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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
As the saying goes, "Those who know the face do not know the heart." ”
When people interact with each other, we must be cautious and know how to protect ourselves at any time.
After all, a person's character will not be written on the face, and can only be seen clearly at key moments.
The so-called "heart of defense is indispensable", when we interact with people, it is always good to keep one more heart and eye, so as to avoid being hurt.
Because when you make friends with a sincere heart, the other party may not be as sincere as you.
Many old fritters who have undergone social baptism are particularly good at disguise, they are kind on the surface, secretly fierce, and even try to calculate you.
So, how can you judge whether a person can be associated? In fact, it is very simple, in the process of communication, it is clear to see what he has performed.
Generally speaking, a person with a kind face and a fierce heart has three manifestations and is not worthy of deep friendship.
First, the surface is kind, smiling and greeting, and the actual heart is very heavy
When I used to work, I met such a beautiful female colleague who always smiled at others and behaved very kindly.
At first, I thought she was really friendly, willing to share everything with her, and completely defenseless against her.
However, when I often told her all the grievances and unhappiness in my work, I found that the person who hurt me in the end was this kind and beautiful girl.
Everything I told her spread throughout the company, and my colleagues were reading my jokes. Moreover, the important business that my boss had given me was also taken back.
Not only was I isolated by my colleagues, but I was also misunderstood by my superiors, not only losing a decent position, but also having a very unhappy life.
At this time, I found that the beautiful female colleague who had been regarded by me as a confidant was completely to paraphrase my words, pinch my weak ribs, and let me miss the opportunity to rise again and again.
Therefore, when we interact with others, we must be cautious and never say anything about our own private affairs.
For example, grievances at work, dissatisfaction with the company, and views on bosses and colleagues, etc., these can not be easily told to outsiders.
If you are defenseless, you are likely to be caught by this kind of person with a plan, and the person who will be hurt in the end is you.
In life, for those who are kind and cruel, we must be careful to communicate, and do not think that they can become confidants with a smile.
Especially in the workplace, such superficial and kind people are often particularly clever, and if they are not careful, they may let them hold the handle and bring trouble to themselves.
Everyone in life, must have a basic sense of prevention, for the kind of performance of good, but actually have a heart and mind, must be away as soon as possible.
Because, under the mask of their hypocrisy, there is a bad heart hidden, and it is not worth deep friendship.
Second, a set in front of the face, a set behind the back, a bad stomach
In life, some people are like this, they have a set in front of their faces, a set behind their backs, and a bad stomach, which makes people invincible.
Therefore, when interacting with people, we must have a basic sense of self-protection, do not easily disclose our private affairs, and prevent them from being used by people with ulterior motives.
Those who are kind and cruel are often very friendly to you on the surface, calling you brothers and brothers in person, but as soon as they turn around, they will change into another face and try to calculate you.
Therefore, when interacting with others, we must have reservations, even if you are close to people, you can't tell them all about your private affairs, and basic precautions are still necessary.
Many times, we can't change others, only to change ourselves, and when we meet someone who is sincere to you, we must be equally sincere.
However, when we find that the other party is not sincere enough, or even has a bad stomach, we also need to put away sincerity, treat it with indifference, and stay away as soon as possible to prevent being hurt.
I remember that when my cousin went on a blind date last year, she met a man with bad character, and she stopped the loss in time after less than a week of dating.
The man is similar in age to his cousin, both are 32 years old, look more handsome, and are also very polite when they go on a blind date, which makes the cousin very good.
However, after the cousin agreed to communicate, she found that the man's character was not good, and his stomach was bad.
For example, the first time a man asked his cousin out, he took his ID card and deliberately watched the latest movie.
The cousin naturally understood his thoughts, so she terminated the date on the grounds that she was unwell, and went back alone.
Later, the man asked his cousin out to dinner, and the cousin thought about it or agreed.
At that time, my cousin went out to answer a phone call, and accidentally saw the man shouting at the waiter, who was not polite and qualified at all.
In this way, the cousin concluded that there was a problem with the man's character, and within a week, she completely cut off contact with him.
Therefore, when we interact with others, we must pay attention to the kind of people who have a set on the surface and a set behind them, they have a bad stomach, bad character, and really can't make deep friends.
Third, it is particularly sinister, and it gives you a trip behind it
In life, there is also a kind of kind-faced and cruel person, who is particularly sinister and likes to trip you up behind your back.
This kind of person, on the surface, is very easy-going, is very close to almost anyone, and looks very friendly.
However, if you trust them, you are defenseless against them, and you are likely to be used by them or even hurt by them.
This kind of person likes to calculate others the most, as long as they seize the opportunity, they will straighten you out and will not leave a trace of affection.
Moreover, they will use your kindness as a capital to bully you, and the more you give in, the more he will gain inches.
This kind of person, really sinister, they are particularly disguised in front of you, and when you remove all your defenses, they will in turn give you great harm.
They give you a stumbling block behind your back, so that you will not be aware of it, even if it hurts you, they will pretend to care about you, which is really hateful.
Therefore, when we interact with others, we must be more vigilant and precautionary to avoid encountering such insidious people.
If you meet someone who is friendly with you on the surface and even calls you a brother when they meet for the first time, it is best to be cautious.
Because, this kind of person is enthusiastic about everyone, pretends to be particularly kind, if you easily believe him, you are likely to stab him in the back, it is not worth it.
This kind of person does not think of doing something to hurt you, but likes to say your right and wrong behind your back, trip you up, and make your life a mess.
In short, when you meet someone in your life who is too intimate when you first meet, you must not be careless.
After all, this kind of person is too good at disguise, and may not be sincere to you, especially when there is interest in dealing with you, it is easy to give you a trip.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Miriam said: "The kinder a person is, the less he perceives the ill intentions of others." ”
Indeed, those who are kind and cruel will only cause us a lot of harm if they grasp the weakness of good people.
Because we always face others with kindness and sincerity, but often become a weapon for others to hurt us.
Therefore, when interacting with people, we must be more defensive and observe more objects of interaction in order to have a good idea and avoid injury.
Those who are kind and cruel generally have these three characteristics, and they should be cautious when they encounter it.
They are kind on the surface, smiling and smiling, and in fact they are very heavy-minded; they have a set in front of their faces, a set behind them, and a bad stomach; they are particularly sinister, and they make you stumble behind them.
If you meet such a person, it is best to stay away and learn to protect yourself so that you will not bring pain and trouble to yourself.
I hope that people can communicate with each other more sincerely and less routines, so that life will become more harmonious and beautiful.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.