36 Enter Beijing and reunite with your mother
In 2003, when I was less than 40 years old, I finally went through the "sick retirement" and walked out of the government civil service, and as soon as the SARS epidemic passed, I left my wife and daughter and went to Beijing alone to start my career of choosing my own career.
Beijing is where my mother grew up, and she also settled in Beijing after she retired. My sister followed her mother to Beijing to develop for many years, and now she has a double harvest of career love, got married, changed into a big house, and took her parents to live with her.
Mom began to slowly withdraw from teaching and people's vision, and she now feels a sense of happiness that after experiencing the hardships of life, she is now willing to be ordinary and mediocre.
After I arrived in Beijing, I also lived in the three-story attic of my sister's house and returned to my parents again. I haven't lived together for many years, this time I was reunited with my mother in Beijing, in addition to being relieved, the most sad feeling for me was that my parents were "old".
In my heart, my mother will always be beautiful and loving when she was young, and my mother can't get old. But this reunion, the mother I saw was already a sixty-something "grandmother", although she was elegant, personable, graceful, and radiant, but her mother had become fat, her face had become round, her eyelids were somewhat puffy, the corners of her eyes and forehead had climbed wrinkles, and her mother's past beauty could only stay in memory and hope. I felt that my mother's body had become heavier, and I deeply felt that this was not a good phenomenon. These changes make me feel sad, but I love my mother more, and I am more reminded to do my best to protect my mother's health.
When you enter Beijing, you don't have to worry about eating and living, but you must hurry up and find a job so that you can support yourself and practice yourself.
In the difficult employment situation, I am also 40 years old, it is really difficult to find a suitable job, not to mention that I have been in the planned economy, almost no understanding of the market economy. Totally in ignorance.
When my mother knew my panic, she encouraged me not to worry based on her experience in the market economy for many years: there is a star in the sky that belongs to you, and there must be a piece of land on the earth that belongs to you.
With my mother's support, I was at ease and prepared. Start by learning the resume format online and separating your simple experiences, then pick out the flashpoints to make a "personal resume" that can be seen. Find corporate recruitment information on the Internet, combine your own ability to find a suitable position for yourself, and constantly submit resumes. From the recruitment information, compare your own abilities, determine the conditions that meet the requirements of the position, and the position that you can be competent for. Then it's time to go to job fairs and connect directly with companies, expecting to gain trust through face-to-face communication.
Attending a job fair, for me it was really a big girl on the car, never experienced it, and did not expect to go through this thing. Our graduates in the 1980s were under a state distribution system, and there were few job fairs and opportunities to choose industries and jobs. At this moment, I feel that in my lifetime to be able to participate in and experience such a recruitment process, has opened my eyes, my heart is full of flowers, I have experienced the real choice and the experience of being chosen in life, the two-way choice between enterprises and individuals, enterprises can require suitable talents, individuals can choose higher jobs and high-paying positions, two suitable, fair and reasonable. Survival of the fittest.
At the job fair, there were many people, but there were very few "elderly" people like me. I dream of this kind of work that sits in a big bright office, strategizes, innovates, directs, and then goes to enjoy afternoon refreshments.
A month passed, I didn't get hired, two months passed, and there was still no direction. Soon, three months passed in a hurry, and my dream still couldn't come true, and I still hadn't found the right entry opportunity. The road to self-employment is really hard, and I am a little discouraged.
My mother found something in my expression, and she continued to encourage me not to be discouraged, and then discussed with me, asking me to analyze and refine my own strengths first, and then use my own strengths to find a suitable job. Mom analyzed: "You have worked in the government for many years, and you are also a public management professional. So if you look for a position from an administrative point of view, it should be feasible. Maybe people need you to be so mature and stable, people with certain experience. "My mother's words reminded me that I had been unrealistically choosing positions such as sales and planning manager, while ignoring my own strengths. Although I know that my knowledge structure and market experience are somewhat lacking, I must have an advantage in terms of administration.
My mother helped me summarize my own advantages and disadvantages: first, age is not dominant, forty years old is an awkward age, no cultivation value; second, I do not have the advantage of professional, especially no emerging major, and cannot enter the job as a profession. After reflection, constantly excavate and sort out their own strengths, on the one hand, recognize themselves, encourage themselves, on the other hand, they can better recommend themselves to enterprises. My strength is government public management, familiar with official writing and government work processes, good at handling public relations, mature and stable, loyal to my duties, and I think I have computer use ability, foreign language ability, driving ability, these skills are the skills I carry around, is the most basic quality requirements of a market person.
Based on the revised application route, finally a company threw the long-awaited olive branch to me. The public-private partnership gave me the position of office director, probationary period of three months, probationary salary of 5,000 yuan. After going home and reporting to Mom, we were all happy that I had taken this first step.
After joining the company, I made full use of my years of working in the government, good at investigation and research, summarizing work, as well as finding problems and proposing solutions to solve problems and other good thinking processes and work styles, after analyzing the company, finding loopholes, grasping the key, so as to put forward a set of company operation proposals such as company management, personnel recruitment, business expansion and market development for the reference of the boss. CEOs are worried that the company's management is disorderly, without independent business, it is impossible to recruit talents, the market is very large but can not gain insight into market demand, not to mention where to open up the market and other issues. My proposal really dissected the company, so it was valued and affirmed by the boss and valued me, and I immediately decided that I would take the lead in starting a comprehensive reform of the company. I started to act, and from the second month of my employment, I ended the probationary period and was regularized, the salary was raised to 6,000 yuan and I was given a bonus of 2,000 yuan per month. My first shot was fired, and he stood on his own heels.
Backed by my mother, I'm not afraid of anything. And this experience of attending job fairs and applying for jobs enriched my life experience. Just imagine, if you only work in a civil service post, do a good job and do a bad job, do more and do less, where will you tap your personal potential? Where will you have the opportunity to unleash your abilities? How can you move forward with the times? How can I earn 8,000 yuan a month, and in 2003, when I first retired, the salary of a civil servant was less than 1,000 yuan. I am very grateful to the market for this opportunity and proud of my courage to break into the market.
Because I was more independent from a young age, and went to college and worked for many years at the age of 16, the happy days with my mother seemed to disappear after the birth of my younger siblings. I feel that I am an adult, and I no longer have the idea of being coddled and intimate with my parents, but I can only "socialize" with adults to adults. But this time I came to Beijing and was reunited with my mother, which allowed me to regain the happiness and happiness that only existed in many kind families.
During this period, the family was constantly happy. First, the younger brother's family successfully moved south, the family went to Shenzhen for a reunion, and obtained a hukou in Shenzhen to settle down, and the younger brother realized his dream for so many years. Second, my sister gave birth to twins and two boys, I became an uncle, and my mother became a grandmother again after becoming a grandmother. Watching the two treasures being born and watching them grow up day by day, a large family enjoyed the joy of the world.
Usually, we all go to work, and the only people at home are my parents, two treasures and nannies. When I came back from work in the evening, the family gathered at the dinner table, I talked about the new things in the unit, and my sister talked about the fun at work and in the master's class of Guanghua College. After a while, I learned Shan Tianfang's commentary, and my sister told a few jokes on her side, and the words on the table were endless, and my mother only listened to it happily, and smiled closely. Fun for the whole family.
My work is on track and at a steady pace, my sister is thriving, my dad continues to teach, and my mom stops teaching, but she becomes an agent, idle at home, controlling everything. Whenever we came home and ate, played cards or chatted together, everyone acted very happy. Mom often looked at the whole family one by one, with a beautiful and satisfied smile in her eyes, and her hard work was not in vain. At this point, mom would often laugh at her classic mantra: "Who brought all this?" Whenever this happens, we happily and in unison say, "It was my mother who brought it." Mom smiled, satisfied and relieved to enjoy everyone's praise.
Mom loves to play mahjong. So in order to accompany her, but also to exercise her brain, we often play mahjong together after dinner, just as the family gets together to have fun and chat. Mom only likes to win cards, and when she wins, she is happy, but if she loses, she sulks. As a result, for the sake of her old man's health, our juniors are often losers.
Mom's eye vision has always been very good, until she is old, it has become presbyopia, and the near one is not very clear, but the far one can be seen clearly. Once when playing cards, there is a card played against the home can be touched, the mother patronizes to see that her cards have not caught up, and I hear my mother complaining: "When you play the cards, you all shout, I don't know if I can't see the cards clearly?" Just now this collision is lost, how can I still be with this card? We all echoed and said, "Good, good, shout out loud when you play cards later." We were saying nice things to reassure my mother, but my mother suddenly pointed to the opposite wall and said, "There's a mosquito there, kill it!" "We were all stunned, such a big card could not be seen clearly, but the mosquitoes on the wall could be seen clearly, and the mother was really god." Then there was a lot of laughter.
There are many people in the family and many things, and it is often necessary to distinguish between them, and some people will ask: Whose is this? When playing mahjong wheels and playing cards one by one, sometimes forgetting whose house is the bank, or reminding whose turn to play the cards, some people will also ask, whose house is it? Who's going to play the cards? When it is the turn of the mother to sit or play cards, either this is the person who will casually answer: Mother. As a result, I was scolded by my mother with a laugh: Do you dare to scold people? Because has a curse connotation in the mantra, it can't be said briefly. But this short phrase is sometimes not carefully said, sometimes deliberately, but each time this sentence will cause a laugh in the whole family. Everyone knows the allusion contained in this laughter.
Lucky job experience, happy big family time.
Unfinished, to be continued.