Many boys like a girl, confess and then be rejected, and then be issued a good guy card "Sorry, you are a good person, we are still suitable to be friends". You witness her find a boyfriend, then break up, and find a new boyfriend.
Do you think that if you are always by her side and be good to her, you will have the opportunity to turn from "spare tire" to normal?
You're wrong.
No wheel can turn you. Because you don't have the slightest attraction to her.
You are a transitional stage in her heart, a comfort, a pastime when you are bored, a temporary companion in a sad moment.
So how do you take off the coat of "spare tire" and let her cherish you?
It's about proving your worth, letting her know that you're unique, turning active into passive.
Four recommendations.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >1, don't be too "polite"</h1>
Do you think politeness is our traditional virtue? But sometimes women don't like this kind of overly polite man.
If you are late, you apologize from the beginning of the meeting, even keep bowing, full of guilt, she will only feel "this man is so nagging, only the appearance of the promise is so annoying." She originally did not recognize your place in her heart, and your continued lowering of her posture will only make her feel more "high and self-respecting", so the vicious circle continues.
At this time a simple apology, coupled with compensation "This meal I please!" I also please for the next meal! "Just end this topic naturally. Also booked my next date by the way.
You express a phrase in the way of "too polite" – "I ask for your love".
Don't be silly. Love is not a request, nor is it a disparity in status. You are equal individuals. Being too polite will cause disgust and will also pull you away.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, don't be too "duty"</h1>
An important sign of the spare tire and the good guy card is that you are an "honest person" and "duty". You'll only be silly and nice to her and never cross the line, so she's willing to "keep you around" too.
Try tearing off the label of "nice guy"! Don't you find that all the people who attract women are "bad men"?
When crossing the street, don't simply remind "Be careful, there is a car on the left", but directly pull her to your right side to protect her.
When she is sad, don't just hand over a tissue, a hug can warm her heart.
In the dark environment, if you ask her "are you afraid or not", even if she says "not afraid", don't take no action, directly surround her, get closer to her, so that she can hear your breathing, pretend not to look at her, pretend to be inadvertent.
The "domineering" of "not caring" is the most difficult for women to resist. But be careful, physical contact should be measured, do not turn "overbearing" into "greasy".
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, don't be too "direct"</h1>
Don't be too direct, keep a little mystery and let her spend more time figuring you out.
Don't send gifts directly. Send on important days, or on important occasions. For example, seeing that she is in a bad mood, give her a small gift that she likes. "I feel like you're in a bad mood, so I bought you a gift by the way." Make her feel like you care about her and don't seem to care about her that much.
Don't just send flowers on Valentine's Day, any day can be a great opportunity for you to show off. "Today is Teacher's Day, but I want to send you flowers." Because I want to thank your teacher for teaching you excellent and lovely."
Nor should you be "as she wishes" in all aspects of your life, and don't please and be obedient to her. Such a way that is too direct is not challenging at all, and it will not arouse her desire to love you.
Let her not guess you, as if it is imminent, there is a chance to make her attitude change.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >4, don't be too "modest"</h1>
Many people feel that if they like a person and pursue a person, they will rightfully become a humble party, and they are doomed to be weak and worthless in this relationship.
Don't look down on yourself!
Be confident! You have your own value. To magnify your strengths and show your strengths.
If you play basketball well, take her to a ball game. Plan ahead and you'll come off the bench when a player is off the field! Took off his coat and calmly played. Pass the ball to catch the ball and jump up to shoot, and the ball is not forgotten to shout a word of passion. Running desperately and focusing on chasing the ball, you are the brightest light in her heart at this moment.
Make achievements in your own field, show her, and get her affirmation. Don't let her think you're just silly greeting her and pursuing her. You have your own persistence and pride.
Moreover, when you do something seriously, you are the most handsome and the most impressive.
So, don't always think about how to give, don't "ask" her to love you. Use a little trick to attract her to it!
Only one side of the stupid pay can not wait for love. Even if you wait, the relationship will not last long. The mutual attraction of two people and the affirmation of each other's value can make love go further!