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Truly mature people, do not scramble, do not rush, and be themselves steadily.
If you want to be fast, you can't achieve it, and if you see small profits, you can't achieve big things.
This is a well-known saying, but it is difficult to really practice.
Not to mention that in the face of major choices related to the future and destiny of life, such as study, employment, promotion, etc., people always suffer from gains and losses, and they try their best to get along with leaders and colleagues every day, they must always remind themselves everywhere, keep an eye on themselves, talk without leaking, and do things impeccable.
In order to achieve the goal of "perfect" human design, not only must we work hard to do a hundred times in our hands, but also have to think hard about the minds of others.
Always let yourself be in the "action" of others, either preemptively do a good job, or preemptively do a good job of reporting, or preemptively lay out a big "bureau", in order to have no danger in the game again and again.
Such a day, like a clockwork alarm clock, has been ticking, can not stop for a moment, and is like dancing on the tip of the knife, a careless, will be a life whimper.
Anxiety, irritability, and restlessness have thus succeeded in kidnapping a person, and we are living more and more into the way we hate, but we can't "escape."
Therefore, we are particularly envious of a kind of person around us, who seems to live in their own world, not in a hurry, not in a hurry, time seems to slow down on them, or they have a magical "magic" that can delicately carve time. Make everything seem long and charming.
As reported some time ago, a cleaner uncle reported on the Internet, he is more than half a hundred years old, gray hair, bending down every day to sweep the floor, but he still combs his hair very "tangible", dressed very "cool", has a distinct personal imprint, but not fancy, not pretentious, giving people a good impression of "energetic and rich in connotation".
This is probably "living out your own wonderful", not entangled in the past, not excluded from the present, not confused in the future, so down-to-earth, hard to live, the days are very ordinary, but also very fulfilling.
As long as you cling to the good, there will be good things happening, and even if you don't, every day in the past, your heart has been filled with happiness, gratitude, contentment and tranquility, which is a rare happiness in itself.
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Truly mature people will always enjoy the "simplest pleasures".
Life is not satisfactory, often eight or nine, can be the same as people.
As a result, many people have a straight face, and they look like the whole world owes him.
It's just that even if you keep complaining, things that are beyond your ability can still not be changed. Instead of wasting time and energy on "making yourself unhappy," find ways to make yourself happy.
Su Shi, a great poet, has been ups and downs in his life, but wherever he goes, he can settle down wherever he goes, and he can also reassure himself. When he was degraded to Huangzhou, in order to solve the problem of eating for a large family, he took matters into his own hands, and his family reclaimed the land, and the joy and satisfaction of self-reliance made him become a real "Dongpo" resident from a literati doctor.
In middle age, he had a time to return to the capital, and he had a habit: get up early, comb his hair, get dressed, and take a nap with his clothes. He said that the beauty of the taste of this nap was incomparable.
I have to say that Su Shi is a person who is good at getting all the pleasures in the world: the sheep spine, which was disliked by people earlier, has become a famous "sheep scorpion" after his "tasting" and drive; because he loves to eat pork, he wrote "Ode to Pork", and the "Dongpo Meat" that was passed down to later generations also came in a slow stew again and again...
The more you understand Su Shi's life, the more you will understand who is not in the crucible of life, who is not growing up little by little in setbacks, those grievances that have been suffered, the tears that have been shed, and finally they have become the thickest armor, so that they are not shocked, laughing at the wind and clouds.
When a person is truly mature, he will know how to enjoy the "simplest happiness" in life, for example, after continuous overtime, he can sleep peacefully and steadily; the first time he makes a meal according to a book, he succeeds; or his family who quarrels every day is still waiting for his return...
When we watch movies, we always feel that the protagonists in the play have spent a long life in just one or two hours, and feel that their "lives" are too short. But in fact, can't our lives escape the word "hurry"?
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The truly mature person is not sharp, but "stupid".
A person's true maturity is not manifested in "cleverness", but in "pretending to be stupid". Even if it is a mighty light, they understand it.
In the Analects of Gongyechang, it is written: "Zi Yue: Ningwu Zibang has the Tao, and the State has no Tao, and the State has no Dao; its knowledge can be reached, and its foolishness is also unattainable." ”
If interpreted in the vernacular, the gist of it is: "Confucius said that when Ning Wuzi was a man of great morality and political enlightenment, he was wise." When the monarch is lawless and politics is dim, he pretends to be stupid. His cleverness may be able to catch up with others, but if he pretends to be stupid, others will not be able to catch up. ”
From the words between the lines, we can see that this "stupidity" that Confucius said is a real praise and praise for Ning Wuzi.
In the workplace, most people are eager to be recognized by their leaders and colleagues, so they can do everything. But when a person's talent does not match his ambition, no amount of "superficial" effort will help.
And the real maturity is as the writer Mr. Yu Qiuyu said:
Maturity is a bright but not harsh brilliance, a round but not greasy sound, a calmness that no longer needs to look at others, an atmosphere that finally stops like the appeals and requests around it, a smile that ignores the cajoling, a cold that washes away the extreme, a thickness that does not need to be spoken, a height that can be seen round but not steep.
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Conclusion:
Time is always in a hurry, and life is also in a hurry.
However, don't forget that when we come to this world, we don't just "hurry through." Let yourself become mature, be a calm, calm, and free person.
Every kind of flower has a different flowering period, and everyone has a different wonderful. You have to believe that nothing needs to be rushed, and everything will eventually come to you.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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