Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: marriage, divorce, confession
Article length: 4600 words
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One moment the husband and wife are deep like the sea, and the next second they are not wearing the sky. It's hard to imagine that this is an increasingly common thing in a marriage relationship, comparable to the most blunt irony of love.
The most painful experience in love, I still love you as always, but you are in love with others, obviously still husband and wife, there is a family and a master, but the marriage is only a form, far less wonderful than the outside world...
For many people who have come over, the most expensive thing to pay in marriage is not love, but patience again and again. One day, the marriage is over.
In the world of feelings, people are fearful, and in the relationship between husband and wife, when there is a problem with feelings, they are most afraid of others gossiping and saying cool words.
If a marriage is torn apart by "cool words", is it to blame the self-esteem is too strong, or is it to blame the love is too weak?
Below I will tell you a divorce case that deserves many people's deep consideration, which is the story of a divorced woman.
The emotional logic is intriguing, but we have to admit that some people can't turn the corner. Some marital misfortunes should be found in themselves, neither blame self-esteem is too strong, nor can they blame love is too weak, only blame themselves for being too ignorant.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="12" > the heart of a divorced woman</h1>
Some time ago, a divorced lady told a story of a regrettable marital relationship. Just tell it in her tone, impartially, truthfully, I will sort it out a little.
I always thought that my husband divorced me not because I made that emotional mistake, but because he heard some gossip about me. His self-esteem was too strong, and it felt like a lot of people were laughing at him.
I confess that I have made emotional mistakes, once loved a man, and accidentally hurt my husband. I didn't stop in time and fell deeper and deeper in that love. My husband was very angry after he found out, and often scolded me, and there was a rift in the relationship between husband and wife.
During those days, we quarreled very badly, although I was the surface, I didn't want to bow my head, and I didn't want to admit my mistakes, but I was very remorseful in my heart, and I knew that I was sorry for my husband.
Because I was full of self-blame, I often woke up crying in the middle of the night. In order to give my husband an explanation, I decided to divorce with pain. I had no choice but to punish my mistakes with divorce.
My husband said he wouldn't forgive me and couldn't live with me. But seeing that I was really going to get a divorce, he suddenly regretted it and changed his attitude towards me. He didn't want to leave and was willing to forgive me again.
In fact, I don't want to leave, and I know that my husband is not easy, but I know very well in my heart that he does not really forgive me. He just had no other choice and had no choice but to get me back.
I am very sober, and some mistakes in my feelings are impossible to forgive. If we are going to be together, it will be a long-term harm. For the sake of each other's future, I had to quietly go out of town, away from home.
On the surface, I am a cruel person, but I have a lot of unspeakable grievances in doing so, but my husband does not understand me.
My departure is first of all for the good of my husband, and only by staying away from him will he slowly forget me. Secondly, I am also good for the child, the child is only 3 years old, will not recognize people, will not be sad because of my departure, it is easy to recognize another mother in the future, there is no barrier.
It was still dark, so I quietly walked out of the house. Because of my reluctance, I went home again to see the sleeping child. After saying a few whispers, mom is leaving, and you will listen to dad later...
No one knows how much my heart hurts, and no one knows how many tears I shed on the day I left.
These are all my words in my heart, and there is no so-called premeditated plan for my departure, it is only a temporary intention. I knew I was wrong, but I was wrong.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="96" > second, want to find someone to talk about a relationship</h1>
Ever since I left, my husband has been anxious like an ant on a hot pot. I couldn't bear it, I didn't change the phone, and I was always able to contact my husband.
I have begged my husband many times, I don't have you in my heart anymore, forget me. Find a mother for your child in the future, and your family of three can live happily again.
I just said that I didn't love my husband, but I still loved him in my heart. I said those lies involuntarily, just begging him to be dead to me and forget me sooner.
My husband struggled to save me, swore that he still loved me, was willing to forgive me, and begged me to come home early. Although he cried a lot, I was getting less and less courageous to go back.
There are some things that men don't understand, and although I already understand them, I have no way out. I made the mistake of not being able to forgive and didn't want to forgive myself just that.
I was also touched by my husband during those days, and I also thought about going home. But if I really go home, it will be a second injury to my husband, and he will always be sad. As a woman who knows what is wrong, I can't do such a thing, and I don't punish myself enough.
After 3 months away from home, my husband called me less often, and sometimes he even lost his temper and said ugly things. I was a little lost in my heart, did he forget me?
How hard it is for a woman to be out of town, husband will never understand. If he really loved me, he would have found me, but he never wanted to come out and find me.
After being away from home for a long time, many things are not quite the same as imagined. I was an adult for a long time, and when I was lonely, I had to worry about the future. Although I blamed myself, I could not help but feel some grievances in my heart.
I'm still young, I can't go on like this, I always have to find someone to talk about a serious relationship, find someone worthy of trust.
That day my husband said something ugly on the phone again, and I started dating him (my lover) again as soon as I took a gamble. He took the initiative to come to me, and with his company, my mood was a little better.
Love is a helpless reality, and I have to make a hard effort to love again.
Some people together are love, and some people are also suffering together. I was even more determined to get a divorce and didn't want to take my husband's phone again.
I gradually have a very profound understanding that a person who loves you or does not love you is not as simple as lip service, but a sincere effort. I felt the sincerity of him (lover) again, which is an advantage that my husband does not have.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="97" > three, half a year away from home, figured out the responsibility of marriage</h1>
There will always be some desperate things in life, if there is anything worth paying for, first of all, love.
At that time I was already overwhelmed by love, and after formally associating with him (lover), I loved him wholeheartedly.
The two of us worked in a factory and were inseparable every day. In the eyes of outsiders, we are very compatible couples, often envied, and are destined to be together. But when I remembered that I still had a marriage that had not been resolved, I felt helpless.
I have asked my husband many times, but my husband just does not agree to divorce. I even told him that I had a lover by my side, and we couldn't go back to the past, and he still didn't want to leave. He said that as long as there was still a breath, he would not agree to my divorce.
I don't know what my husband is insisting on, and he won't understand how bitter my heart really is.
However, later things were more bitter.
I spent 3 months of romantic time with him (my lover) and the heart-wrenching thing that struck me came. Because I took a phone call from my husband, he (the lover) slapped me several times and asked me to delete my husband.
In the face of love, men always love to be jealous, I understand his (lover's) anxiety and irritability, and did not bother with him. But then his temper became more and more grumpy, and he often scolded me, saying that I was single-minded and unkind to him.
People's hearts are slowly consumed, and I endured and endured, but he (the lover) did not consider my grievances and often scolded me. When he slapped me again, I finally got dead to him and stopped being so stupid.
Although we were intermittent and didn't break up, I never loved him again.
No one knows how deep the scars in my heart are, not even my beloved husband. I have advised myself again and again to be calm, men who are not worthy of love are not worth my crying, and I have to take good care of myself.
The feeling of helplessness is the most real heartache that devastates a woman who is hurt for love. Far away, I was confused and even desperate about the future.
I was wrong, it was almost unforgivable, but I finally understood the preciousness of feelings. Whenever I cry, I miss my home, my husband, my children.
My husband is still waiting for me to come home, although he is not as good as before, but I know that he has the responsibility that a man should have. I slowly figured out what marriage was and found a sense of responsibility for marriage.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="98" >4, for the sake of the husband's commitment, take the initiative to go home</h1>
At that time, I was already remorseful, and I continued to say harsh words to my husband, but I was ready to go home in my heart. As soon as I formally break up with him (my lover), I can turn around and turn back.
After 7 months away from home, I have long been sober, and sometimes I feel that my husband is the one who truly loves me. He was able to persist for so long without divorcing me, and he kept putting up with me, which should be a genuine desire to save me. He kept a secret for me and never said in front of my parents that I wasn't...
My husband can do this for me, and we have gone beyond love and affection between us.
Thinking about it, what else am I not sure about? Even if I am a little bitter in the future and live with my head down, my family is also my dependence, and going home is the best choice.
At that time, I was grateful to my husband, and I was still a little guilty in my gratitude. But I still put forward the condition that if my husband really forgives me and never reveals my scars again, I am willing to go home.
He agreed without thinking about it, and promised me everything, just begging me to go home, just as if nothing sad happened. Hanging up the phone that day, I cried sadly all night.
With a husband who treated me so affectionately missed me, a child waiting for me, and so many commitments, the knots in my heart finally melted.
After leaving home for 8 months, my boyfriend and I broke up and resolutely turned around and went home. I want to re-embrace the love between husband and wife and regain the responsibility of the family.
On the day I went home, I carefully dressed up, took out the most beautiful side, and surprised my husband. I haven't seen him in 8 months, and I miss him a little. On that day, my husband and family were all there, and a large table of dishes was prepared for me, and I found the warmth of the family again.
Except for the children who avoided me and didn't want me to hold, everyone else was very enthusiastic about me. Their enthusiasm is thanks to my husband keeping a secret for me, and no one knows that there has been an emotional crisis between me and my husband.
Looking back on that experience in the past, no matter who was right and who was wrong, we worked hard together. After so many ups and downs, after tasting so many hardships, the difficulties did not deter us. This is the power of love, but also the responsibility of the family, so that we are finally reunited.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="99" >5, the fragility of love is unexpected</h1>
Unfortunately, this marriage seems to have returned to calm, but in fact, the husband has always had a shadow in his heart. He didn't really forgive me at all, and those promises were all lies to me.
Less than 2 months after I came home, my husband began to look for trouble with me horizontally. Life has returned to normal, and I have regained my role, but my husband does not know how to cherish it.
The human heart is hard to guess, he exposed my scars, the old things were repeated, and the words were difficult to hear. Drunk and even laughing at me, how can I still have the face to go home?
I was very aggrieved and secretly cried many times. If he really loved me, he shouldn't have said such hurtful things.
I have made mistakes before, and I understand my husband's mood and do not want to easily get angry with him. For the sake of this family, but also for the sake of love, I adopted a calm attitude to face it. I'm willing to forgive him for bumping into me once or twice, but I can't forgive forever.
Who would have thought that the love I longed for was already fragile and fragile, and even the marriage began to waver. Whenever the two of us quarreled, he would cry and laugh, one would say that he would never forgive me, the other would say that he would forgive me for the last time, and the other would ask me how many people I had accompanied...
His inexplicableness not only made him sad for himself, but also made me unable to lift my head. I had been suffering for a long time because of this, and I just wanted to forget the past early, but he was lost in the shadows of the past and could not extricate himself, deliberately using hurtful words to hit my dignity and not make me feel better.
He quarreled with me again that day and asked me again why I still had the face to go home? I went to a friend's house in a gamble and deliberately did not go home, just wanting to put some pressure on him. I wanted him to come out and look for me, but he didn't come to pick me up all night.
I couldn't believe my husband would file for divorce again, and he slapped me that morning when I got home. He made groundless accusations, saying that I had gone to find a lover again and was not worthy to be his wife.
He also kicked me out of the house and asked me to find a lover.
I couldn't understand what he was doing, but he begged me to go home, so why did he go out of his way and kick me out of the house?
If he is a responsible man, he should not be so cruel to his wife. Since husband and wife want to live a lifetime, they must learn to tolerate.
Before I went home, I had cut off all contact with my lover, but my husband just didn't want to let me go. It was he who was aggressive again and again, destroying a family that should have been happy.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="100" >6, divorce do not say regret</h1>
My husband and I got into a divorce, and at first it was mainly my fault, and then it wasn't my fault alone.
The woman who made the mistake also wanted to turn back, and I had changed all the shortcomings and compensated him with guilt. But our marriage is over after all, my husband does not want to forgive me, and I do not want to continue to endure those inexplicable grievances.
I've always believed that the culprit who ruined our marriage was someone else's gossip, not my fault. If my husband had been stronger and loved me more deeply, we wouldn't have divorced.
I was wrong, but he did say forgive me. I changed my mistakes, but he didn't keep his promise. The saddest person in this relationship is me, not him.
I only blame his self-esteem for being too strong and not being resolute enough to love me. Hearing someone else's joke, he suddenly flinched. Drinking some wine is either crying or laughing, feeling faceless.
I have figured out a lot of reasoning in the past 1 year of divorce, in fact, my husband did forgive me. Now he regrets it too, and I regret it too.
For the sake of the family and the children, I still want to work hard again, as long as my husband sincerely forgives me, I am willing to give him another chance. I'm willing to live our happy days and let others say go...
That's where the case ends, and it's a divorced woman's story not long ago.
I will not talk much about this case, everyone who has come here has their own opinion, I will only talk about the most objective emotional reality problem in this case.
In the love-hate entanglement of adults, many things reverse too quickly. Loved and hated, cried and laughed, waited, suffered, from hope to disappointment, there must be a difficult mood.
As the saying goes, the relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate relationship in the world. But how close it is, only each other knows best in their hearts. After it is clear, divorce cannot be said to be regretted.
Geese pass by, people leave their names, love is innocent, and walk away to understand. Love is not clear, walking is not clear, this kind of person is not qualified to expect love.
In the sadness of feelings, everyone feels that they are reasonable, and they always like to say things that are beneficial to them. This is understandable, but the words are too much to say, and in the end it is all irony. Generally speaking, the fiercest person is the least qualified to be loved.