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Geng Weihua
In September 2020, the famous military singer Geng Weihua posted a group of photos of his daughter on Weibo and left a message below: Daddy is happy, you must be happy. This ordinary sentence shows that Geng Weihua has completely come out of the haze of unmarried marriage.
Geng Weihua grew from a peasant child to a famous tenor singer and experienced many hardships. He sang many familiar songs such as "Green Jacket in the Army", "Love Mother", "Singing the Song of the Soldier", "Mother" and many other well-known songs, and has been on the CCTV Spring Festival Gala many times, which is deeply loved by the audience.
Geng Weihua had a failed marriage, and divorce scarred his heart. Struggling for years in the shadow of being unmarried, he finally came out. Geng Weihua no longer has expectations for marriage and is still single...
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Geng Weihua was born in 1970 in rural Zibo, Shandong Province, and later went to live with his parents in Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province. He is 1.80 meters tall, has thick eyebrows, big eyes, and a good voice.
Young Geng Weihua
After graduating from high school, Geng Weihua was admitted to the Cultural and Labor Corps of the Third Garrison Division of the Nanjing Military Region and became a literary and artistic soldier. Soon, the cultural and industrial team was disbanded, and he was admitted to the front-line song and dance troupe of the Nanjing Military Region and became a professional singer.
There were many talents in the group, and Geng Weihua felt that he was too bad, so he went to the Shanghai Conservatory of Music for further study at his own expense. Because he did not obtain the admission qualification, geng Weihua just stood under the classroom window of the Shanghai Conservatory of Music to listen to the lecture, enduring the ridicule and blank eyes of others. Professor Wang Pinsu of the school, Xi Cai, taught Geng Weihua vocal music for free.
Before coming to the Shanghai Conservatory of Music, Geng Weihua only brought 500 yuan. The school did not arrange a dormitory for him, and he slept in the piano room at night. The winter in Shanghai is cold and wet, the cold wind whistles from the window to the piano room, and Geng Weihua is frozen several times a night.
Professor Wang Pinsu
For three meals a day, he eats the cheapest meals, often with one serving of rice and one portion of greens. Sometimes when he buys a pickle, he has to divide it into two meals. Learning opportunities are not easy to come by, weekends and holidays, Geng Weihua does not go home, alone in the piano room to practice the piano, with Professor Wang Pinsu to practice sight singing.
After a year of hard study, his singing level has gone up several grades. In 1989, Geng Weihua went to Beijing with the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe to participate in the all-army literary and artistic performance. The leaders of the Second Artillery Corps felt that he was a malleable talent and encouraged him to apply for the Second Artillery Examination. The Second Artillery Cultural and Labor Troupe belongs to the national first-class literary and art group, and the development space is even greater, and Geng Weihua can't help but boil with blood.
After returning to Nanjing, Geng Weihua waited for the notice of the second artillery examination day by day. It wasn't until March 1991 that the other party asked him to take the exam in Beijing. At that time, the Spring Festival had just passed, and it was at the peak of migrant workers returning to the city, and tickets to Beijing were difficult to find. Geng Weihua went all the way from Nanjing Station to Beijing, and the whole person was exhausted.
On the afternoon of the day he arrived in Beijing, Geng Weihua walked into the examination room. Due to his talent and outstanding singing qualities, he was successfully admitted to the Second Artillery Literary troupe. He then left Nanjing and came to Beijing to work and live.
After entering the Second Artillery Literary and Labor Troupe, Geng Weihua became a fish in the water, launched a number of classic original songs such as "Mother" and "Green Clothes in the Army", and frequently participated in CCTV large-scale literary and art evenings, gradually emerging in the song world.
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Geng Weihua is tall, handsome, and has a good voice, and has quite a large number of fans. In 1998, Geng Weihua received a courtship letter from iron fan Zheng Jia. She is more than ten years younger than Geng Weihua, a native of Xi'an, the only daughter in the family, and the family's economic conditions are superior.
At that time, Zheng Jia was studying at the Fourth Military Medical University of the People's Liberation Army and fell madly in love with Geng Weihua. This courtship letter, she wrote a full 11 pages in a brush. Geng Weihua felt that the two were unreliable and did not reply.
This provoked Zheng Jia's rebellious psychology, and after that, she had to come to Beijing once a month to stay downstairs in Geng Weihua's house. Zheng Jia's crazy pursuit has lasted for two years.
In the summer of 2000, Zheng Jia came to Beijing again. She stood at the door of Geng Weihua's community, drenched in heavy rain. Even so, she did not see Geng Weihua and cried all the way back to Xi'an.
Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia
Zheng Jia's infatuation and persistence finally impressed Geng Weihua, and a few days later he called Zheng Jia: "If you don't care about my previous coldness, I am willing to be with you." Zheng Jia burst into tears of happiness. She hurried to Beijing and received a marriage license with Geng Weihua.
The first time I went to my parents-in-law's house in Xi'an, my mother-in-law only cooked one meal for Geng Weihua, and the rest was cooked by him. He stayed in Xi'an for 4 days and cooked meals for 4 days. It can be said that compared with Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua's career and personal conditions are superior. However, the first time he went to his mother-in-law's house to cook, such a son-in-law is rare.
At this time, Zheng Jia had graduated from college and worked in a hospital. Because the process of chasing love is too bitter, Zheng Jia cherishes the marriage with Geng Weihua, and the two have spent a peaceful and happy time.
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In 2004, Zheng Jia gave birth to a daughter in Beijing. She has since quit her job to work as a stay-at-home mom. With the deepening of married life, the collision brought about by the personality, age difference, and consumption concept of the two people is sharply highlighted.
Zheng Jia was young, a young wife, and rarely did housework, and Geng Weihua took care of almost all the chores in the family. Zheng Jia spends a lot of money, while Geng Weihua is from the countryside and has always lived frugally, which also makes the two stumble continuously.
At that time, Geng Weihua had not yet become famous, and his income was not high. He wanted to support his parents, to support his family, and to maintain his wife's high consumption, and he felt deeply overwhelmed. For two years, Geng Weihua rarely performed, so he went to a friend's restaurant as a purchaser to earn extra income.
However, the couple quarreled, but Geng Weihua never thought of divorce. It is undeniable that Zheng Jia is a talented woman, although she graduated from medical university, she likes to write poetry. In 2011, Geng Weihua released his solo music album "Still Warm at Home", which contains 13 new songs, of which 6 songs are lyrics by Zheng Jiazuo. This music album has become the biggest highlight of the marriage between the two.
As Geng Weihua became popular, his performances became more and more, and zheng jia began to gather less and leave more. As a result, the negative emotions accumulated in Zheng Jia's heart gushed out, and the two frequently rubbed.
In 2014, Zheng Jia filed for divorce from Geng Weihua. He was astonished: "Our daughters are so old, what marriage are they divorcing?" Don't play with childish tempers. Zheng Jia said resolutely: "We are not suitable, and the harm will only get bigger and bigger when we are together, and I don't want to live this kind of life again." ”
It is not easy to become a family, and Geng Weihua, who is middle-aged, cannot bear to live in a single-parent family, so he strives to save this relationship. He said good things to Zheng Jia, wrote a letter of guarantee, and made some moves that hurt men's self-esteem.
Even Geng Weihua's friends said that in order to save his marriage, Geng Weihua lowered his head to the dust and crushed his self-esteem. However, this still failed to save Zheng Jia's feelings. Seeing that Zheng Jia had already decided to go, in 2015, Geng Weihua divorced her, and his daughter lived with him.
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A man who loves his family the most and values his family the most, but in middle age, he watched his family disperse and could not do anything. Geng Weihua was immersed in pain, self-blame and sorrow.
Geng Weihua and his mother
On the night of the divorce, he sat on the couch and wept, his daughter hid in the bed and cried, and the home was shrouded in a fog of sorrow. Because the injury was too deep, Geng Weihua had no intention of working, and at one point he had some mental breakdown. The parents were worried that their son would have an accident and rushed from his hometown to accompany Geng Weihua.
The mother said to him with tears: "Son, you have tried your best, don't blame yourself anymore." For us, for the sake of your daughter, you have to be strong too. "Yes, because of her deep pain, my daughter has become more and more silent. Parents are getting older day by day, and they can't let them worry about their hearts all day, and Geng Weihua strives to adjust his mood.
In order to cheer geng Weihua up, parents chatted with their sons, telling about the difficulties of the family's dependence on each other when they were young, and about the pride that their sons brought to themselves. The mother also often mixed noodles and chopped vegetables, and made steamed buns and pies for her son in his hometown.
When Geng Weihua performed in Beijing, his parents took their granddaughter to the scene to cheer for him. Under the warmth of family affection, Geng Weihua's mood is getting better and better. He finally understood that marriage was not the whole of a man's life, that he had lost his marriage, and that he had a career, as well as his daughter and parents. All of this can also support your own life!
Geng Weihua's "Still Warm Home" MTV stills
After struggling in the haze of lost marriage for 3 years, Geng Weihua finally stood up mentally and said goodbye to the past completely.
In September 2020, Geng Weihua has been divorced for 5 years. Zheng Jia has found a new life, but Geng Weihua has not been involved in feelings. Because the hurt was so deep, he did not have expectations for marriage.
His parents often urged him to remarry, and Geng Weihua had his own ideas, that is, after raising his daughter to go to college, he would consider remarriage. Marriage is not a necessity of life, if you really can't meet the right, even if you live alone, he must live a wonderful life!
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