Today, I share one of the picture books "Good Boy Code of Conduct Picture Book" series "Tails are not for pulling".
If you had little pets at home, what would you say to them? Or what are they trying to say to you?
They will say: Master, I like you so much! Or they say: Master, stop bullying me. Have you ever bullied your pet?
Do you know what they say? Different animals have different calls.
What is it called when you are happy? What is unhappiness called?
If you like them, they will like you.
But their tails are not pulled.
We can be friends with them.
If you bully them, they will be unhappy.
They will accompany you.
But other people's pets must not be touched, and must be approved by their owners to touch them.
If the child is willing to raise small animals and plants, parents should allow him to raise as much as possible, and only carry out the necessary guidance on the side, and let the child take matters into his own hands, you can raise some puppies, kittens, goldfish and other small animals at home, or raise some flowers and plants, let the child take care of it, which will often cultivate the child's love.
The cultivation of love requires empathy training, that is, allowing children to compare their own feelings when they are in pain with the experiences of others in the same situation and experience the mood of others. This allows children to learn to understand others and be considerate of others.
When you see other children falling, you can inspire your child to say, "If you fall, do you feel a lot of pain?" The little brother must have fallen and hurt too, so we went to pick him up. In this way, the child's love is unconsciously cultivated.
Caring is an acquired and reinforced behavior, and only if the parent provides an example, the child will imitate it and then transform it into spontaneous behavior. Therefore, parents should lead by example, while educating their children with love, they should educate their children with their own behaviors, play an exemplary role, create an atmosphere of love in the family, and infect the children's hearts.
Usually at home, if parents pour tea for the elders, serve rice, move stools as a must-do, every New Year's Festival to filial piety first, buy things for the elders, send gifts, but also ask the children to advise what gifts to send... If parents do care about their children, always speak softly and thoughtfully to their children, and often communicate emotionally with their children, give their children appropriate encouragement and praise, and let their children directly feel the love of their parents for themselves... If parents do a good job of caring for each other and helping each other: while buying gifts for their children, they always don't forget to buy one for their lovers: when eating, don't forget to remind their children to keep a copy for their mother or father... If parents usually do this, I believe that children will also be blind, so as to learn to care for others and care for society.
For a child's personality development, nothing can be more important than love and kindness, which is the basis and premise of the child's future pro-social development. The child's love is gradually formed through natural imitation and subtle penetration, which is a development process from the outside to the inside, from quantitative change to qualitative change. In this process of development, the family is the most important base for cultivating love, and parents are the most direct communicators of love. Therefore, the child has no love. The key lies in the guidance and cultivation of parents.
Lu Qin said: "The child's love is immature, you care about it, it will grow; if you ignore it, it will wither; if you hit it, it will die." Therefore, we should give affirmation and praise to the child's loving words and deeds, and give criticism and correction to the child's lack of love, so as to let the child know love from both positive and negative aspects, and actively and correctly practice love.