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In this world, although there are many great truths, not all of them are logical.
For example, in our concept, powerful people often have different skills from ordinary people, and are leaders in a certain field. But in reality, many powerful people look ordinary, no different from ordinary people.
Even, some of them do not have high education, do not have a family background that can be used to show off, but seem to have easily obtained the life and achievements that others dream of, so there will always be people who wonder: what is he?
In fact, really powerful people are very different from ordinary people in their dealings with the world. They look quiet, but they win exceptionally beautifully, which is the real big picture and high emotional intelligence, and this is also the key to changing their lives against the sky.
One: Clear self-awareness
As the saying goes, people are self-aware.
People must have a clear self-understanding at all times. However, some people, after a little achievement, will feel that they have been very remarkable, and their eyes will immediately grow to the top of their heads, and no one can see them.
Such a person often does not have great achievements, because his eyes are higher than the top and he will soon block his own path. Even if others want to help him, they are powerless. Their minds are like frogs at the bottom of a well, but they don't know how big and wide the sky is.
On the contrary, those who have a clear understanding of themselves at any time, they understand the truth of "this mountain and that mountain is high", and they know that even if they have achieved a certain achievement, they still have a long and longer way to go.
They understand that in order to become truly powerful people, they must maintain a clear understanding of themselves, continue to learn, and learn from those around them, just like in the Analects: Threesomes, there must be my teacher.
Therefore, they will be very humble to the people around them, never put themselves in a high position, and never be arrogant and arrogant.
It is precisely because they have an incomparably clear understanding of themselves that they are always on the road to becoming better and more powerful, and they will eventually become really powerful people in people's eyes.
Two: Leave room for everything
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is written: "The taste of the refreshing mouth, the medicine of rotten intestines and bones, five points will be harmless; the happy things are the medium of defeat and loss of morality, and there will be no regrets at five points." ”
This means that no matter how delicious and delicious food is, eating too much will also cause damage to the stomach and intestines, but as long as you don't eat too much and eat half full, you won't be fine. Those things that make people very happy and happy may lose their virtues, so they should not be too covetous.
Therefore, it is said that when there is room for everything, there will be no regrets in five points.
Those who are really powerful are well aware of this truth, and usually when they talk and do things, they will leave some leeway for others, and will not force others to nowhere.
In fact, this way of dealing with the world is not only to leave room for others, but also for yourself. Only in this way will his path become wider and wider.
In life, leave room for your relatives and friends around you, when you encounter difficulties and need help, the people around you remember your past tolerance and generosity, so that you will not fall into the well.
In the work, leave room for colleagues working together, not too much care, so that you can have more prestige among colleagues, and the relationship with colleagues will be more harmonious.
People who are willing to leave room for people are often people with great wisdom, and such people are the really powerful people in the crowd.
Three: Good at sending charcoal in the snow
Most people like to do icing on the cake, and when others have achievements or good things, they will pursue others and do their best to flatter. Once others are in trouble and need help, the first person to jump out and make fun of it must be such a person.
Such people usually have a very poor reputation, and the people around them are not willing to associate with such people, they have no real friends, and it is not only difficult for such people to achieve great results, but also difficult to become a powerful person.
Really powerful people are often good at sending charcoal in the snow, rather than wanting to add icing on the cake. Because they know that one less flower does not have much impact on others, but the charcoal fire in the snow can save people's lives.
Although they do not want to be rewarded for their help to others, most people know how to be grateful, and often after they have passed through the difficulties, they will "drink water and think of the source" and be grateful to the people who have helped them.
There is a proverb in foreign countries called: Those who help others climb up will climb higher.
The proverb comes from a fable that basically says that a hungry and thirsty man who, passing by an apple tree, tries to pick an apple from a tree, but is not tall enough to climb a tree.
Just when he was in trouble, another person came over and wanted to pick apples, but like the first person, he was not tall enough to climb trees. So the first man drove the second man to pick up a lot of apples.
This little fable is a very good interpretation of the wisdom of sending charcoal in the snow, and those who are good at sending charcoal in the snow are actually helping themselves, just like the first person who wants to pick an apple, if he refuses to help the second person, he will not be able to eat the apple.
Those who are really powerful in life are usually not like we think, with three heads and six arms, or different abilities from ordinary people, they look ordinary, but there is a lot to learn from everyone in terms of how to deal with the world.
Those who are really powerful have never been arrogant, and they usually have a very clear and profound understanding of themselves at any time, as written in the Analects.
When interacting with others, they are never aggressive, and they have always been "forgiving and sparing", but everything they do, they leave room for the other party to turn around, so that others have a way to retreat, and also let themselves have a way to go.
Many people are worried that sending charcoal in the snow will eventually become "meat buns beating dogs", even if they have the ability to help people in difficulty, they are not willing to lend a helping hand, for fear that they will lose.
And those who are really strong are often good at doing things that send charcoal in the snow, so their roads are getting wider and wider, and they are going farther and farther, becoming more powerful people.
The reason why really powerful people seem to be able to succeed without effort is often because they know these ways of dealing with the world. As long as you insist on treating the world like them, even if you can't become a very powerful person, it won't be too bad.
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