For the rest of your life, seven is not

01

ldquo; Not flattering"

The interaction between people is actually shaping their own "brand".

The dialogue, exchange, and discussion between you and others can reflect the "status" between you and the proportion of the right to speak.

If you always go to the court to communicate, whether in friendship or love, it is actually not conducive to your personal brand building.

Simply put, you always put on a cold face, he does not buy your account, and you do not get benefits.

Because I always lower my posture to please, I often get nothing in the end.

In all relationships, pay attention to relative equality, you use your own comfortable way, to be good to your friends, to pay for your lover, not to take and ask, not to inferiority and compliments, not to let the other party think that you are not as good as them, over time, they will not put you in a "lower" position.

Never distort yourself in order to please the world. To live a dashing life without asking for anyone.

02

ldquo; Not demanding"

In life, three common phenomena are common:

Mathematics is not good, you have to learn theory.

Don't want to get married, insist on blind dates.

Work hits a wall and demands decency.

ldquo; People who come over always say that it is easy to learn science to find a job, and if you don't get married, you can't get married, and it doesn't matter if you are not happy at work, but you must be decent.

There is a saying that goes well: there is no age to marry, only love to marry.

There is only a path that suits you, and there is no road that you have to take.

Whenever a fan asks me if I am not very good at studying and not very liked my work, I will definitely ask three questions first:

ldquo; Do you have something you like to do? ”

ldquo; Do you believe you can keep working hard to do this well? ”

ldquo; Will you regret it if you fail? ”

If you don't know what you like, then follow the current path first, learning is sometimes boring, but it is always rewarding, it is something that can grow. A job you don't like is boring, but do it before you have a goal, because at least it will give you a salary.

When you have a firm voice in your heart telling yourself that you really have something you want to do, and that you are willing to pay for it and persevere, do it. If you succeed, everyone rejoices, and if you fail, you don't have to be upset, because there is no regret, and the people who have worked hard are all worth it.

Because there are some things that you don't try, you will regret for the rest of your life.

03

ldquo; No explanation"

I am a person who does not like to "explain", because family and friends do not need you to explain, many things, you only need to explain the reason, they can understand.

And the situation we really face to "explain" is often with ordinary friends, colleagues, and even roommates...

No matter how kind you are, how you meet an unkind person, how you explain, you are not a good person in his eyes.

No matter how good you are, when you meet someone who can't see others' good, how you explain it, he will count you behind your back.

No matter how selfless you are, when you encounter people who are calculating and do not expect anything in return, how you explain it, you are a careful eye.

Therefore, without explanation, without being more truthful, I can stay away from many villains and rotten people, and if they release malice at will, I will ignore myself, and they will not get any benefit from me.

No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone picking a bone in the egg, no matter how optimistic you are, there will always be someone who will fall into the well. What are they doing? As long as you explain, the more vigorous these people are, and the more angry you are, the more proud they are.

So often it's not that we're not good enough, it's just that we've met the wrong people.

People who understand you don't need you to explain, and people who don't understand you don't deserve your explanation.

04

ldquo; Not a good place to stay"

Yan Geling wrote a sentence in "Heavenly Bath":

ldquo; No matter when, be a good girl who does not make up, does not discount, does not cheap, does not suck. ”

Yes, when we have the ability to think independently, it already represents the adulthood of our thoughts, and it is important not to make ourselves cheap at any time.

In love, don't love the price, don't love without self.

In life, don't live a muddy life and spoil yourself.

The gears of life are upward, you can keep moving forward, don't be entangled by the people who make it up, don't be overwhelmed by the things that make it up.

We can make small money, live ordinary and bright days, we can have no great achievements, but we can take care of ourselves and take care of our small families.

Choose people who like and like you, live a lifetime, and don't settle down.

Choose a life that you like and are suitable for, spend the rest of your life, not casually.

Remember, don't let the people and things that come together bury the best of you.

05

ldquo; Not bad for good people."

We all want to be good people, and we're always trying to get better, but you must not be a bad good person.

The so-called rotten good people are those who do not know how to reject others, work hard to do thankless things, ignore their own existence and interests, and regret it afterwards, but still hurt themselves.

When you are a good person, there are many disadvantages.

Always put too much energy, put on other people's things, seriously drag down their own progress, other people's requests, usually trivial, and not easy to achieve, because you promised, no matter how difficult, you have to try your best to complete, you do your own things, and not so serious, but give all the seriousness, to the things that do not help you.

Always put yourself in a lower position than ordinary friends, and gradually form an "inferiority" mentality, you will be very afraid that one day if you do not help others, you will be abandoned.

This kind of cheap friendship with your precious life is actually tantamount to a bloody business.

Sometimes, being a "bad person" can drive away the bad people around you.

06

ldquo; Don't go with the flow"

I have seen a saying: only dead fish will go with the flow.

When a person is always in the crowd, does not think positively, and always echoes in the crowd, he will actually lose himself and become the kind of person you hate.

Once you hated the keyboard man, hated that they did not carefully take evidence, to comment on right and wrong, and if you are easily wrapped up in sudden information, do not seriously analyze, you will eventually become that keyboard man.

The temperature of life lies in the fact that you will think in a different position, will actively seek verification, and do not follow the waves, you are not the dead fish, but the carp that wants to jump the dragon gate.

Life is only once, don't drift casually with the tide of life, have your own direction, but also have your own judgment, don't indulge in the world, but also learn to empathize and understand each other.

07

ldquo; Not messed up, not trapped in love"

A peer once asked me, "What if I've been ordinary all my life?" ”

I returned: "To be able to live the ordinary well is also extraordinary." ”

Who of us isn't an ordinary person? There are a few people who can really become big heroes, people with heads and faces.

Willing to be ordinary, but not mediocre, to arrange your own small world well, to take good care of the people in the small world, this is a very difficult thing, and the merit is immeasurable.

Don't be too confused, because if you are upset, everything is chaotic, don't be afraid of failure, don't be afraid of losing, because life is up and down, people who have worked hard are not ordinary, and people who have lost know how to cherish.

Don't be too deep, I often say that life is so difficult, there are too many things more worth worrying about than feelings, waiting for you to do, if you love happily, have hope, have hope, then I support you to love. If not, I urge you to sleep more, earn more money, eat more, and enjoy more blessings.

Not chaotic in the heart, not trapped in affection, grateful for the ordinary, to be consistent.

(Editor-in-Charge: Li Donghai)