Some people say that the father's love is like a mountain, steady and deep; the mother's love is like water, delicate and gentle.
So, what about the child's love for mom and dad?
Like crystal, pure and tender, precious and fragile.
We have many stories that celebrate the love of fathers and mothers, and they are indispensable to the narrative of how parents have worked hard for their children.
As many parents say to their children, it is for you, how to be; for your own good, how to be.
However, there is a lack of description of how the child perceives the behavior of the parents in his heart.
Maybe because parents are adults, they are prone to self-righteousness, feel that they are doing the right thing, and there is no need to communicate with their children;
Or because the child is small, the adult thinks that what the child says, thinks, and does does not matter, anyway, we are in charge.
What about children? There is no say.
But no matter how adults ignore children, they cannot change the fact that children are also living people with their own thoughts and feelings, with their own joys, angers, sorrows, and happiness.
Therefore, "Drifting Bottle for Daddy" is very precious, through the mouth of the little girl Hannah, let people see the father's long-term work outside, when the mother takes care of the family, or wonderful, or boring, or joyful, or frightened scene after scene of life fragments, throughout is the drifting bottle as the sustenance of the endless miss and love for the father.
Hannah's father, who works in the Indian Ocean for many years, is an oceanographer.
Because she often missed her father, Hannah missed her father very much, so she asked Mr. Janssen, an old sailor, to help throw the drift bottle into the ocean when she went out to sea to fish, so that her father, who worked at sea, could receive her letter.
Halfway through each letter, Hannah would write something happy.
These happy things will let dad know that she and mom are doing well, don't worry about them;
These happy things are also a "smile tip" for dads, bringing lightness and humor to dads in the distance.
For example, a new intern teacher at the school asked her classmates for advice because the school decided to open a new course.
Saying everything, Hannah proposed a "lying class", and the surprised teacher actually agreed to let everyone try it.
Hannah said that dad was an oceanographer who worked in the Indian Ocean; mom was a doctor who specialized in all kinds of incurable diseases; and it was true that there was a giraffe living in the family yard.
Hannah is telling the truth, but the teacher thinks it is all a lie, and gives Hannah ten points until she is reported by her classmates.
At the end, Hannah said to her father, you have to think about whether what I said is true. Anyway, if I were you, I would choose never to believe everything I say.
As a father, with such a strange daughter, I don't know how to feel, or shake my head and laugh again?
Having a daughter with such a rich imagination, it was like she had a pair of wings that could fly freely, and Dad should be happy to die.
Hannah's mother works from home and is the village's doctor who specializes in the treatment of difficult diseases.
The first patient, suffering from laughter disorder, as long as he is awake, no matter when and where, he laughs wildly.
Unfortunately, mom didn't have a good way to help him.
Hannah wished that the disease could be contagious, so that wherever people laughed, there was laughter all around them.
The second patient is a "big slacker."
How lazy is it?
He was not interested in anything, too lazy to take a shower, let alone clean up the house and go out in the morning.
The man said he had "chronic laziness."
Hannah was stunned and thought, if this is the case, then our whole class has this disease, and it is also chronic!
The prescription that his mother prescribed to the patient was to immediately call the boss for a week's leave, and then go directly to bed for a week, except to eat and go to the toilet, do nothing, just lie down in bed and rest.
The effect is good! After only three days, the man couldn't lie down and wanted to go out for a walk, but Hannah's mother refused.
At the end of the week, the patient immediately got up and went to the yard to dig up soil and plant flowers, and said that he felt energetic and interested in doing some work and exercising.
After writing the letter, he also wished his father "all the best" and told him to "be careful of the big sharks at sea".
By the way, not only this one, but all the other letters are so careful.
For example, "Finally, I want to tell you: Dad, watch out for sharks!" "Send you the warmest greetings", "Love your daughter", "Send you the most cordial greetings!" "I wish you a good dream", "We all miss you, hurry home".
Even on the day when Dad finally came home, Hannah felt that "time is crawling slowly like a snail", and the mood of expecting Dad to arrive home soon but waiting before he arrived home was unmistakable.
When she saw daddy downstairs, Hannah ended with "Don't worry, Daddy, in a few seconds I'll go downstairs and run into your arms." ”
Feeling Hannah's patience and waiting for a long time, writing many letters to send drifting bottles to send to her thoughts, and finally seeing her father, the excitement and eagerness.
Hannah's simple and concise words are full of love and concern for her father, I don't know if her father can appreciate it?
The young age of children does not mean that they have no thoughts, and it does not mean that they have no feelings.
Like their parents, they have joys and sorrows, and they will also be hurt, silent, evasive, wrapped up to protect their hearts.
Two days ago, I saw a mother share her experience of successfully getting her daughter to quit relying on herself.
The mother said to take the daughter to the age of two, the Spring Festival in 2021 put the daughter at home, when the daughter was deceived and said not to leave, and then the daughter and the mother-in-law came back from outside, the daughter found that the mother was not there, she kept crying, while crying and shouting that she was wrong after obeying, let the mother come back, crying for more than an hour, until she fell asleep, after waking up, she did not mention the mother, nor asked, did not say anything. Mom plans to go back to see her daughter until the Spring Festival in 2022. I have hardly contacted my daughter in a year, and I only video once in a few months, saying that my daughter is no longer looking for her, opening a video, and I also love to answer. The mother said: The daughter put it down, and she put it down.
Before the age of three is the most critical period for building a sense of security, only once in a lifetime, and it is gone.
A sense of security is also the most beautiful gift that parents can give their children a lifetime, and no amount of money earned can be exchanged.
Seeing too many insecure, insecure children and adults, can be traced back to the lack of parental love when they were young.
The 3-year-old daughter does not want her mother, does not want her mother, and does not "put it down".
In her heart, it is her mother who does not want her, not only does not say goodbye, does not contact for a long time, does not accompany, does not express her love for her, although she has a mother, she is forced to live as an "abandoned orphan".
She misses her mother, but she doesn't have any power to control her mother's going and staying;
She was hurt, and there was no way to express it, only to hide her thoughts and love for her mother in her heart;
She was afraid to rely on her mother again, and her mother lied to her again, leaving her where she was, leaving her alone again;
She was afraid of being hurt again, so she began to be silent, closing her heart.
If a mother believes such a lie as "the daughter has let go", it is a second harm to the daughter.
Just like Hannah, although the drift bottle cannot reach her father's hands, she still uses the drift bottle to pin endless thoughts and love for her father.
The child's love is pure and immature, precious and fragile.
Did the child's love and longing for his parents really receive it?
Even if you can't help yourself, as long as you are willing to overcome all difficulties, you can find a way to take care of your child's crystal love for you.