed a husband, and this matter, these words, has become a barrier that has always affected the heroine's heart.
Between husband and wife, is it so difficult to praise each other for saying "you are so good"?
Between the male and female protagonists, in the final analysis, it is very simple, is not to get the approval of the other party, let the other party praise their "good"? But when it comes to the two of them, why is it so difficult? Probably because both of them are stronger, the other party is not willing to praise themselves, they can only praise themselves. One said that he was strong, and the other did not sing with his husband, but said that I was stronger than you, and then no one obeyed anyone, which made everyone very aggrieved.
Whether at work or in the family, no matter how capable people are, they will inevitably feel wronged. At this time, husband and wife should appreciate more, praise more, say more about each other's "very strong", increase each other's confidence, and increase the happiness of life, but they are often unwilling to take this step. In real life, there are many such examples, right?