Author: Guoxue Life Zhang Zhiwei
The Tao Te Ching has clouds: the way of heaven, the loss of more than enough to make up for the deficiency.
Things in nature, the taboo is too full and too complete, such as the bucket carrying water is too full, it will spill on the ground, and if everything is passed, Yu will lose more.
The so-called Heavenly Dao is to reduce the excess and make up for the deficiency.
The true wise man, who knows "half the wisdom", has a certain standard for dealing with people.
Will be full, half and half, is life.
Talk, half full, leaving room for room
As the old saying goes, "The water is seven points full, and the words are three points soft." ”
Talking is like pouring water into a cup, too full, it will overflow, waste resources, and burn yourself.
Life is in the world, the world is impermanent, if the words are too full, it is difficult to collect itself, and it will only be drenched in self-wretchedness.
There is a story in the Old Book of Tang that reads:
Liu Wenjing and Pei Huan were both heroes of the early Tang Dynasty, and the two were friends at first, but later there was a gap between the two, and they became more and more incompatible, so that they broke up.
Liu Wenjing has always felt that Pei Huan's ability is not as good as her own, but her official position and rewards are always inferior to each other's, so she is very unwilling in her heart.
He usually speaks with a big grin and no mouth, and he does not choose his words after drinking.
Once, in front of the people around him, he said, "One day, I will kill Pei Ning." ”
Originally, it was just a drunken angry talk, but it was not thought of, and it was heard by the concubines around him and reported to Li Yuan.
Liu Wenjing had said some rebellious things before, and coupled with Li Yuan's preference for Pei Yuan, this time he touched Li Yuan's reverse scales, so he ordered Liu Wenjing to be beheaded.
Liu Wenjing never expected that he would be killed by a single sentence.
As the old saying goes, "Say three points to everyone, so that you can throw away a piece of your heart." ”
The words were too full, no doubt laying the foundation for himself, Liu Wenjing spoke without leaving room, not only making the emperor unable to come to the stage, but also burying his own life.
As Lao Tzu said, "A man who is light will be untrustworthy, and easy will be difficult."
Everything is too late, easy to promise, inevitably lack of credibility, see things as easy, difficult after all, we ourselves.
The rest of your life is very long, no matter who you intersect, remember not to say enough, leave yourself a way out, and only then will there be room for maneuver.
Do things, half contention and half follow, to be perfect
Zeng Guofan said: "Leave a little leeway, half contention and half follow, you can turn around freely." ”
Do things, don't be too deep in the obsession, in order to move in and out freely, if you exhaust the fish, once the mistake can not be remedied.
If you ask too much, you can't live with yourself.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Wei Wuzi, the Grand Master of the Jin Dynasty, had a concubine Zu Ji, and when he was seriously ill, he once instructed his son to find a good family for Zu Ji after his death.
But before he died, he changed his mind and insisted that Zu Ji be buried.
After his son Wei Zhen thought about it, he finally arranged a good family for Zu Ji.
After that, the State of Qin attacked the State of Jin, and Wei, as a general, was ordered to go to war.
But between the two armies fighting, a strange thing happened.
Seeing that the weeds on the battlefield were all knotted and stumbled over the enemy commander, Wei Yu effortlessly captured him.
I thought that the matter was over here, but I didn't expect that that night, Wei Duo had such a dream.
He dreamed of an old man who claimed to be Zu Ji's father, because he had found a good family for Zu Ji at that time, so he now tied the grass ring to repay the grace of education.
As the saying goes: "Leave a line in everything, and see each other in the future." ”
Whatever you do, leave some space behind you so you can turn around calmly.
Because giving people a way to live is also a way out for themselves.
Between gain and loss, what is mastered is the measure, the trade-off, and the realm.
Truly intelligent people do things without regrets, but also come with their hearts and compete with them.
Being a human being, half wise and half foolish, confused is a blessing
Zhuangzi once said: "Those who know their fools are not great fools, and those who know their confusion are not greatly confused." ”
In a lifetime, many things are unclear and unclear, and it is better to be confused occasionally than to be shrewd in everything.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Ning Wuzi, the Grand Master of the Wei Dynasty, was quite wise, and during his reign he assisted the two generations of monarchs of the Wei State and was admired by the local people.
Later, Wei was coerced by the Jin State, and when he was in danger, Ning Wuzi showed a look of foolishness, Taoguang raised obscurity, and waited for the opportunity to revive the country.
Confucius lamented: Ning Wuzi showed resourcefulness in the era of national wealth, but when the country was in crisis,
If he becomes wise and foolish, his kind of intelligence can be done by people, but how many people can do that kind of stupidity?
He also mentioned that there are two kinds of fools in the world:
The first one: Ning Wuzi is a person who is wise and foolish, does not compete and compete, quietly waits for the opportunity, and soars into the sky.
The second is the ignorant, shallow, talentless, and virtuous person who is in a high position.
Wise people are often half awake and half drunk, half wise and half stupid, just like a drunken fist, seemingly groggy and drowsy in one move, but in fact, they are drunk and awake.
Smart I can't protect you thoroughly, only by being clumsy in the spirit can you go smoothly.
Zeng Guofan has always been praised by later generations as "half a saint".
However, in the current world, he was criticized by Zuo Zongtang for "lacking talent" and was said by Li Hongzhang to be "too rude and slow".
Even he laughed at himself: "My life is short and talented, and I am honest and foolish." ”
However, his life was fruitful and famous in history.
In his life creed, he has always regarded "the heavenly way is taboo, go to the false and humble" as a guideline, he said that this is the most worth learning in life.
The so-called knower is too much, the fool is not enough, this is the truth.
All wise people are half sober and half drunk, and they should not stay when they should understand, and they should not be more truthful when they should be confused.
Learn to choose between soberness and confusion, so that people can live easily.
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Jin Yong once said: "Deep love does not live, and Hui Ji will be hurt." ”
The strings are too tight and will break, talking too full will hurt, the heavenly path is full, too late.
Life, half confused, half understood, in order to live easily and happily.
In this world, nothing is absolute, white clouds will become dogs, and the sea will turn into mulberry fields.
As Mo Yan said in "Sandalwood Punishment": "The most taboo thing in this world is perfect." ”
The best state of life is that the flowers are not fully bloomed and the moon is not round, and the realm of looking for flowers to think about the moon is still there.
Be human, half and half, don't be too full, in order to be perfect! Agree to the point in the look, please forward and share, carry forward the traditional Chinese culture! 【WeChat public account: Sinology Life】