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Indah's youngest son participates in the Winter Olympics
Some time ago, there was an interview network about Yingda that was very popular.
In the video, Yingda told reporters with great vigor that his youngest son Yingrudi (Bayan) is expected to lead the Chinese team to the 2022 Winter Olympics as the captain of the national ice hockey team, and his words are full of pride.
YingRudi is the child of Yingda and Song Dandan after divorcing, and his new wife Liang Huan.
Under the video of the interview, some people blessed and some people sighed: "In contrast, Batuu, the son of Yingda and Song Dandan, is much more ordinary..."
Combing through the growth trajectory of YingruDi, it is difficult not to praise his excellence.
Yingrudi's physical fitness was particularly good as a child, and he showed outstanding ice hockey talent, in April 2007, Yingrudi's "Tiger Boys" won the Hockey World Championship of the same age group and was selected by the Boston Brown Bears of the NHL (North American Hockey Professional League).
So at the end of 2007, Yingda sent Yingrudi, who had just turned 9, to Chicago, where ice hockey is developed, to live and study and continue professional training.
In recent years, Yingrudi's performance in ice hockey has been recognized by many experts in the ice hockey industry, and in July 2020, he was selected into the men's ice hockey training list of the Winter Games Center of the State General Administration of Sport, which can be said to be a highly anticipated professional ice hockey player, and it is reported that his annual salary is nearly one million.
Everyone is envious of his radiance, but they don't know that behind this dazzling, it is inseparable from the cultivation of his father Yingda.
In 1997, after Yingda and Song Dandan divorced, they quickly married Liang Huan, the screenwriter of "I Love My Home".
In 1998, the youngest son, Yingru Di, was born with a golden spoon.
Yingda has high hopes for Yingrudi, naming him Rudi, hoping that he will be able to achieve something when he grows up, like an arrow, and bravely move forward.
Because the Ying family was a Manchu Qing royal family, the family had the habit of giving Mongolian names.
Yingrudi's nickname is called Bayan, which means rich.
Indah loved the child and regarded him as a treasure.
Yingrudi learned to play the piano at the age of 3, and won the first place in the Beijing Hope Cup Piano Competition at the age of 5, with high musical talent.
In addition to his musical talent, his athletic genes are also well developed.
After showing interest in ice hockey, Indah specially asked the coach to teach his son figure skating.
An ice hockey coach felt that Yingrudi was very talented and suggested that he learn the sport of ice hockey with stronger strength types.
So, at the age of 4, Ying Rudi began to learn to play ice hockey systematically.
Yingda did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to train him, and spent 10,000 yuan to buy equipment for Yingrudi to play ice hockey.
In addition, Yingda also secretly paid a training fee of 30,000 yuan for her young son and sent her young son to a children's club.
You know, in 2002, that was a lot of money.
From this moment on, Indah changed.
He began desperately trying to make money, from selectively participating in shows to hosting shows frequently, participating in various TV series, just to pay the "sky-high" training fee.
In 2006, Yingrudi became the main force of the Tiger Cubs, leading the Tigers to stand out from 100 teams and win the World Ice Hockey Championships of the same age group.
The 9-year-old Ying Rudi, with excellent ice hockey skills, was elected the MVP of the competition.
This year was a turning point in Yingrudi's life.
He was successfully selected for the Boston Brown Bears Junior Team in the North American Hockey League, and was in the limelight.
At that time, the media called Yingrudi the first person to play ice hockey in China.
More than a decade ago, there were very few ice hockey training institutions in China.
In 2007, her mother, Liang Huan, quit her job and flew with her son to Chicago, USA, to begin her life as a student, and the couple has lived separately on both sides of the ocean.
Fortunately, Yingrudi did not live up to her parents' expectations and quickly made some achievements.
At the age of 13, Yingrudi's ranking in the North American children's hockey rankings soared to fifth place in January.
Indah values her son's every game.
He always sat in the audience and watched the game, like a fan of his son.
Ying Rudi scored, and Yingda stood up at once, dancing happily for him, and his eyes were full of pride.
In 2020, Yingru Dysprosium won the championship at the National Ice Hockey Championship.
Young and promising, fresh clothes and angry horses.
On the other hand, Yingda's eldest son Batu, although his mother Song Dandan has been working very hard to win resources for his son, acting, recording variety shows, and live streaming with goods, although every step is very stable, it seems that he has always been "tepid".
People can't help but wonder, why is there such a big gap between Batuu and Yingrudi?
This is naturally related to the attitude of his father, Yingda.
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The growth of Indah's eldest son, Batuu
Speaking of Indah, many young viewers may not know much about him.
If you are a little older, you will know that Yingda was more prominent.
Yingda is a Manchu, and going back, the Ying family is a late Qing Dynasty Yellow Banner person, a standard nobleman.
Of course, birth does not mean anything, the focus is on the talent of Indah. He is versatile and knowledgeable, and combines multiple identities as a director, planner, screenwriter, and producer.
The program he hosts is the signature of the talk show and the guarantee of ratings. His "I Love My Family", "Northeast Family", "Big Sister Ma" series, etc., have become classics.
Yingda's ex-wife, Song Dandan, is the nail household of the Spring Festival Gala, and she has brought countless laughs to the audience over the years in the Spring Festival evening, and is a famous comedian in the country.
Without Song Dandan's Spring Festival Gala, the laughter seems to be less.
Yingda and Song Dandan are relatively smooth in their careers, but they are emotionally twisted and turned. When they were together, they were both people who had failed marriages.
It is reasonable to say that such two people will cherish the hard-won marriage even more, but after eight years, the two people suddenly divorced.
At that time, Song Dandan had already seen the eyebrows of her husband and Liang Huan, and was worried that her son Batuu's life would not be good in the future, so she simply won the custody of Batu.
After Song Dandan and Yingda divorced, they once told about their son Batuu in a show.
At that time, young Batuu often cried for his father, but Indah's response was cold and desperate.
When Batuu cried and asked Song Dandan why his father did not come to see him, Indah was busy giving his half-brother Yingru Dysprosium, changing diapers and making milk powder.
He said it was better not to contact him when divorced, because he did not know whether his younger son would like to share his father's love with another child.
For more than a decade, Indah had never seen Batuu, and even Yingruocheng, the grandfather who loved Batuu the most, died, and Indah never told him.
He even openly claimed that his relationship with Batuu was so long, so he must experience the feeling of being a father again in the body of his younger son, Yingrudi.
Being coldly rejected and ignored by his biological father became the deepest pain in Batuu's heart.
Batuu began to become very sensitive, and even became a "problem child" in the school.
Song Dandan is invited to the office by the teacher almost every week to "drink tea".
In 2011, Song Dandan took Batu on TV to participate in a program promotion meeting.
As soon as she showed her face, Yingda took Yingrudi to the same show, calling herself "the driver, nanny, cook, and coach of her youngest son", unabashedly showing her father's love.
This also led to Song Dandan's blatant anger on Weibo for Yingda's ruthlessness and injustice to his eldest son:
Yingru Di is much luckier than Batuu, he has the company of his biological parents, a healthy and complete family environment, and superior resources, and from the day he was born, he was destined to win at the starting line.
The lack of his biological father in his growth, even if the stepfather makes up for the position later, it is difficult to make up for the scars in the heart of the young Batu; and Song Dandan's excessive compensation and attention also make it difficult for Batu to develop himself and truly live himself.
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Being loved as a child is a lifelong armor
The French poet Penchal said: "He who loves comfort is not afraid of anything." ”
No matter how difficult life is, children who grow up in love will always have a warm power.
Remember the "takeaway baby" that touched the whole network?
This cute baby is called Fei'er, and she is now 3 years old.
Don't look at her young age, but she is the "busiest child on the whole network".
Fei'er's father, Li Yuanyuan, is from Anhui and is now an ordinary takeaway worker in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province.
The living conditions of fei'er's family are not rich, and the family of three lives in a rental house of less than ten square meters, with only one bed in the house, and the monthly rent is 300 yuan.
In the Spring Festival of 2019, the five-month-old Fei'er suffered from pediatric pneumonia, and once had a fever of 40.5 ° C.
Fei'er's treatment cost the family's savings, and in order to earn money, Fei'er's mother found a job selling pork in the wet market.
In order to earn money to support the family, but also in order to better take care of Fei'er, after some consideration, in March 2019, Li Yuanyuan decided to take the baby to deliver food.
Because she was worried about the recurrence of her daughter's illness, every time she went out, Li Yuanyuan would put on a bib and hat for Fei'er and cover the child tightly.
Dad's takeaway box seems to be the cradle of Fei'er, containing hot water, bottles, milk powder, diapers and wet paper towels.
Little Fei'er seems to have understood the hardships of her parents since she was a child, and she does not cry or make trouble in her father's takeaway box.
Whenever her father brought food back, Fei'er always showed a cute smile to her father.
"It's nice to see her smile, it's worth it to have such a good baby daughter."
No matter where the food delivery is, Li Yuanyuan will take his daughter with him, holding a takeaway in one hand and holding her in the other, although life is hard, he always gives his best love to his daughter.
But if you look at Fei'er's family situation, you will find that her warm healing has traces to follow.
Fei'er's parents are the most ordinary pair of parents, but they give their daughter a home full of love and warmth.
They don't want their daughter to be a left-behind child, so they would rather take her to deliver food, sell pork, and accompany her to grow up.
Dad made a nutritious breakfast for Fei'er every morning and tied her beautiful pigtails.
Fei'er's birthday, her mother bought her a beautiful little cake, and sang her birthday song together...
Although life is hard, they have given their daughter laughter and countless good memories along the way.
It is their wholehearted love that makes Xiao Fei'er grow into a "smiling angel" who heals the whole network.
Writer Zhang Defen once said: "Being loved when I was a child is the armor of a person's life." ”
Couldn't agree more.
Indeed, whether it is the ordinariness of the child or the imperfect reconciliation with the parents, it is essentially our reconciliation with life and with ourselves.
Our parents may not be so perfect, but their love for us is unconditional and unreserved.
Our child may not be so good at learning, but who can conclude that his life must be unhappy?
Let go of the obsession of perfection, accept the truth of life, and give the child the material conditions and the most selfless love within his ability.
This is the best answer to the question of parent-child relationship.