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In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Lin Daiyu is happy to scatter and does not like to get together, she said:
When people gather, they disperse, and when they gather, they rejoice, but when they disperse, are they not deserted? It is cold and easy to be sad, so it is better not to gather. For example, when the flower blooms, it is admired, and when it is thanked, it increases the sorrow, so it is good not to open.
The world loves to say that Lin Daiyu is stupid, just because most of us don't have her situation.
In the complex Rongguo Mansion, her parents died early, under the fence, there is no one around to rely on, she seems to be a pampered aristocratic lady on the surface, but in fact she is miserable and sad in her heart, these words, for her, the little age is permeated with a sense of indifference to see through the world, it is really not easy.
Perhaps, in her short experience, she has seen too many people's feelings, so she will let herself live more and more coldly.
Or perhaps, in her heart, except for Baoyu, no one else has entered her heart, so it is enough to have this share of each other, as for the gathering and dispersion with others, then go with the fate.
As the saying goes, loneliness is a person's joy.
People, always getting more and more day by day, to grow a little, day by day, to see a little more of the world's sorrows and joys, so there will be more and more a feeling: when gathering does not matter, when scattered, but there will be a little more sadness.
-02-
During the New Year, the old classmate sent a box of his hometown specialties, because he did not know how to cook, I Baidu, but still not satisfactory.
Later, I mentioned it to him, saying that my cooking skills were not good, and the good things were almost ruined by my clumsy hands.
He said a word: how to do things will not be wasted, the key is that you can do what I sent with your own hands, we are invisible, and we are together again.
This sentence made me burst into tears in an instant.
Yes, after graduating for many years, we can only occasionally meet in the gap between business trips, hurry up to make an appointment, and chat a few words.
Once young, I still remember the scene when I graduated, everyone hugged their headaches and cried, and it was difficult to give up; the time was hurried, and after people reached middle age, most of the time was spent on work and family rooms, many friendships, only relying on one message after another on the mobile phone, the likes of the circle of friends, and the occasional video chat to maintain.
However, no matter how far apart they are, no matter how long they meet in a year, the accumulated affection will not dissipate with the gathering, and they do not look forward to getting together, but after each gathering, they will still be full of expectations: there will be a period later.
Perhaps, the affection of middle-aged people is like this.
Distance, never the cause of sadness, there is a understanding of you, there is a peace of mind, even if thousands of miles away, it is still kind as usual.
Heavy makeup is always appropriate.
-03-
Remember that Mr. Shen Congwen once said a passage:
All the beautiful ones have no home, shooting stars, falling flowers, fireworks, the most chirping blue-headed, red-billed, green-winged queen mother bird, and there is no home. Who has ever seen a man raise a phoenix? Who can bind the moonlight? A meteor has its own direction of coming and going, and I have my place to go.
Yes, beautiful things, there is no home, once there is a home, there is a destination, there is a thought, began to remember.
Just like gathering and dispersing, when gathering, too immersed, longing for eternity, just like "having a home", when scattered, you will be infinitely sad and feel that your home is scattered.
That's why there is that word: Fortunately, life is different.
If you are together day by day, you will not have too many lingering feelings of pity, and the short-term possession will have the transparency of "if the two feelings are long, they will be in the twilight".
As Mr. Lin Qingxuan once said:
Those who are happy because of their reunion, parting is good, so that the tears of those who miss each other are turned into sweet crystals, because of the people who are in pain of gathering, parting is the best, and the fog disappears and sees the open blue sky.
So, relax your mind, gather and disperse, and just go with the flow.
Although it is sad to leave, because of the separation, there will be joy when we get together, and because of the separation, we will have infinite expectations for life.
-04-
Remember in "Blue Life and Death Love", after Eun Hee and Shin Ae were discovered to be holding each other wrong, the two returned to their original family, Eun Hee was left alone in the countryside, and Joon Hee went abroad with his family.
In the years when Joon-hee went abroad, Eun-hee suffered a lot, but she was still full of hope and expectation, waiting for the day when she could see Joon-hee's family again, but after the real reunion, she said to Joon-hee: I thought that you would be very happy to see you again, so I worked hard to live, at that time, I was really happy and happy, but after I really saw it, I felt more and more miserable, it was better not to meet.
Only because many reunions, before meeting, are expectations, but after meeting, they are inner gaps.
Amorous parting from ancient wounds, if you are full of expectations, what you usher in is not what you want, and it is better not to see it.
Time is not waiting for people, fate gathers, fate scatters, all are doomed.
Therefore, people, we must know how to cherish it, so as to live up to every love affair in this life.
Life is hurried, the road is long, the causes are scattered, it is the intersection of sadness and joy, joy and pain, everyone is reincarnated in hope and disappointment, and many bittersweet tastes can only be experienced by you if you have tasted them.
-05-
Su Dongpo Zeng Shiyun: I am a Dongxiao jun as a guard, and the white head is still relatively old.
Perhaps, two people with white hair can still get together all the time, which is the safety that Mr. Dongpo wants.
However, the years are long, how many people can accompany you to the old age, and how many friends can accompany you to the gray hair, still talk about the year? Life, is the sieve, always leaking, so that your thickness, more and more thin.
However, we must believe that with affection, we will reunite, and the song may not be dispersed in the end.
Yesterday's events cannot be traced, and tomorrow can still wait.
Put the best hopes in your heart, grasp the present, and cherish the present.
The flowers are gone, but there will be a day of reopening; the feast is gone, but there is still a time for reunion. The moon, and the clouds and clouds, let alone people?
Gathering and dispersing itself is ordinary, so to treat it with a normal heart is to live a light life.
When it's time to eat, eat well, when it's time to sleep, sleep well, and leave everything else to tomorrow.
Life is like smoke, gathering and scattering with fate, may everyone have a heart that is at ease with the encounter, live naturally, do not think about the past, do not fear the future, only talk about the present.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!